Actress Danielle Pinnock opens up about caregiver burnout. From learning to schedule rest and say "no," to breaking generational patterns and normalizing therapy and medication, this messy, honest conversation is for anyone who's ever run themselves into the ground taking care of everyone but themselves. 

📩 Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com | And share your mess anonymously at SomethingMessy.com. 

Actress Danielle Pinnock opens up about caregiver burnout. From learning to schedule rest and say "no," to breaking generational patterns and normalizing therapy and medication, this messy, honest conversation is for anyone who's ever run themselves into the ground taking care of everyone but themselves.&nbsp;
📩 Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com | And share your mess anonymously at SomethingMessy.com.&nbsp;

Actress Danielle Pinnock opens up about caregiver burnout. From learning to schedule rest and say "no," to breaking generational patterns and normalizing therapy and medication, this messy, honest conversation is for anyone who's ever run themselves into the ground taking care of everyone but themselves. 

Caregiver Burnout, Aging Parents & Being Chosen to Break Generational Curses w/ "Ghosts" Star Danielle Pinnock

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The Villa is in shambles and Brandon has thoughts. This week, Brandon recap the messiest Love Island USA episode yet — who got dumped, why America's votes don't add up, and whether Sincere is really "changed. Then, PEN15 co-creator and The Sane One author Anna Konkle joins Brandon for a bonus hang that includes a Beyoncé story Brandon probably shouldn't be telling.

The Villa is in shambles and Brandon has thoughts. This week, Brandon recap the messiest Love Island USA episode yet &mdash; who got dumped, why America's votes don't add up, and whether Sincere is really "changed. Then, PEN15 co-creator and&nbsp;<a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/677456/the-sane-one-by-anna-konkle/">The Sane One</a> author Anna Konkle joins Brandon for a bonus hang that includes a Beyonc&eacute; story Brandon probably shouldn't be telling.

Brandon Kyle Goodman and PEN15's Anna Konkle break down the latest Love Island USA drama — from the karaoke dumping to Melanie and Sincere's toxic mess — before spilling into a hilarious, heartfelt bonus hang.

The 'Love Island" Toxic Loop  and America's Rigged Votes: A Love Island USA Recap PLUS Anna Konkle on Estrangement, Beyoncé, and Aging

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Anna Konkle (PEN15, Murderbot) pulls back the curtain on emotional incest — the covert, rarely-discussed wound of becoming your parent's confidant, spouse, and caretaker as a child. the family dynamics most people are too scared to name. Anna and Brandon get into her new book and unpack grief and forgiveness: how Anna cared for the father she'd been estranged from as he was dying, the letter that finally told him the truth, and the moment she told him "you did earth." Plus, they crack it all open with a chaotic '90s game of Homeroom, Study Hall, Detention (TLC's "Waterfalls" will never be the same).

Get your copy of The Sane One by Anna Konkle

🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!

📩 Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com | And share your mess anonymously at SomethingMessy.com. 

 

