Well, well, well, look with the cat jacked in, I wish the cat jacked in. I miss my cat. I oh no, I haven't seen her in a minute. I remember the time we were recording and she showed up, showed up for anyone listening.

Well, well, well, look with the cat jacked in, I wish the cat jacked in. I miss my cat. I oh no, I haven't seen her in a minute. I remember the time we were recording and she showed up, showed up for anyone listening.

First of all, Happy Friday.

First of all, Happy Friday.

Second of all, there is a rogue cat in my neighborhood that I'm obsessed with, and I talk about it a lot on the podcast.

Second of all, there is a rogue cat in my neighborhood that I'm obsessed with, and I talk about it a lot on the podcast.

I used to hate cats.

I used to hate cats.

I cannot believe I'm this girl now, but I love this cat so much.

I cannot believe I'm this girl now, but I love this cat so much.

You should maybe put like cat nip out in your yard or something. If you're going to attract her. Maybe she'll go, and then you might end up like literally a neighborhood cat lady where you've got like.

You should maybe put like cat nip out in your yard or something. If you're going to attract her. Maybe she'll go, and then you might end up like literally a neighborhood cat lady where you've got like.

I don't want the other ones. I just want this one. That's what someone told me, go get a cat, and I'm like, but I don't want every cat. I just want this cat.

I don't want the other ones. I just want this one. That's what someone told me, go get a cat, and I'm like, but I don't want every cat. I just want this cat.

Maybe you should buy some cat nip so that the next time she's there you can feed her some.

Maybe you should buy some cat nip so that the next time she's there you can feed her some.

Oh and she gets used to the tabe so well.

Oh and she gets used to the tabe so well.

I mean she gets used to you giving it to her. Social right.

I mean she gets used to you giving it to her. Social right.

I see what you did.

I see what you did.

There, because apparently nip is like crack for cat. I don't even know great.

There, because apparently nip is like crack for cat. I don't even know great.

I don't want to getting addicted to me. I think she got kind of like adopted by someone else in the neighborhood, because that's what she was trying to get adopted by me. But I knew who she was, so I couldn't take her. So anyway, we missed you last week.

I don't want to getting addicted to me. I think she got kind of like adopted by someone else in the neighborhood, because that's what she was trying to get adopted by me. But I knew who she was, so I couldn't take her. So anyway, we missed you last week.

Chip. You were not on the podcast with us.

Chip. You were not on the podcast with us.

You were busy.

You were busy.

I was busy. Well, didn't you have a double episode?

I was busy. Well, didn't you have a double episode?

I did have a double episode, but you were also traveling. I love that you tried to paint that on put that on me.

I did have a double episode, but you were also traveling. I love that you tried to paint that on put that on me.

Okay, well it worked to my advantage.

Okay, well it worked to my advantage.

It did.

It did.

I did have a really I had a long recording session with this I always want to just call him the sex master, but he is a coach and wellness wellness coach, but it's all about how to master your sexuality and specifically with men. It's a really great His name is Jackson high Tower. The company is Natural Jackson. If you haven't listened to that podcast, he did a full podcast. We talked about erectile dysfunction, especially in young men. Did you know that like the percentage for twenty somethings of men having erectile dysfunction issues is skyrocketing.

I did have a really I had a long recording session with this I always want to just call him the sex master, but he is a coach and wellness wellness coach, but it's all about how to master your sexuality and specifically with men. It's a really great His name is Jackson high Tower. The company is Natural Jackson. If you haven't listened to that podcast, he did a full podcast. We talked about erectile dysfunction, especially in young men. Did you know that like the percentage for twenty somethings of men having erectile dysfunction issues is skyrocketing.

I cannot remember, right, I remember saying it because of orn.

I cannot remember, right, I remember saying it because of orn.

Yeah, I saw that. I haven't had a chance to listen, but.

Yeah, I saw that. I haven't had a chance to listen, but.

It makes total sense to me. Yeah.

It makes total sense to me. Yeah.

Well, and then there's also I don't know if this is something that I saw on his page or if it was part of the interview, but also like taking ed drugs recreationally, and then also sort of calls it because mentally you start to think, well, I can't get hard without it, you know, so it's sort of like a self fulfilling prophecy.

Well, and then there's also I don't know if this is something that I saw on his page or if it was part of the interview, but also like taking ed drugs recreationally, and then also sort of calls it because mentally you start to think, well, I can't get hard without it, you know, so it's sort of like a self fulfilling prophecy.

