In this Pride Month x Juneteenth crossover of Tell Me Something Messy, Brandon Kyle Goodman sits down with Emmy-nominated TV personality Justin Sylvester of The Yestergays for a conversation that is hilarious, nostalgic, and deeply healing. They unpack the “Fairy Gayfather” effect: the gay mentors who introduce us to queer culture, chosen family, nightlife, language, safety, and self-permission. Brandon and Justin also get into why gossip can feel like protection, how Black sitcoms and movies shaped their imaginations, and still live rent-free in all our identities. Plus: the viral video of a gay teen standing up for himself. And in Messy Mail, they dig into queer second adolescence, PrEP, desire, and what happens when you finally feel wanted after years of feeling unseen.

Listen to Yestergays wherever you get your podcasts!

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📩 Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

In this Pride Month x Juneteenth crossover of Tell Me Something Messy, Brandon Kyle Goodman sits down with Emmy-nominated TV personality Justin Sylvester of&nbsp;The Yestergays for a conversation that is hilarious, nostalgic, and deeply healing. They unpack the &ldquo;Fairy Gayfather&rdquo; effect: the gay mentors who introduce us to queer culture, chosen family, nightlife, language, safety, and self-permission. Brandon and Justin also get into why gossip can feel like protection, how Black sitcoms and movies shaped their imaginations, and still live rent-free in all our identities. Plus: the viral video of a gay teen standing up for himself. And in Messy Mail, they dig into queer second adolescence, PrEP, desire, and what happens when you finally feel wanted after years of feeling unseen.
Listen to <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/yestergays-with-justin-sylvester-and-blakely-thornton/id1816248756">Yestergays</a> wherever you get your podcasts!
🏝️ Join us on <a href="youtube.com/brandonkgood">YouTube </a>for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!
📩&nbsp;Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com.&nbsp;Substack:&nbsp;brandonkylegoodman.substack.com

Tell Me Something Messy is your unfiltered companion for relationships, adulting, and defeating shame! Each week, writer and comedian Brandon Kyle Goodman invites listeners (aka Messy Mob) to leave perfectionism at the door and wade into the wonderfully unhinged world of dating, personal growth, and getting comfortable with disappointing your mom! (Seriously, it’s okay!) With candid guests and plenty of messy giggles, BKG spills the kind of piping hot tea that compassionately emboldens listeners to say the quiet things out loud and embrace their messiest truths!

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Tell Me Something Messy is your unfiltered companion for relationships, adulting, and defeating shame! Each week, writer and comedian Brandon Kyle Goodman invites listeners (aka Messy Mob) to leave perfectionism at the door and wade into the wonderfully unhinged world of dating, personal growth, and getting comfortable with disappointing your mom! (Seriously, it&rsquo;s okay!) With candid guests and plenty of messy giggles, BKG spills the kind of piping hot tea that compassionately emboldens listeners to say the quiet things out loud and embrace their messiest truths!
Don&rsquo;t be shy baby, tell us something messy! <a href="http://somethingmessy.com/">SomethingMessy.com&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://bit.ly/messymomtv">WATCH HERE!</a>

Tell Me Something Messy with Brandon Kyle Goodman

Tell Me Something Messy: Relationships, Mental Health & Personal Growth

Brandon Kyle Goodman and Justin Sylvester celebrate Pride Month and Juneteenth with a hilarious, tender crossover about chosen family, gay mentors — aka Fairy Gayfathers — gossip as survival, Black sitcom nostalgia, growing up Black and gay in the South, and the messy beauty of queer second adolescence.

"Gay Men Are Like Vampires": Second Adolescence, Desirability Abroad and Juneteenth w/ Justin Sylvester

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/932315c8-905a-4581-94f7-b46d00a78566/transcript

Actress Danielle Pinnock opens up about caregiver burnout. From learning to schedule rest and say "no," to breaking generational patterns and normalizing therapy and medication, this messy, honest conversation is for anyone who's ever run themselves into the ground taking care of everyone but themselves. 

📩 Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com | And share your mess anonymously at SomethingMessy.com. 

Actress Danielle Pinnock opens up about caregiver burnout. From learning to schedule rest and say "no," to breaking generational patterns and normalizing therapy and medication, this messy, honest conversation is for anyone who's ever run themselves into the ground taking care of everyone but themselves.&nbsp;
📩 Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com | And share your mess anonymously at SomethingMessy.com.&nbsp;

Actress Danielle Pinnock opens up about caregiver burnout. From learning to schedule rest and say "no," to breaking generational patterns and normalizing therapy and medication, this messy, honest conversation is for anyone who's ever run themselves into the ground taking care of everyone but themselves. 