Anna Konkle (PEN15, Murderbot) pulls back the curtain on emotional incest &mdash; the covert, rarely-discussed wound of becoming your parent's confidant, spouse, and caretaker as a child. the family dynamics most people are too scared to name. Anna and Brandon <a href="https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Sane-One-Audiobook/B0FPZBQFF2?source_code=GO1PP30DTRIAL54703142491H0&amp;gclsrc=aw.ds&amp;ds_rl=1261256&amp;gad_source=1&amp;gad_campaignid=16881025087&amp;gclid=CjwKCAjwmJjSBhB-EiwAkZgxi0n4fzdBhvCKon0JWtBnDMoU_1sRkJdgmXNGT0wyWXYaTnc_PR3OMRoCVpYQAvD_BwE">get into her new book</a> and unpack grief and forgiveness: how Anna cared for the father she'd been estranged from as he was dying, the letter that finally told him the truth, and the moment she told him "you did earth." Plus, they crack it all open with a chaotic '90s game of Homeroom, Study Hall, Detention (TLC's "Waterfalls" will never be the same).
Get your copy of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Sane-One-Memoir-Co-creator-Pen15-ebook/dp/B0FL9ST5QS/?_encoding=UTF8&amp;pd_rd_w=0CamB&amp;content-id=amzn1.sym.f8e88413-4697-42ea-9bf7-b28eb886330d&amp;pf_rd_p=f8e88413-4697-42ea-9bf7-b28eb886330d&amp;pf_rd_r=141-3031875-4501236&amp;pd_rd_wg=Y2tdy&amp;pd_rd_r=04769f82-1203-4622-91a1-60ddb88696b4">The Sane One</a> by Anna Konkle
🏝️ Join us on <a href="youtube.com/brandonkgood">YouTube </a>for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!
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Emmy-nominated PEN15 creator Anna Konkle joins Brandon Kyle Goodman on Tell Me Something Messy for a raw conversation about going no-contact, emotional incest, estrangement, grief, and reclaiming autonomy from the parents who saw them as "theirs."

Going No-Contact, Emotional Incest & Becoming "The Sane One," w/ Emmy-nom Anna Konkle

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Brandon recaps Love Island's most chaotic week, drags KC, weighs in on Oprah and NeNe, and brings back Dr. Joshua Gonzalez for the real tea on penis filler!

🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!

📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

Brandon recaps Love Island's most chaotic week, drags KC, weighs in on Oprah and NeNe, and brings back Dr. Joshua Gonzalez for the real tea on penis filler!
🏝️ Join us on&nbsp;<a href="youtube.com/brandonkgood">YouTube </a>for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!
📩&nbsp;Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com.&nbsp;Substack:&nbsp;brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

Brandon recaps Love Island's most chaotic week, drags KC, weighs in on Oprah and NeNe, and brings back Dr. Joshua Gonzalez for the real tea on penis filler.

NeNe Leakes' Return, Oprah on Whitney and We're So Done with KC from Love Island! Plus: Dr. Josh on Penis Filler

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This is a very special Pride episode of Waking Up With Ryan, the new podcast from iHeartPodcast’s Outspoken Network, launching July 7th.

 

How you spend the first five minutes of your day determines how the rest of your day will go. Waking Up with Ryan is a daily audio/video podcast featuring short daily “moments of awakening” (10-12 minutes) that interrupt the inertia of fear, ego, and judgment — helping listeners connect with themselves before the noise of the day takes over.

These daily episodes blend wisdom, meditation, and practical insight to create a ritual that grounds and inspires. The show is both a daily guide and an ongoing exploration of what it really means to remember who we are.

Follow Ryan Weiss: Instagram

Special thanks to Emily Kopp for scoring this episode.

