Your child doesn't need better social skills. They need more chances to use them.

University of Chicago behavioural scientist Professor Nicholas Epley explains why we're wired for connection but keep avoiding it. His research reveals one surprising mistake almost all of us make and how parents can help children build stronger friendships by changing one simple habit.

This conversation will make you think differently about strangers, screens and the small moments that shape confident, connected kids.

KEY POINTS
Why we consistently underestimate how much people want to connect with us.
The surprising experiment that changed Nicholas Epley's research career.
What today's children are missing, despite being more digitally connected than ever.
How parents accidentally teach children to avoid social interaction.
One simple way to help children become more confident in social situations.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

"If you're a parent who never reaches out to others, your kids won't either. If you do, they will."

RESOURCES MENTIONED
A Little More Social by Professor Nicholas Epley

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Start one conversation with someone you don't know this week. Let your child see it happen.
Choose face-to-face conversations over messages whenever you can.
Create regular opportunities for your children to spend time with other people without a screen between them.
Talk with your children about how connection often feels awkward before it feels rewarding.

Your child doesn't need better social skills. They need more chances to use them.
University of Chicago behavioural scientist Professor Nicholas Epley explains why we're wired for connection but keep avoiding it. His research reveals one surprising mistake almost all of us make and how parents can help children build stronger friendships by changing one simple habit.
This conversation will make you think differently about strangers, screens and the small moments that shape confident, connected kids.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why we consistently underestimate how much people want to connect with us.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The surprising experiment that changed Nicholas Epley's research career.</li>
<li aria-level="1">What today's children are missing, despite being more digitally connected than ever.</li>
<li aria-level="1">How parents accidentally teach children to avoid social interaction.</li>
<li aria-level="1">One simple way to help children become more confident in social situations.</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
"If you're a parent who never reaches out to others, your kids won't either. If you do, they will."
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://sites.prh.com/a-little-more-social">A Little More Social</a> by Professor Nicholas Epley</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Start one conversation with someone you don't know this week. Let your child see it happen.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Choose face-to-face conversations over messages whenever you can.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Create regular opportunities for your children to spend time with other people without a screen between them.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Talk with your children about how connection often feels awkward before it feels rewarding.</li>
</ul>

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Deciding which parenting advice to follow?&nbsp;Join the thousands of mums and dads who turn to Australia&rsquo;s most downloaded parenting podcast.
Dr Justin Coulson and his wife Kylie bring real parenting solutions every day, cutting through the noise of modern advice with clear, practical guidance for every step of parenting.
From early childhood challenges to the complexities of the teenage years, each daily episode offers simple, evidence-based strategies to help you feel more confident in your decisions and more connected to your kids.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

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The Missing Ingredient in Childhood Friendships [with Prof. Nicholas Epley]

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/0fd75288-044b-497e-9dca-b48f00223efb/transcript

What happens when your child knows they did the wrong thing but immediately reaches for an excuse?

The Lachie Neale tribunal story gives parents a surprisingly useful way into a bigger conversation about responsibility, consequences and healthy masculinity. Justin and Kylie unpack what happens when kids blame others, deny what happened or expect an exception because the circumstances feel unfair.

They also explore the difference between standing up for someone and getting even, why anger can lead to poor choices, and how parents can support their kids through consequences without rescuing them from the discomfort.

KEY POINTS
Helping kids move from blame, excuse and denial to ownership, accountability and responsibility
Why rules need to apply even when someone is talented, popular or important
The difference between loyalty and retaliation
Why parents often want to rescue kids from consequences
How to support your child without taking responsibility for their choices
What healthy masculinity looks like when things go wrong
Why the way someone responds after a mistake tells us a lot about them

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
“I'm not here to rescue you. I care, but I can't carry you.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
The OAR framework: Ownership, Accountability and Responsibility

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Ask your kids:
What would you do if you saw a friend getting shoved?
Should the best player get different rules?
What's the difference between sticking up for someone and getting even?

When your child makes a mistake, resist the urge to fix the consequence. Help them own what happened, understand the impact and work out what they can do differently next time.