Right, that makes total sense? Deead, Yeah, well there's a lot you can do. We talked about that in the podcast. We talked about the effects of porn on your brain. I just think it's interesting.

Right, that makes total sense? Deead, Yeah, well there's a lot you can do. We talked about that in the podcast. We talked about the effects of porn on your brain. I just think it's interesting.

You know.

You know.

I'm such a person that likes to understand the whyse we always talk about this. You and I are both really curious people, so I want to understand when people say don't watch porn, well, why, like, what is it doing? Why is it hurting our relationships? I mean I had my own thoughts on that, but obviously it was really interesting to hear the science behind that, and then we did also talk about some different ways if you're in a relationship you find yourself in a rut, or if you're wanting to really kind of expand your sexual life in general or your sexual relationships, even the way you're having sex, if you want to have it in a more connected way, you want to just learn how.

I'm such a person that likes to understand the whyse we always talk about this. You and I are both really curious people, so I want to understand when people say don't watch porn, well, why, like, what is it doing? Why is it hurting our relationships? I mean I had my own thoughts on that, but obviously it was really interesting to hear the science behind that, and then we did also talk about some different ways if you're in a relationship you find yourself in a rut, or if you're wanting to really kind of expand your sexual life in general or your sexual relationships, even the way you're having sex, if you want to have it in a more connected way, you want to just learn how.

To have sex.

To have sex.

Like we've never even done that really, most of us, you know, other than watching porn. And so he and I talked a little bit about what that can look like, and he gave some resources and stuff. I thought it was a great conversation to go check that one out. And then he answered listener questions on Friday.

Like we've never even done that really, most of us, you know, other than watching porn. And so he and I talked a little bit about what that can look like, and he gave some resources and stuff. I thought it was a great conversation to go check that one out. And then he answered listener questions on Friday.

How did he become in the What he like is did he go to school for this? Like? What is it?

How did he become in the What he like is did he go to school for this? Like? What is it?

Well, he went to Yale first of all. Okay, so how was the casual? Yeah, he's definitely smart. I you know, it's always like so funny when someone's like talking about where you're from or whatever. And this is not to knock on law school. I want to LSU so, but it's a little different than you. I have a degree in partying for sure, but it's not like LS. She's easy either. It's a major university, you know. It was there was a good education, but it's definitely not Yale or respected in the same way as Yl. So we were having that conversation, he casually dropped and he went to Yale, and I was like, oh, okay, but anyway, he went to Yale for something totally different. And then I think it was like a process of going to different coaches and healers of his own, like studies of his own, because of his own dysfunction in this area. And that was really the catalyst, was, you know, his own starting his own journey over. I think it was fifteen years ago, he said. And so he started training with like a Tontrica and all these different people, and he started a supplement line. Four men were like, ed, there's also an oil. I need to actually post that on my Instagram for you guys, because he gave us a discount code. Apparently I was using the wrong kind of coconut oil. Bad for your badge.

Well, he went to Yale first of all. Okay, so how was the casual? Yeah, he's definitely smart. I you know, it's always like so funny when someone's like talking about where you're from or whatever. And this is not to knock on law school. I want to LSU so, but it's a little different than you. I have a degree in partying for sure, but it's not like LS. She's easy either. It's a major university, you know. It was there was a good education, but it's definitely not Yale or respected in the same way as Yl. So we were having that conversation, he casually dropped and he went to Yale, and I was like, oh, okay, but anyway, he went to Yale for something totally different. And then I think it was like a process of going to different coaches and healers of his own, like studies of his own, because of his own dysfunction in this area. And that was really the catalyst, was, you know, his own starting his own journey over. I think it was fifteen years ago, he said. And so he started training with like a Tontrica and all these different people, and he started a supplement line. Four men were like, ed, there's also an oil. I need to actually post that on my Instagram for you guys, because he gave us a discount code. Apparently I was using the wrong kind of coconut oil. Bad for your badge.

Yeah, what does what does his oil do? It's just a lube or is it's a lube.

Yeah, what does what does his oil do? It's just a lube or is it's a lube.