This is a very special Pride episode of <a href="https://nam04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=https%3A%2F%2Furldefense.com%2Fv3%2F__https%3A%2F%2Fwww.iheart.com%2Fpodcast%2F1119-waking-up-with-ryan-337533442__%3B!!F_iz1QV3Gc5jkBg!UzaSxyra5h0JBrdeUE9YacQfs-emy14u_OljBH9thO3nCFm2CWiYkKRNe0E81wtSrY5Y_AmIG0EqNgTahOqf1WPxA-F19V1yqePS9PDa%24&amp;data=05%7C02%7CJessicaKrainchich%40iheartmedia.com%7Cb38fe52c6af64c1103ec08ded7846993%7C122a527e5b714eba878d9810b495b9e3%7C0%7C0%7C639185160871490082%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJFbXB0eU1hcGkiOnRydWUsIlYiOiIwLjAuMDAwMCIsIlAiOiJXaW4zMiIsIkFOIjoiTWFpbCIsIldUIjoyfQ%3D%3D%7C0%7C%7C%7C&amp;sdata=DY3455%2F%2BrlnEiPZgKdTiTtsi6WxGT%2FM5YPRa2bGkjas%3D&amp;reserved=0">Waking Up With Ryan</a>, the new podcast from iHeartPodcast&rsquo;s Outspoken Network, launching July 7th.
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How you spend the first five minutes of your day determines how the rest of your day will go. Waking Up with Ryan is a daily audio/video podcast featuring short daily &ldquo;moments of awakening&rdquo; (10-12 minutes) that interrupt the inertia of fear, ego, and judgment &mdash; helping listeners connect with themselves before the noise of the day takes over.
These daily episodes blend wisdom, meditation, and practical insight to create a ritual that grounds and inspires. The show is both a daily guide and an ongoing exploration of what it really means to remember who we are.
Follow Ryan Weiss: <a href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&amp;source=web&amp;rct=j&amp;opi=89978449&amp;url=https://www.instagram.com/wakingupwithryan/%3Fhl%3Den&amp;ved=2ahUKEwiy4ruf1ayVAxX6vokEHbZlC6oQFnoECB8QAQ&amp;usg=AOvVaw1MxLG_xy1lBnIYTjvwN6Va">Instagram</a>
Special thanks to <a href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&amp;source=web&amp;rct=j&amp;opi=89978449&amp;url=https://open.spotify.com/artist/2Jt56In2wn0jQtNDXfYHYM&amp;ved=2ahUKEwiHlIzF1ayVAxUIw_ACHb2sGcQQFnoECB0QAQ&amp;usg=AOvVaw3BdMO9zy0pRq3BZ5qu8yNX">Emily Kopp</a> for scoring this episode.

Introducing Waking Up With Ryan: PROUD TO BE YOU

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Ever wondered how often you really need an STI test, whether PrEP is just "a gay thing," or what a pelvic floor even is? Brandon's best friend Devere Rogers is back, and they brought in urologist and sexual health expert Dr. Joshua Gonzalez to answer the questions most people are too embarrassed to ask.

🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!

📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

Ever wondered how often you really need an STI test, whether PrEP is just "a gay thing," or what a pelvic floor even is? Brandon's best friend Devere Rogers is back, and they brought in urologist and sexual health expert Dr. Joshua Gonzalez to answer the questions most people are too embarrassed to ask.
🏝️ Join us on <a href="youtube.com/brandonkgood">YouTube </a>for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!
📩&nbsp;Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com.&nbsp;Substack:&nbsp;brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

Urologist Dr. Joshua Gonzalez joins Brandon and Devere Rogers to answer the most-Googled sexual health questions — how often to get tested, what PrEP and DoxyPEP actually do, why STIs aren't "dirty," and what your pelvic floor has to do with all of it.

"You Can Get Filler Where?!": STIs, PrEP & Queer Sexual Health w/ Dr. Joshua Gonzalez & Devere Rogers

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In this Messy Bonus, Brandon breaks down the Love Island, chaos — Zach & Bryce's now-iconic "girth check," Melanie's "watch them" energy, Trinity's one-liners, and why the show desperately needs a gay. Then Justin Sylvester of The Yestergays pulls up for the extras: a Juneteenth Black sitcom showdown, two messy mails that turn into the commandments for threesomes, a gem about meeting Erika Alexander, and reflections on the father wound we had to "shave off."

Grab your kettle chips, get your kitty on the ground, and get into the mess.

🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!

📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

In this Messy Bonus, Brandon breaks down the Love Island, chaos &mdash; Zach &amp; Bryce's now-iconic "girth check," Melanie's "watch them" energy, Trinity's one-liners, and why the show desperately needs a gay. Then Justin Sylvester of The Yestergays pulls up for the extras: a Juneteenth Black sitcom showdown, two messy mails that turn into the commandments for threesomes, a gem about meeting Erika Alexander, and reflections on the father wound we had to "shave off."
Grab your kettle chips, get your kitty on the ground, and get into the mess.
🏝️ Join us on <a href="youtube.com/brandonkgood">YouTube </a>for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!
📩&nbsp;Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com.&nbsp;Substack:&nbsp;brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

BKG recaps Casa Amor chaos — Zach & Bryce's "girth check," Melanie's slow burn, Trinity's one-liners — then Justin Sylvester of The Yestergays joins for threesome rules, Erika Alexander tears, and the father wound we had to "shave off."

