Two best friends sitting down with different therapists and experts every week to talk through the stuff everyone struggles with but nobody says out loud. Anxiety. Dating. Relationships. Career. Family Dynamics. Grief. The list goes on.

We're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time). 

Because therapy’s expensive, but thankfully podcasts aren’t ;)

Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod

Two best friends sitting down with different therapists and experts every week to talk through the stuff everyone struggles with but nobody says out loud. Anxiety. Dating. Relationships. Career. Family Dynamics. Grief. The list goes on.
We're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time).&nbsp;
Because therapy&rsquo;s expensive, but thankfully podcasts aren&rsquo;t ;)
Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod

Free Therapy with Ben & Kevin

Introducing: Free Therapy with Ben & Kevin

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Sleeping With Your Ex

Scared to Change Careers

Losing Yourself While Dating

Paying on Dates

Being More Present

This week is our first ever Therapy in Session, where guys sent us anonymous messages about what they’re struggling with and a therapist answered them.

Seth Menachem is back, a therapist here in LA who runs the Menachem Psychotherapy Group. 

The questions covered getting back with an ex, starting over in a new career, losing yourself the second you start dating, and who should be paying on dates. Across all five, it became clear that when it comes down to it, we’re all going through a lot of the same struggles, and nobody is as alone in them as they think. 

Got something you’re struggling with? Send us an anonymous voice note at freetherapypod.com/questions and you might hear it answered on the next Therapy in Session.

New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.

And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

00:00:00 – Intro
00:02:04 – In Bed With an Ex
00:09:25 – Scared to Start Over
00:19:34 – Losing Yourself When Dating
00:24:12 – Who Pays on Dates
00:37:05 – Being More Present
00:42:04 – Career Uncertainty

This week is our first ever Therapy in Session, where guys sent us anonymous messages about what they&rsquo;re struggling with and a therapist answered them.
Seth Menachem is back, a therapist here in LA who runs the Menachem Psychotherapy Group.&nbsp;
The questions covered getting back with an ex, starting over in a new career, losing yourself the second you start dating, and who should be paying on dates.&nbsp;Across all five, it became clear that when it comes down to it, we&rsquo;re all going through a lot of the same struggles, and nobody is as alone in them as they think.&nbsp;
Got something you&rsquo;re struggling with? Send us an anonymous voice note at freetherapypod.com/questions and you might hear it answered on the next Therapy in Session.
New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.
And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it&rsquo;s not. So if you&rsquo;re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.
00:00:00 &ndash; Intro 00:02:04 &ndash; In Bed With an Ex 00:09:25 &ndash; Scared to Start Over 00:19:34 &ndash; Losing Yourself When Dating 00:24:12 &ndash; Who Pays on Dates 00:37:05 &ndash; Being More Present 00:42:04 &ndash; Career Uncertainty

A therapist answers your questions on dating, self-doubt & feeling stuck #27

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intro to shadow work tools

shadow work starts with self-acceptance

hidden shame can drive behavior

your triggers reveal your shadow

others’ expectations can shape your life

shadow work supports taking risks

Kristan Sargeant joins us to explore shadow work, the parts of ourselves we’ve learned to hide, and how they can keep us from going after what we want.

You want to speak up, set a boundary, ask someone out or take a chance on something you care about. But then you imagine how it could go wrong, and talk yourself out of it. A coach who studied under Phil Stutz, Kristan explains how she works with the shame and fear of rejection underneath those moments.

We get into why understanding your patterns doesn’t automatically change them, how needing everyone’s approval can quietly run your life, and what it means to stay on your own side even when things don’t go your way. She also shares practical exercises for getting to know your shadow and comparing what you’re afraid will happen with what actually happens when you take a risk.

If you’ve ever known what you wanted to do and still couldn’t bring yourself to do it, this one is for you.

00:00 intro to shadow work tools
03:41 shadow work starts with self-acceptance
10:08 hidden shame can drive behavior
20:08 your triggers reveal your shadow
26:29 others’ expectations can shape your life
36:37 shadow work supports taking risks

Kristan Sargeant joins us to explore shadow work, the parts of ourselves we&rsquo;ve learned to hide, and how they can keep us from going after what we want.
You want to speak up, set a boundary, ask someone out or take a chance on something you care about. But then you imagine how it could go wrong, and talk yourself out of it. A coach who studied under Phil Stutz, Kristan explains how she works with the shame and fear of rejection underneath those moments.
We get into why understanding your patterns doesn&rsquo;t automatically change them, how needing everyone&rsquo;s approval can quietly run your life, and what it means to stay on your own side even when things don&rsquo;t go your way. She also shares practical exercises for getting to know your shadow and comparing what you&rsquo;re afraid will happen with what actually happens when you take a risk.
If you&rsquo;ve ever known what you wanted to do and still couldn&rsquo;t bring yourself to do it, this one is for you. 00:00 intro to shadow work tools 03:41 shadow work starts with self-acceptance 10:08 hidden shame can drive behavior 20:08 your triggers reveal your shadow 26:29 others&rsquo; expectations can shape your life 36:37 shadow work supports taking risks

Overcome your fears and insecurities with shadow work #26

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Why therapy is failing men

Coaching vs Therapy

Women aren't better at relationships

The REAL framework

This week is about what men really need to open up in a relationship, and why asking him to talk about his feelings might be the thing that makes him shut down.

Kristina Ferrari is a licensed professional counselor with a master’s in mental health counseling, and she’s been in therapy herself for over 15 years.

She makes the case that modern therapy is failing men because it’s built around a style that favors talking things through, while most guys show up wanting to solve something and move forward.

As a therapist who does a lot of relationship work, she also challenges the idea that women are better at relationships, including how women communicate when they’re upset. Then she walks us through her REAL framework for working with men: Respect, Expertise, Action, and Leadership. It’s a roadmap for understanding what helps a man feel safe enough to get to the deeper stuff.

If you’ve ever said “just tell me what’s going on” and gotten nothing back, this one is for you.

New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.
And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

00:00:00 – Intro
00:01:42 – Why Therapy Is Failing Men
00:05:03 – Coaching vs. Therapy
00:17:18 – Women Aren’t Better at Relationships
00:22:41 – The REAL Framework

This week is about what men really need to open up in a relationship, and why asking him to talk about his feelings might be the thing that makes him shut down.
Kristina Ferrari is a licensed professional counselor with a master&rsquo;s in mental health counseling, and she&rsquo;s been in therapy herself for over 15 years.
She makes the case that modern therapy is failing men because it&rsquo;s built around a style that favors talking things through, while most guys show up wanting to solve something and move forward.
As a therapist who does a lot of relationship work, she also challenges the idea that women are better at relationships, including how women communicate when they&rsquo;re upset. Then she walks us through her REAL framework for working with men: Respect, Expertise, Action, and Leadership. It&rsquo;s a roadmap for understanding what helps a man feel safe enough to get to the deeper stuff.
If you&rsquo;ve ever said &ldquo;just tell me what&rsquo;s going on&rdquo; and gotten nothing back, this one is for you.
New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy. And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it&rsquo;s not. So if you&rsquo;re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.
00:00:00 &ndash; Intro 00:01:42 &ndash; Why Therapy Is Failing Men 00:05:03 &ndash; Coaching vs. Therapy 00:17:18 &ndash; Women Aren&rsquo;t Better at Relationships 00:22:41 &ndash; The REAL Framework

Why men shut down and how to get them to open up #25

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