Yeah, it's a it's an oil. It's a lube, but it's all natural ingredients. I don't have it right in front of me, so I can't read them off to you. But nothing talks in and it doesn't mess with the p h balance of our kiddies, as they would say on Instagram, because you can't say anything. You get shadow band if you say sex words. So people have daisy words. Yeah, and usually if I hear anyone talking about sex, they're talking they called the vagina.

Yeah, it's a it's an oil. It's a lube, but it's all natural ingredients. I don't have it right in front of me, so I can't read them off to you. But nothing talks in and it doesn't mess with the p h balance of our kiddies, as they would say on Instagram, because you can't say anything. You get shadow band if you say sex words. So people have daisy words. Yeah, and usually if I hear anyone talking about sex, they're talking they called the vagina.

The kitty, the kitty.

The kitty, the kitty.

Yeah, a lot of cat talk for us today, it's a lot of cat talk.

Yeah, a lot of cat talk for us today, it's a lot of cat talk.

Wow, well you're you know, I really wish that there it was a little more the story was a little bit more like salacious. I guess, like I was hoping you'd have search to share with us, you would I cannot. I mean, j goodall didn't become a master at apes but not spending some time in their habitat you know what I'm saying.

Wow, well you're you know, I really wish that there it was a little more the story was a little bit more like salacious. I guess, like I was hoping you'd have search to share with us, you would I cannot. I mean, j goodall didn't become a master at apes but not spending some time in their habitat you know what I'm saying.

You think I need to get out in the field, and like, how do you know.

You think I need to get out in the field, and like, how do you know.

This guy's a pro? Like he could be all talk.

This guy's a pro? Like he could be all talk.

I mean, I wonder if at one point, like women, he was just like, why are all the women I have sex with telling me I'm the best sex they've ever had? Like I feel like it's an interesting thing to be like, this is what I'm gonna do.

I mean, I wonder if at one point, like women, he was just like, why are all the women I have sex with telling me I'm the best sex they've ever had? Like I feel like it's an interesting thing to be like, this is what I'm gonna do.

I mean, I guess it's you know, Susan Bratton.

I mean, I guess it's you know, Susan Bratton.

It's the same as Susan. Yes, he's like the fail Susan. Literally, if you guys have not listened to Chip and I talked to Susan Bratton. I also highly recommend her. She's got a different energy than Jackson. Jackson is like science guy and very straightforward. Susan is like, oh my god.

It's the same as Susan. Yes, he's like the fail Susan. Literally, if you guys have not listened to Chip and I talked to Susan Bratton. I also highly recommend her. She's got a different energy than Jackson. Jackson is like science guy and very straightforward. Susan is like, oh my god.

I would do.

I would do.

And she calls her kiddie her yonie yoni.

And she calls her kiddie her yonie yoni.

That's like, yeah, that's another well yonie massage. There's all sorts of different that is an actual term. But yes, so I suggest looking at both of them. I think it's great because a lot of people, I think, were thinking that Jackson and I were going to talk about all these like sex tips, because on his Instagram and his TikTok, that's what he's giving a lot of times. Because honestly, even he said, like men don't know the female anatomy, nor do they always care, you know, like we that's not really necessarily what men are trained to think of when they think of sex at a young age, and so it takes a little finessing or maybe kind of like a hey, dummy, like she's not enjoying that. And this is about y'all together, it's not just about you getting off. So that's kind of part of his mission. And he gives very detailed sex tips on his Instagram, And so I think people thought that he and I were just going to sit around and he was gonna tell me all these tips. And I'm like, Okay, well don't we want to know, like we need to know the foundation of one his business to what he teaches. Three, what's happening in our culture and society, like what's what's wrong in this scenario, and then also the ways to fix it the science before we do the fun sex tips. You know.

That's like, yeah, that's another well yonie massage. There's all sorts of different that is an actual term. But yes, so I suggest looking at both of them. I think it's great because a lot of people, I think, were thinking that Jackson and I were going to talk about all these like sex tips, because on his Instagram and his TikTok, that's what he's giving a lot of times. Because honestly, even he said, like men don't know the female anatomy, nor do they always care, you know, like we that's not really necessarily what men are trained to think of when they think of sex at a young age, and so it takes a little finessing or maybe kind of like a hey, dummy, like she's not enjoying that. And this is about y'all together, it's not just about you getting off. So that's kind of part of his mission. And he gives very detailed sex tips on his Instagram, And so I think people thought that he and I were just going to sit around and he was gonna tell me all these tips. And I'm like, Okay, well don't we want to know, like we need to know the foundation of one his business to what he teaches. Three, what's happening in our culture and society, like what's what's wrong in this scenario, and then also the ways to fix it the science before we do the fun sex tips. You know.