"Girth Check!": Casa Amor Chaos, Zryce Core, and Threesome Commandments with Justin Sylvester of Yestergays

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In this Pride Month x Juneteenth crossover of Tell Me Something Messy, Brandon Kyle Goodman sits down with Emmy-nominated TV personality Justin Sylvester of The Yestergays for a conversation that is hilarious, nostalgic, and deeply healing. They unpack the “Fairy Gayfather” effect: the gay mentors who introduce us to queer culture, chosen family, nightlife, language, safety, and self-permission. Brandon and Justin also get into why gossip can feel like protection, how Black sitcoms and movies shaped their imaginations, and still live rent-free in all our identities. Plus: the viral video of a gay teen standing up for himself. And in Messy Mail, they dig into queer second adolescence, PrEP, desire, and what happens when you finally feel wanted after years of feeling unseen.

Listen to Yestergays wherever you get your podcasts!

🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!

📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

In this Pride Month x Juneteenth crossover of Tell Me Something Messy, Brandon Kyle Goodman sits down with Emmy-nominated TV personality Justin Sylvester of&nbsp;The Yestergays for a conversation that is hilarious, nostalgic, and deeply healing. They unpack the &ldquo;Fairy Gayfather&rdquo; effect: the gay mentors who introduce us to queer culture, chosen family, nightlife, language, safety, and self-permission. Brandon and Justin also get into why gossip can feel like protection, how Black sitcoms and movies shaped their imaginations, and still live rent-free in all our identities. Plus: the viral video of a gay teen standing up for himself. And in Messy Mail, they dig into queer second adolescence, PrEP, desire, and what happens when you finally feel wanted after years of feeling unseen.
Listen to <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/yestergays-with-justin-sylvester-and-blakely-thornton/id1816248756">Yestergays</a> wherever you get your podcasts!
🏝️ Join us on <a href="youtube.com/brandonkgood">YouTube </a>for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!
📩&nbsp;Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com.&nbsp;Substack:&nbsp;brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

Brandon Kyle Goodman and Justin Sylvester celebrate Pride Month and Juneteenth with a hilarious, tender crossover about chosen family, gay mentors — aka Fairy Gayfathers — gossip as survival, Black sitcom nostalgia, growing up Black and gay in the South, and the messy beauty of queer second adolescence.

"Gay Men Are Like Vampires": Second Adolescence, Desirability Abroad and Juneteenth w/ Justin Sylvester

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The Joy of Queer Spaces

Love Island Recap: Melanie's Rise to Stardom

New York Pride and the World Cup

LA Mayoral Race: Nithia Ramen's Journey

Closing Thoughts and Call to Action

It's giving six hours of sleep, Red Bull, and regret. Brandon is BACK after two Pride weekends in a row, and honey, the stories. Also, Brandon shares their thesis on the difference between gay spaces and queer spaces, and what it feels like to show up fully in your non-binary body when the world wants you in a box. Then it's Love Island time. Then for our bonus, Brandon revisits their chat with LA mayoral candidate Nithya Raman who will be in the runoff election this year so we're sharing her story of the 2022 leaked tapes scandal, and how she clawed back to victory. 

🏃🏾 Catch HIGHKEY podcast!

🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!

📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

It's giving six hours of sleep, Red Bull, and regret. Brandon is BACK after two Pride weekends in a row, and honey, the stories. Also, Brandon shares their thesis on the difference between gay spaces and queer spaces, and what it feels like to show up fully in your non-binary body when the world wants you in a box. Then it's Love Island time. Then for our bonus, Brandon revisits their chat with LA mayoral candidate Nithya Raman who will be in the runoff election this year so we're sharing her story of the 2022 leaked tapes scandal, and how she clawed back to victory.&nbsp;
🏃🏾 Catch <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/highkey-with-yvie-oddly-and-ryan-mitchell/id1814378380">HIGHKEY podcast!</a>
🏝️ Join us on <a href="youtube.com/brandonkgood">YouTube </a>for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!
📩&nbsp;Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com.&nbsp;Substack:&nbsp;brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

Brandon survives back-to-back Pride weekends, witnesses an unspeakable dark room disaster, breaks down why queer parties hit different than gay ones, dishes Love Island predictions, and sits down with LA mayoral candidate Nithya Raman about the leaked tapes that nearly ended her career.

A Pride Weekend Oopsie, Love Island's Next Star, Why Queer Parties Hit Different & Los Angeles' Nithya Raman on the Leak That Changed Everything — Messy Bonus

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Happy Pride, Messy Mob!! Brandon is joined by Yvie Oddly and Ryan Mitchell for Part 1 of the messiest Messy x HIGHKEY crossover — and the range is truly unserious.

We’re talking bathhouse recon, Pride anxiety, jealous bottoms, dog-owner slander, and the complicated grief of loving our mothers from a distance. Plus: a listener asks whether Pride is really for everyone, and the group gets into what it means to find your people when the party, the trauma, and the healing are all happening at once.

🏃🏾 Catch Part 2 on the HIGHKEY podcast!

🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!

📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

Happy Pride, Messy Mob!! Brandon is joined by Yvie Oddly and Ryan Mitchell for Part 1 of the messiest Messy x HIGHKEY crossover &mdash; and the range is truly unserious.
We&rsquo;re talking bathhouse recon, Pride anxiety, jealous bottoms, dog-owner slander, and the complicated grief of loving our mothers from a distance. Plus: a listener asks whether Pride is really for everyone, and the group gets into what it means to find your people when the party, the trauma, and the healing are all happening at once.
🏃🏾 Catch Part 2 on the <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/highkey-with-yvie-oddly-and-ryan-mitchell/id1814378380">HIGHKEY podcast!</a>
🏝️ Join us on <a href="youtube.com/brandonkgood">YouTube </a>for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!
📩&nbsp;Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com.&nbsp;Substack:&nbsp;brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

In this HIGHKEY x Messy crossover, the gworls get into what Pride can feel like when you do — and don’t — feel like you fit in. Happy Pride!!

Dog Owners Are Narcissists, Bathhouse Confessions & Calling Our Moms—The Messiest Pride Crossover w/ RuPaul's Drag Race Winner Yvie Oddly and Ryan Mitchell

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Tell Me Something Messy is your unfiltered companion for relationships, adulting, and defeating shame! Each week, writer and comedian Brandon Kyle Goodman invites listeners (aka Messy Mob) to leave perfectionism at the door and wade into the wonderfully unhinged world of dating, personal growth, and getting comfortable with disappointing your mom! (Seriously, it’s okay!) With candid guests and plenty of messy giggles, BKG spills the kind of piping hot tea that compassionately emboldens listeners to say the quiet things out loud and embrace their messiest truths!

Don’t be shy baby, tell us something messy! SomethingMessy.com 

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Tell Me Something Messy is your unfiltered companion for relationships, adulting, and defeating shame! Each week, writer and comedian Brandon Kyle Goodman invites listeners (aka Messy Mob) to leave perfectionism at the door and wade into the wonderfully unhinged world of dating, personal growth, and getting comfortable with disappointing your mom! (Seriously, it&rsquo;s okay!) With candid guests and plenty of messy giggles, BKG spills the kind of piping hot tea that compassionately emboldens listeners to say the quiet things out loud and embrace their messiest truths!
Don&rsquo;t be shy baby, tell us something messy! <a href="http://somethingmessy.com/">SomethingMessy.com&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://bit.ly/messymomtv">WATCH HERE!</a>

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