What happens when your child knows they did the wrong thing but immediately reaches for an excuse?
The Lachie Neale tribunal story gives parents a surprisingly useful way into a bigger conversation about responsibility, consequences and healthy masculinity. Justin and Kylie unpack what happens when kids blame others, deny what happened or expect an exception because the circumstances feel unfair.
They also explore the difference between standing up for someone and getting even, why anger can lead to poor choices, and how parents can support their kids through consequences without rescuing them from the discomfort.
KEY POINTS
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>Helping kids move from blame, excuse and denial to ownership, accountability and responsibility</li>
<li>Why rules need to apply even when someone is talented, popular or important</li>
<li>The difference between loyalty and retaliation</li>
<li>Why parents often want to rescue kids from consequences</li>
<li>How to support your child without taking responsibility for their choices</li>
<li>What healthy masculinity looks like when things go wrong</li>
<li>Why the way someone responds after a mistake tells us a lot about them</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE &ldquo;I'm not here to rescue you. I care, but I can't carry you.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>The OAR framework: Ownership, Accountability and Responsibility</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Ask your kids:
<ol data-spread="false">
<li>What would you do if you saw a friend getting shoved?</li>
<li>Should the best player get different rules?</li>
<li>What's the difference between sticking up for someone and getting even?</li>
</ol>
When your child makes a mistake, resist the urge to fix the consequence. Help them own what happened, understand the impact and work out what they can do differently next time.

Lessons From Lion's Star Lachie Neale

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/8d36afb3-df51-4d37-81a5-b4c600221461/transcript

Friendship drama is one of the biggest sources of stress for kids — and heartbreak for parents. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the six powerful habits that create strong, lasting friendships and explain how parents can help children build healthier relationships from the very beginning.

From loyalty and inclusion to emotional support and trust, these simple but profound friendship skills can shape your child’s confidence, wellbeing, and sense of belonging for years to come.

If your child is struggling socially, feeling left out, or constantly caught in friendship ups and downs, this conversation will help you guide them with clarity and compassion.

KEY POINTS:
The six friendship habits linked to stronger relationships
Why loyalty matters more than popularity
How gossip quietly destroys trust
The difference between emotional support and “fixing”
Why belonging at school impacts lifelong wellbeing
How small acts of kindness deepen friendships
What parents can teach kids about inclusion and empathy

SIX ELEMENTS TO MAKE FRIENDSHIPS FLOURISH:
Standing up for a friend in their absence
Sharing important news
Providing emotional support
Trusting and confiding in each other
Volunteering help when required
Making an effort to make the other person happy

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“Kids who understand that friendships require active care are far better equipped to keep them.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Research by Michael Argyle and Monika Henderson on friendship 
Dr Kelly-Ann Allen’s work on school belonging

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
Talk with your child about what loyalty looks like in friendship
Encourage them to include others and notice who gets left out
Teach them to pause before sharing hurtful information
Model emotional support by listening without trying to fix everything
Help them look for small ways to encourage and serve friends
Remind them that good friendships need effort, kindness, and consistency

Friendship drama is one of the biggest sources of stress for kids &mdash; and heartbreak for parents. In this episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the six powerful habits that create strong, lasting friendships and explain how parents can help children build healthier relationships from the very beginning.
From loyalty and inclusion to emotional support and trust, these simple but profound friendship skills can shape your child&rsquo;s confidence, wellbeing, and sense of belonging for years to come.
If your child is struggling socially, feeling left out, or constantly caught in friendship ups and downs, this conversation will help you guide them with clarity and compassion.
KEY POINTS:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The six friendship habits linked to stronger relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why loyalty matters more than popularity</li>
<li aria-level="1">How gossip quietly destroys trust</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between emotional support and &ldquo;fixing&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why belonging at school impacts lifelong wellbeing</li>
<li aria-level="1">How small acts of kindness deepen friendships</li>
<li aria-level="1">What parents can teach kids about inclusion and empathy</li>
</ul>
SIX ELEMENTS TO MAKE FRIENDSHIPS FLOURISH:
<ul>
<li>Standing up for a friend in their absence</li>
<li>Sharing important news</li>
<li>Providing emotional support</li>
<li>Trusting and confiding in each other</li>
<li>Volunteering help when required</li>
<li>Making an effort to make the other person happy</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: &ldquo;Kids who understand that friendships require active care are far better equipped to keep them.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0265407584012005">Research by Michael Argyle and Monika Henderson on friendship&nbsp;</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.drkellyallen.com/">Dr Kelly-Ann Allen</a>&rsquo;s work on school belonging</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Talk with your child about what loyalty looks like in friendship</li>
<li aria-level="1">Encourage them to include others and notice who gets left out</li>
<li aria-level="1">Teach them to pause before sharing hurtful information</li>
<li aria-level="1">Model emotional support by listening without trying to fix everything</li>
<li aria-level="1">Help them look for small ways to encourage and serve friends</li>
<li aria-level="1">Remind them that good friendships need effort, kindness, and consistency</li>
</ul>

