Bedtime Battles With Older Kids and How to Make Nights Easier [a Listener Q&A]

 

Bedtime shouldn't end in arguments every night. Justin and Kylie share practical ways to help older kids wind down, stick to routines and take more responsibility for getting enough sleep. From screen time and dimming the lights to giving teens more control over bedtime, discover how to make evenings calmer and mornings less stressful.

KEY POINTS

  • Use the Three E's approach: Explore, Explain and Empower to work through bedtime struggles together.

  • Set consistent evening routines for dinner, showers, homework and getting ready for bed.

  • Reduce screen time in bedrooms and use dim lighting or music to help everyone wind down.

  • Slow the evening down with family time and a shared tidy-up.

  • Give older kids more independence by focusing on getting up on time and managing the consequences of late nights.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“You go to bed when you go to bed. So long as we don't have any problems in the morning, we're all good.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Happy Families: happyfamilies.com.au

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS

  1. Set aside time this weekend to talk with your kids about what's making bedtime difficult.

  2. Agree on a realistic evening routine that everyone understands.

  3. Check whether screens are keeping your kids awake or making it harder to wind down.

  4. Try dimming the lights and slowing down the pace of the evening.

  5. Give older kids more say in their bedtime while setting clear expectations for getting up in the morning.

 

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