You know, it's funny.

You know, it's funny.

I'm sitting here thinking like, in some way he's kind of the ultimate feminist.

I'm sitting here thinking like, in some way he's kind of the ultimate feminist.

I know, because he's all about and enjoy.

I know, because he's all about and enjoy.

Yeah, he's educating men to help the women enjoy sex, right, which I think ultimately makes the man have better sex.

Yeah, he's educating men to help the women enjoy sex, right, which I think ultimately makes the man have better sex.

It's just better all around because.

It's just better all around because.

It's just reciprocal at that point, and it's like everyone, you're opening up a new line of communication. You're talking like we were talking a lot about eye contact, breathing together, actually doing the things that sex is meant to do versus just fucking someone's body, you know, And that is sort of the way that I think a lot of us had sex depicted to us and we've never known, Like you're you're kind of left to figure it out, you know, for yourself, and so you get down the line in a relationship or in a sexual just your sexual relationships in general, and you're like, yeah, I'm not happy, or like Susan said, like I was married for ten years and I never had an orgasm. Like so then she went and did her all this research and training and all the same stuff. So yeah, I think I don't know. I'm just like, let's talk about this shit. It is like the number one thing you and I get questions about. It's the number one thing people want to talk about whenever we bring up the topic, like they're the most engaged on that topic. Yet most of us don't know technically how to do it, or we're scared to talk about it, you know. So I'm just like, let's just fucking talk about it. Let's normalize these things.

It's just reciprocal at that point, and it's like everyone, you're opening up a new line of communication. You're talking like we were talking a lot about eye contact, breathing together, actually doing the things that sex is meant to do versus just fucking someone's body, you know, And that is sort of the way that I think a lot of us had sex depicted to us and we've never known, Like you're you're kind of left to figure it out, you know, for yourself, and so you get down the line in a relationship or in a sexual just your sexual relationships in general, and you're like, yeah, I'm not happy, or like Susan said, like I was married for ten years and I never had an orgasm. Like so then she went and did her all this research and training and all the same stuff. So yeah, I think I don't know. I'm just like, let's talk about this shit. It is like the number one thing you and I get questions about. It's the number one thing people want to talk about whenever we bring up the topic, like they're the most engaged on that topic. Yet most of us don't know technically how to do it, or we're scared to talk about it, you know. So I'm just like, let's just fucking talk about it. Let's normalize these things.

What's funny too, because you know, we are taught not to talk about it. Yet in terms of the animal planet, we're the only We're like one of.

What's funny too, because you know, we are taught not to talk about it. Yet in terms of the animal planet, we're the only We're like one of.

Two species that actually have find pleasure.

Two species that actually have find pleasure.

In sex, right, So what's the other one? Just out of curiosity, I.

In sex, right, So what's the other one? Just out of curiosity, I.

Forget what it is, Uh, dolphins maybe I think it might be. But they the fact that like we know this about our right, ourselves, and yet we suppress it is kind of insane. You know, it's not just about procreation for us. I mean, at our core, that's that's why it's that is what it's for, right, But you know the fact that we can enjoy it is crazy. That it's not something it's something that is repressed and puritanical and like we can't talk about it.

Forget what it is, Uh, dolphins maybe I think it might be. But they the fact that like we know this about our right, ourselves, and yet we suppress it is kind of insane. You know, it's not just about procreation for us. I mean, at our core, that's that's why it's that is what it's for, right, But you know the fact that we can enjoy it is crazy. That it's not something it's something that is repressed and puritanical and like we can't talk about it.

Of course, there's so many layers to that conversation too. I mean we we definitely talk about that a little bit on the podcast, but again, like jess he and I in our conversations, we're talking just about the shame in general around this topic. And that's why it's so uncomfortable, even though everyone wants to talk about it, you know, like it's like maybe they would go listen to the podcast in a sneaky room by themselves, Like we don't need to be like that these are normal things. And actually the way that a person like him or Susan is talking about sex. Sure, everyone's preference is different, and like Susan talks about maybe some wild things sometimes, but ultimately, if you really listen to what either one of them is saying, it is about intimate sex, making sex intimate again, actually really connecting with humans, not just using each other's bodies to masturbate, you know, right, which is a massive difference. And I think it's definitely like some I feel our culture kind of shifting, like we've gone to such the opposite extreme where there's so much porn. There's so much like Instagram people posting crazy shit or naked bodies or whatever, and all the like if you want to call it lust if you were in the like religious culture, and now we're kind of like, wait a second, there's more to this. Like one, it's for procreation, like you said, but two, like, how do we actually connect with each other even if you're not going to be with that person for the rest of your life, how do you actually connect?