Teaching Kids About Friendship

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/ea82b6b3-d612-4e30-b4de-b4c60021e48a/transcript

Your child’s behaviour problems might start with the way they breathe.

Dentist Dr Jason Leung joins Justin to explain why mouth breathing can affect sleep, concentration, emotional regulation and behaviour, and why some of the signs can look remarkably similar to ADHD.

They unpack the clues parents often miss, including snoring, teeth grinding, waking tired and breathing through an open mouth. Jason also explains why jumping straight to mouth taping, expanders or other devices may not fix the underlying problem, and what parents should check first.

KEY POINTS
How mouth breathing can interfere with quality sleep
Why poor sleep can show up as hyperactivity, poor concentration, grumpiness and meltdowns
The possible connection between sleep-disordered breathing and ADHD-like behaviour
Signs to watch for, including snoring and teeth grinding
Why children need to be able to breathe freely through their nose before trying to change their breathing habits
The role of the tongue, lips and diaphragm in healthy breathing
Why mouth tape and airway devices aren't always the answer
When Jason recommends having a child’s breathing and oral function assessed

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“If you don't have good sleep, what happens for a child? They're not concentrating. They're hyperactive. They're waking up tired.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Dr Jason Leung, Oral Myology Perth
Breath by James Nestor

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Notice how your child breathes when they’re relaxed and asleep.
Look for regular mouth breathing, snoring or teeth grinding.
Pay attention to whether they wake tired, grumpy or poorly regulated despite getting enough hours in bed.
Don’t use mouth tape if your child cannot comfortably breathe through their nose.
If you’re concerned, seek professional assessment of their airway, breathing and oral function.

Your child&rsquo;s behaviour problems might start with the way they breathe.
Dentist Dr Jason Leung joins Justin to explain why mouth breathing can affect sleep, concentration, emotional regulation and behaviour, and why some of the signs can look remarkably similar to ADHD.
They unpack the clues parents often miss, including snoring, teeth grinding, waking tired and breathing through an open mouth. Jason also explains why jumping straight to mouth taping, expanders or other devices may not fix the underlying problem, and what parents should check first.
KEY POINTS
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>How mouth breathing can interfere with quality sleep</li>
<li>Why poor sleep can show up as hyperactivity, poor concentration, grumpiness and meltdowns</li>
<li>The possible connection between sleep-disordered breathing and ADHD-like behaviour</li>
<li>Signs to watch for, including snoring and teeth grinding</li>
<li>Why children need to be able to breathe freely through their nose before trying to change their breathing habits</li>
<li>The role of the tongue, lips and diaphragm in healthy breathing</li>
<li>Why mouth tape and airway devices aren't always the answer</li>
<li>When Jason recommends having a child&rsquo;s breathing and oral function assessed</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;If you don't have good sleep, what happens for a child? They're not concentrating. They're hyperactive. They're waking up tired.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>Dr Jason Leung, Oral Myology Perth</li>
<li>Breath by James Nestor</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>Notice how your child breathes when they&rsquo;re relaxed and asleep.</li>
<li>Look for regular mouth breathing, snoring or teeth grinding.</li>
<li>Pay attention to whether they wake tired, grumpy or poorly regulated despite getting enough hours in bed.</li>
<li>Don&rsquo;t use mouth tape if your child cannot comfortably breathe through their nose.</li>
<li>If you&rsquo;re concerned, seek professional assessment of their airway, breathing and oral function.</li>
</ul>

The Hidden Breathing Problem That Can Look Like ADHD

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/8770ac34-cb46-48f0-89c9-b4c60021b179/transcript

The Missing Ingredient in Childhood Friendships [with Prof. Nicholas Epley]

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