Two best friends sitting down with a different expert therapist every week to unpack the stuff most guys struggle with but don't say out loud. Dating. Relationships. Modern masculinity. Career and purpose. Family. Self-worth. 

We want to uncover what it looks like to be a strong, loving, successful, empathetic, and masculine man today. Because the current playbook is absolute trash (cc: manosphere).

And we're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time). 

Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod ✌️

Two best friends sitting down with a different expert therapist every week to unpack the stuff most guys struggle with but don't say out loud. Dating. Relationships. Modern masculinity. Career and purpose. Family. Self-worth.&nbsp;
We want to uncover what it looks like to be a strong, loving, successful, empathetic, and masculine man today. Because the current playbook is absolute trash (cc: manosphere).
And we're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time).&nbsp;
Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod ✌️

Free Therapy with Ben & Kevin

Introducing: Free Therapy with Ben & Kevin

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Intro

How to Dance Through Life

Trusting That It Will Work Out

Everyone Wants To Be Loved

What is Authenticity? 

You Are Not Alone In Your Experience

Sayings Ben Thinks are Bullshit

When times are hard, we look for wisdom to get us through those moments. Whether it's an author, a poet, or a world leader, there are lifetimes of experience we can look back on to find a little solace.

This week, no therapist, just Ben & Kevin sitting down to share the wisdom that feels like therapy to them. The quotes, the mantras, and the lines they come back to when everything feels like too much. They shared lines from Steve Jobs, Ram Dass, Brene Brown, Seneca, Young Pueblo & others as well.

If you've ever needed something to hold onto when things get hard, this one's for you. 

New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy. And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it's not. So if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

00:00:00 – Intro
00:06:29 – How to Dance Through Life 
00:09:00  – Trusting That It Will Work Out
00:13:00 – Everyone Wants To Be Loved 
00:22:30 –  What is authenticity

00:29:20 – Sayings Ben Thinks Are Bullshit

 

When times are hard, we look for wisdom to get us through those moments. Whether it's an author, a poet, or a world leader, there are lifetimes of experience we can look back on to find a little solace.
This week, no therapist, just Ben &amp; Kevin sitting down to share the wisdom that feels like therapy to them. The quotes, the mantras, and the lines they come back to when everything feels like too much. They shared lines from Steve Jobs, Ram Dass, Brene Brown, Seneca, Young Pueblo &amp; others as well.
If you've ever needed something to hold onto when things get hard, this one's for you.&nbsp;
New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy. And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it's not. So if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.
00:00:00 &ndash; Intro 00:06:29 &ndash; How to Dance Through Life&nbsp; 00:09:00&nbsp; &ndash; Trusting That It Will Work Out 00:13:00 &ndash; Everyone Wants To Be Loved&nbsp; 00:22:30 &ndash;&nbsp; What is authenticity
00:29:20 &ndash; Sayings Ben Thinks Are Bullshit
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The Wisdom That Feels Like Therapy #12

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Why You Can't Get Rid of Anxiety

Don't Believe Your Thoughts

Why We Ruminate

Avoidance and Overcoming Anxiety

The 2AM Spiral

This week is about anxiety and rumination, and why trying to get rid of your anxiety is exactly what keeps it going.

Kimberley Quinlan is an amazing therapist who specializes in anxiety and rumination. In this episode she gets into why a thought is not a fact, why avoidance quietly shrinks your entire life, and what she actually does at 3am when her brain won't turn off. It is not what you'd expect!!

We found out during this episode that we've been feeding our anxiety for years without realizing it. She pointed out all the little ways we treat anxious thoughts like they're important, and why attention control is the key to retraining your brain out of the spiral.

If you're the one lying awake at 2am running the same loop, this one is for you.

New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.

And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it's not. So if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

00:00:00 – Intro
00:02:24 – Why You Can't Get Rid of Anxiety
00:09:32 – A Thought Is Not a Fact
00:15:10 – Why We Ruminate
00:22:12 – Avoidance and Doing It Scared
00:24:55 – The 2AM Spiral 

This week is about anxiety and rumination, and why trying to get rid of your anxiety is exactly what keeps it going.
Kimberley Quinlan is an amazing therapist who specializes in anxiety and rumination. In this episode she gets into why a thought is not a fact, why avoidance quietly shrinks your entire life, and what she actually does at 3am when her brain won't turn off. It is not what you'd expect!!
We found out during this episode that we've been feeding our anxiety for years without realizing it. She pointed out all the little ways we treat anxious thoughts like they're important, and why attention control is the key to retraining your brain out of the spiral.
If you're the one lying awake at 2am running the same loop, this one is for you.
New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.
And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it's not. So if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help. 00:00:00 &ndash; Intro 00:02:24 &ndash; Why You Can't Get Rid of Anxiety 00:09:32 &ndash; A Thought Is Not a Fact 00:15:10 &ndash; Why We Ruminate 00:22:12 &ndash; Avoidance and Doing It Scared 00:24:55 &ndash; The 2AM Spiral&nbsp;

How to Manage Anxiety and Ruminate Less #11

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Why you're not broken

Why expressing needs feels impossible

People-pleasing caught in real time

How to have hard conversations

Signs you're people-pleasing, and the cost

Our guest this week is my former therapist, Koorosh Rassekh! We talk about where people-pleasing actually comes from, why it isn't a flaw you need to fix but something that once kept you safe, and the techniques that actually make hard conversations easier.

For most of my life I thought keeping the peace made me a better friend, partner, and person. I'd suppress my needs, avoid the conversations I was dreading, and tell myself I was just being easygoing. But it actually just built quiet resentment and slowly ruined my relationships.

If you say yes when you mean no, or you've been sitting on a conversation for months because you're afraid of how it'll land, this one's for you.

– Kevin

New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.

And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

0:00  Intro: people-pleasing and conflict avoidance
6:59  Why you're not broken
9:47  Why expressing needs feels impossible
13:16 People-pleasing caught in real time
24:58 How to have hard conversations
41:08 Signs you're people-pleasing, and the cost

Our guest this week is my former therapist, Koorosh Rassekh! We talk about where people-pleasing actually comes from, why it isn't a flaw you need to fix but something that once kept you safe, and the techniques that actually make hard conversations easier.
For most of my life I thought keeping the peace made me a better friend, partner, and person. I'd suppress my needs, avoid the conversations I was dreading, and tell myself I was just being easygoing. But it actually just built quiet resentment and slowly ruined my relationships.
If you say yes when you mean no, or you've been sitting on a conversation for months because you're afraid of how it'll land, this one's for you.
&ndash; Kevin
New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.
And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it&rsquo;s not. So if you&rsquo;re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help. 0:00 &nbsp;Intro: people-pleasing and conflict avoidance 6:59 &nbsp;Why you're not broken 9:47 &nbsp;Why expressing needs feels impossible 13:16 People-pleasing caught in real time 24:58 How to have hard conversations 41:08 Signs you're people-pleasing, and the cost

Let’s Stop People-Pleasing and Start Having Hard Conversations #10

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