Of course, there's so many layers to that conversation too. I mean we we definitely talk about that a little bit on the podcast, but again, like jess he and I in our conversations, we're talking just about the shame in general around this topic. And that's why it's so uncomfortable, even though everyone wants to talk about it, you know, like it's like maybe they would go listen to the podcast in a sneaky room by themselves, Like we don't need to be like that these are normal things. And actually the way that a person like him or Susan is talking about sex. Sure, everyone's preference is different, and like Susan talks about maybe some wild things sometimes, but ultimately, if you really listen to what either one of them is saying, it is about intimate sex, making sex intimate again, actually really connecting with humans, not just using each other's bodies to masturbate, you know, right, which is a massive difference. And I think it's definitely like some I feel our culture kind of shifting, like we've gone to such the opposite extreme where there's so much porn. There's so much like Instagram people posting crazy shit or naked bodies or whatever, and all the like if you want to call it lust if you were in the like religious culture, and now we're kind of like, wait a second, there's more to this. Like one, it's for procreation, like you said, but two, like, how do we actually connect with each other even if you're not going to be with that person for the rest of your life, how do you actually connect?

Well it's so funny too, because I feel like.

Well it's so funny too, because I feel like.

The religious the way that religion looks at it and sort of wants to suppress it and kind of drives the lust for sure, because it drives.

The religious the way that religion looks at it and sort of wants to suppress it and kind of drives the lust for sure, because it drives.

The porn industry.

The porn industry.

Yeah, it drives a lot of the problems that they're trying to prevent versus being like, this is a beautiful thing that causes connection between human beings.

Yeah, it drives a lot of the problems that they're trying to prevent versus being like, this is a beautiful thing that causes connection between human beings.

Yeah, and here's all the science, and here's all the chemicals, and this is how you do it, and this is how a woman's body works, and this is how man's body works, and yeah, it's a part of being a human. Yeah, we're really scared to talk about it, so right, I'm just trying to talk about it so you can be more.

Yeah, and here's all the science, and here's all the chemicals, and this is how you do it, and this is how a woman's body works, and this is how man's body works, and yeah, it's a part of being a human. Yeah, we're really scared to talk about it, so right, I'm just trying to talk about it so you can be more.

Normal about it.

Normal about it.

With that said, since sex has been the big topic lately. As you came back, I was like, oh, we need to do some listener questions. It's been a minute, and we may the last week of April, which is typically the last week of the month, is when we do listener questions, and we had one specific listener that left us twelve questions.

With that said, since sex has been the big topic lately. As you came back, I was like, oh, we need to do some listener questions. It's been a minute, and we may the last week of April, which is typically the last week of the month, is when we do listener questions, and we had one specific listener that left us twelve questions.

So I'm obsessed with her because I love this.

So I'm obsessed with her because I love this.

But basically, the way what she told me was that her and her girlfriends get together and they have all these things they talk about and all these questions and so they all wrote them down and she just actually voiced all the questions to us. So I'm going to get through as many as I can today. A lot of them do have to do with sex, and so I thought it could be a nice transition since we're already talking about this.

But basically, the way what she told me was that her and her girlfriends get together and they have all these things they talk about and all these questions and so they all wrote them down and she just actually voiced all the questions to us. So I'm going to get through as many as I can today. A lot of them do have to do with sex, and so I thought it could be a nice transition since we're already talking about this.

All right, anal sex?

All right, anal sex?

Is it all it is cracked up to be? If you want to start doing it with your partner and never have, how do you start?

Is it all it is cracked up to be? If you want to start doing it with your partner and never have, how do you start?

How do you prep? Should you even go there? Well, first of all, I didn't mean to leave with that question.

How do you prep? Should you even go there? Well, first of all, I didn't mean to leave with that question.

I'm like, Wow, she came. It came in.

I'm like, Wow, she came. It came in.