Caregiver Burnout, Aging Parents & Being Chosen to Break Generational Curses w/ "Ghosts" Star Danielle Pinnock

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/476894ad-21a3-4647-87bb-b481013dd8f4/transcript

The Villa is in shambles and Brandon has thoughts. This week, Brandon recap the messiest Love Island USA episode yet — who got dumped, why America's votes don't add up, and whether Sincere is really "changed. Then, PEN15 co-creator and The Sane One author Anna Konkle joins Brandon for a bonus hang that includes a Beyoncé story Brandon probably shouldn't be telling.

The Villa is in shambles and Brandon has thoughts. This week, Brandon recap the messiest Love Island USA episode yet &mdash; who got dumped, why America's votes don't add up, and whether Sincere is really "changed. Then, PEN15 co-creator and&nbsp;<a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/677456/the-sane-one-by-anna-konkle/">The Sane One</a> author Anna Konkle joins Brandon for a bonus hang that includes a Beyonc&eacute; story Brandon probably shouldn't be telling.

Brandon Kyle Goodman and PEN15's Anna Konkle break down the latest Love Island USA drama — from the karaoke dumping to Melanie and Sincere's toxic mess — before spilling into a hilarious, heartfelt bonus hang.

The 'Love Island" Toxic Loop  and America's Rigged Votes: A Love Island USA Recap PLUS Anna Konkle on Estrangement, Beyoncé, and Aging

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/6764a1e1-1f00-4ca8-b8f2-b47f01737f4b/transcript

Anna Konkle (PEN15, Murderbot) pulls back the curtain on emotional incest — the covert, rarely-discussed wound of becoming your parent's confidant, spouse, and caretaker as a child. the family dynamics most people are too scared to name. Anna and Brandon get into her new book and unpack grief and forgiveness: how Anna cared for the father she'd been estranged from as he was dying, the letter that finally told him the truth, and the moment she told him "you did earth." Plus, they crack it all open with a chaotic '90s game of Homeroom, Study Hall, Detention (TLC's "Waterfalls" will never be the same).

Get your copy of The Sane One by Anna Konkle

🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!

📩 Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com | And share your mess anonymously at SomethingMessy.com. 

 

Anna Konkle (PEN15, Murderbot) pulls back the curtain on emotional incest &mdash; the covert, rarely-discussed wound of becoming your parent's confidant, spouse, and caretaker as a child. the family dynamics most people are too scared to name. Anna and Brandon <a href="https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Sane-One-Audiobook/B0FPZBQFF2?source_code=GO1PP30DTRIAL54703142491H0&amp;gclsrc=aw.ds&amp;ds_rl=1261256&amp;gad_source=1&amp;gad_campaignid=16881025087&amp;gclid=CjwKCAjwmJjSBhB-EiwAkZgxi0n4fzdBhvCKon0JWtBnDMoU_1sRkJdgmXNGT0wyWXYaTnc_PR3OMRoCVpYQAvD_BwE">get into her new book</a> and unpack grief and forgiveness: how Anna cared for the father she'd been estranged from as he was dying, the letter that finally told him the truth, and the moment she told him "you did earth." Plus, they crack it all open with a chaotic '90s game of Homeroom, Study Hall, Detention (TLC's "Waterfalls" will never be the same).
Get your copy of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Sane-One-Memoir-Co-creator-Pen15-ebook/dp/B0FL9ST5QS/?_encoding=UTF8&amp;pd_rd_w=0CamB&amp;content-id=amzn1.sym.f8e88413-4697-42ea-9bf7-b28eb886330d&amp;pf_rd_p=f8e88413-4697-42ea-9bf7-b28eb886330d&amp;pf_rd_r=141-3031875-4501236&amp;pd_rd_wg=Y2tdy&amp;pd_rd_r=04769f82-1203-4622-91a1-60ddb88696b4">The Sane One</a> by Anna Konkle
🏝️ Join us on <a href="youtube.com/brandonkgood">YouTube </a>for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show!
📩 Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com | And share your mess anonymously at SomethingMessy.com.&nbsp;
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Emmy-nominated PEN15 creator Anna Konkle joins Brandon Kyle Goodman on Tell Me Something Messy for a raw conversation about going no-contact, emotional incest, estrangement, grief, and reclaiming autonomy from the parents who saw them as "theirs."

Going No-Contact, Emotional Incest & Becoming "The Sane One," w/ Emmy-nom Anna Konkle

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/a0cfbd4b-776a-4d22-b56d-b47b00fe677c/transcript

"Gay Men Are Like Vampires": Second Adolescence, Desirability Abroad and Juneteenth w/ Justin Sylvester

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