Hot, straight out the gate, straight out the exit.

Hot, straight out the gate, straight out the exit.

Honestly, Ship, I feel like I'm gonna defer to you more on this one.

Honestly, Ship, I feel like I'm gonna defer to you more on this one.

You probably have more experience here.

You probably have more experience here.

I mean, I think the one major difference between heterosexual inal sex and gay homosexual anal sex is the prostate which women don't have, so and it's sort of the pleasure. It's basically the male clitteris the pleasure center. I feel like all the women that I know that have partaken in it like it when it's done correctly and not just fucking jammed in. You know, okay, and you know there there is preparation that's necessary. The last thing you want is to like have an oopsie and it does happen, You're like you're like playing with the ass.

I mean, I think the one major difference between heterosexual inal sex and gay homosexual anal sex is the prostate which women don't have, so and it's sort of the pleasure. It's basically the male clitteris the pleasure center. I feel like all the women that I know that have partaken in it like it when it's done correctly and not just fucking jammed in. You know, okay, and you know there there is preparation that's necessary. The last thing you want is to like have an oopsie and it does happen, You're like you're like playing with the ass.

So yeah, what do you recommend, like to do an enema beforehand?

So yeah, what do you recommend, like to do an enema beforehand?

Yeah, yeah, you can do that.

Yeah, yeah, you can do that.

I mean obviously the healthier your diet is the better too, Like you don't want to be someone that's just eating a ton of durridos and ice cream and just winging it. You know, like you want to be eating clean because then you know your bowels are cleaner, so it's easy a lot easier to clean them out.

I mean obviously the healthier your diet is the better too, Like you don't want to be someone that's just eating a ton of durridos and ice cream and just winging it. You know, like you want to be eating clean because then you know your bowels are cleaner, so it's easy a lot easier to clean them out.

So yeah, See this is where Amal Sex gets a little bit of a like a HM for me, because it's like once we're talking, well it's like yeah, it's like when we're having to mix all the things, like right, but it's because I have another hole that feels good to me.

So yeah, See this is where Amal Sex gets a little bit of a like a HM for me, because it's like once we're talking, well it's like yeah, it's like when we're having to mix all the things, like right, but it's because I have another hole that feels good to me.

So right, Yeah, I see what you're saying about the process.

So right, Yeah, I see what you're saying about the process.

I have to like, yeah, you kind of have to like plan ahead for it. If you think that it's something that you're going to want to do or that your partner is interested in doing, then it's probably best to like make sure you're you're cleaned out and see and you know, don't go have a you know, a big seafood dinner or something before doing it, because depending on how quickly your body processes food.

I have to like, yeah, you kind of have to like plan ahead for it. If you think that it's something that you're going to want to do or that your partner is interested in doing, then it's probably best to like make sure you're you're cleaned out and see and you know, don't go have a you know, a big seafood dinner or something before doing it, because depending on how quickly your body processes food.

Cleaning out might not be worth it.

Cleaning out might not be worth it.

And then you know it's obviously it's not It's not a hole that stretches as easily as the vagina does. So you don't want you don't want someone to just jam it in because your rectum is a muscle.

And then you know it's obviously it's not It's not a hole that stretches as easily as the vagina does. So you don't want you don't want someone to just jam it in because your rectum is a muscle.

And who are you how do you have this?

And who are you how do you have this?

I mean I have I have done some reason. You know, you don't want to just have something jammed in there. It's a process that has is you have to take your time and eventually, because it is a muscle, yeah, you know, it relaxes and opens up and then it's great. I think that you know, it's like anything. You can't say that you don't like something unless you try it. If you don't like it after you try it, then don't ever do it again. But if you're curious about it, I think, and you have a partner that you're willing to explore with who will listen to you. And if you know, if it hurts a hey, stop hold on a second, give it a second, take a deep breath. There is also a thing called poppers, which which is it's really popular in the gay world. And I forget what the chemical compound is, but you can buy it at sex shops and it's basically VCR cleaner that you you you sniff.

I mean I have I have done some reason. You know, you don't want to just have something jammed in there. It's a process that has is you have to take your time and eventually, because it is a muscle, yeah, you know, it relaxes and opens up and then it's great. I think that you know, it's like anything. You can't say that you don't like something unless you try it. If you don't like it after you try it, then don't ever do it again. But if you're curious about it, I think, and you have a partner that you're willing to explore with who will listen to you. And if you know, if it hurts a hey, stop hold on a second, give it a second, take a deep breath. There is also a thing called poppers, which which is it's really popular in the gay world. And I forget what the chemical compound is, but you can buy it at sex shops and it's basically VCR cleaner that you you you sniff.

It sound so healthy.

It sound so healthy.

Wow, Yeah, I'm sure.

Wow, Yeah, I'm sure.

Yeah. And it loose will it loosens relaxes your muscles.

Yeah. And it loose will it loosens relaxes your muscles.

There has to be another way to do that.

There has to be another way to do that.

I mean there's probably or something maybe yeah, maybe. I mean, it's not something you have to do, but if it's something that you feel like you need, if your partner has a really big tick, you might want to do that just for the relaxation. But I mean there's other things that it does. It kind of makes your head to go wah wah wah wall too.

I mean there's probably or something maybe yeah, maybe. I mean, it's not something you have to do, but if it's something that you feel like you need, if your partner has a really big tick, you might want to do that just for the relaxation. But I mean there's other things that it does. It kind of makes your head to go wah wah wah wall too.

It's like whippets, yeah, kind of like yeah, it's kind of it's got like a whippe it vibe to it too, So yeah, I mean, I think it's just about like, if you're going to try it, try it with somebody that you trust that will listen to you and as we'll.

It's like whippets, yeah, kind of like yeah, it's kind of it's got like a whippe it vibe to it too, So yeah, I mean, I think it's just about like, if you're going to try it, try it with somebody that you trust that will listen to you and as we'll.

Be willing to take it slowly. And if you don't like it, then don't do it again.

Be willing to take it slowly. And if you don't like it, then don't do it again.

Yeah, totally.

Yeah, totally.

I mean, obviously this came from a female listener, and I'm assuming the group of women that she said my group of friends, so I think it was like a girls club. So I would also say, like, if you're curious, like you said, I definitely think dabble. I mean, and also talk to your partner. Jackson and I talked about this, like, bring up your kinks, especially if you've been in our long term relationship and you feel comfortable, and like maybe if you don't, maybe try to ease into those conversations. But it is, it can be exciting to bring up your kinks or something that you're curious to try, and then ask if they're willing. I would say, if you're interested in anal, another way to ease in would be to start with a finger, like you don't have to go straight for the full thing, and definitely use the right sort of lubrication. Don't remember if you specifically said that that oil that I was mentioning earlier would be great for this, but definitely want to make sure that it's nothing like dry.

I mean, obviously this came from a female listener, and I'm assuming the group of women that she said my group of friends, so I think it was like a girls club. So I would also say, like, if you're curious, like you said, I definitely think dabble. I mean, and also talk to your partner. Jackson and I talked about this, like, bring up your kinks, especially if you've been in our long term relationship and you feel comfortable, and like maybe if you don't, maybe try to ease into those conversations. But it is, it can be exciting to bring up your kinks or something that you're curious to try, and then ask if they're willing. I would say, if you're interested in anal, another way to ease in would be to start with a finger, like you don't have to go straight for the full thing, and definitely use the right sort of lubrication. Don't remember if you specifically said that that oil that I was mentioning earlier would be great for this, but definitely want to make sure that it's nothing like dry.

I was just say it.

I was just say it.

I was I was trying to think of something like way more scientific but yeah, but I do think like a finger is a nice situation, especially like for women if a man is going down on them and there's a finger in that in like the anal region, that can produce more sensation too. I don't know the reasons why, I'm not an expert like that, but I definitely know that and a lot of I hear a lot of women say the same thing.

I was I was trying to think of something like way more scientific but yeah, but I do think like a finger is a nice situation, especially like for women if a man is going down on them and there's a finger in that in like the anal region, that can produce more sensation too. I don't know the reasons why, I'm not an expert like that, but I definitely know that and a lot of I hear a lot of women say the same thing.

And ladies, you can do the same thing to your maund.

And ladies, you can do the same thing to your maund.

Oh if yeah, I feel you know.

Oh if yeah, I feel you know.

It's funny about hetero guys though, like some of them will kind of like if you start playing with the taint, which is like you know, taint, the ball's taint ass in between the two areas, they'll be like that. You feel their body's tense up a little bit, and in the second you get cleared, they're.

It's funny about hetero guys though, like some of them will kind of like if you start playing with the taint, which is like you know, taint, the ball's taint ass in between the two areas, they'll be like that. You feel their body's tense up a little bit, and in the second you get cleared, they're.

Like, oh okay, okay, okay, start to pull away.

Like, oh okay, okay, okay, start to pull away.

Their body until they like.

Their body until they like.

Every time, it's a mental thing for hetero guys because they're like, well, I'm not gay, so you know whatever, and it's like this doesn't make you gay, buddy, you have across.

Every time, it's a mental thing for hetero guys because they're like, well, I'm not gay, so you know whatever, and it's like this doesn't make you gay, buddy, you have across.

It's a female finger, right, You're only gay if it's a male finger.

It's a female finger, right, You're only gay if it's a male finger.

Going on, right, right, All right, anything else on anal chip, try it, try it anal all right? This one also, I have to say that this listener is very funny because they named all of these voicemails something different.

Going on, right, right, All right, anything else on anal chip, try it, try it anal all right? This one also, I have to say that this listener is very funny because they named all of these voicemails something different.

This one is called Alanis Morissett. Here you go.

This one is called Alanis Morissett. Here you go.

Asking for what you want? How do you find the confidence to ask for what you want both from your career and your personal life. Many of us can stand up for ourselves and ask for what we want in our career, but we have trouble doing the same at home, whether it's in the bedroom or in our families. And how do you figure out a way to navigate that and bring the energy that maybe you have in the office to the health that confidence or vice versa.

Asking for what you want? How do you find the confidence to ask for what you want both from your career and your personal life. Many of us can stand up for ourselves and ask for what we want in our career, but we have trouble doing the same at home, whether it's in the bedroom or in our families. And how do you figure out a way to navigate that and bring the energy that maybe you have in the office to the health that confidence or vice versa.

This one is so hard for me too. Do you struggle with asking for what you want to?

This one is so hard for me too. Do you struggle with asking for what you want to?

Yes?

Yes?

I think, I think to her to like zoom in on her question.

I think, I think to her to like zoom in on her question.

Yeah, be super broad about it.

Yeah, be super broad about it.

I think the difference between asking for what you want at work and asking for what you want from your family or you're out of your relationship is that if work does not give you what you want, you can go find another job.

I think the difference between asking for what you want at work and asking for what you want from your family or you're out of your relationship is that if work does not give you what you want, you can go find another job.

You're like, fuck it, I'll just go get another job. I'm not happy here.

You're like, fuck it, I'll just go get another job. I'm not happy here.

It's a lot harder to do with your family, and if it's a relationship that you don't want to end, that that seeps into that too. So I think out of fear of it like scaring your partner away or them like changing how they feel about you, that makes it really hard to like be vulnerable sometimes and ask for what you want.

It's a lot harder to do with your family, and if it's a relationship that you don't want to end, that that seeps into that too. So I think out of fear of it like scaring your partner away or them like changing how they feel about you, that makes it really hard to like be vulnerable sometimes and ask for what you want.

It's so interesting because I struggle so much more at work than I do at home asking for what I want. I know, I think it's the same because it probably like because yeah, if you it's in my job. I mean, yeah, if you lose a client and you could go get another one, but yeah, like your reputation is everything you Basically in Nashville, it's like a lot of it is word of mouth, and so if you give one client, then they hear about you from another client, and yeah, it's hard and it's especially I think it's more of a woman thing though, right because we're used to being underpaid or like it's it's definitely harder for me to step in and say something about like no, I know I deserve more here, and it it I think is tied to maybe like a.

It's so interesting because I struggle so much more at work than I do at home asking for what I want. I know, I think it's the same because it probably like because yeah, if you it's in my job. I mean, yeah, if you lose a client and you could go get another one, but yeah, like your reputation is everything you Basically in Nashville, it's like a lot of it is word of mouth, and so if you give one client, then they hear about you from another client, and yeah, it's hard and it's especially I think it's more of a woman thing though, right because we're used to being underpaid or like it's it's definitely harder for me to step in and say something about like no, I know I deserve more here, and it it I think is tied to maybe like a.

What's the thing where.

What's the thing where.

You imposter syndrome thing, right, you know, and like I think all creatives have this. I've really tried to accept that that this is not just a me thing, but I could get like all the things can go right in my career. I can be successful and I can have everyone around me telling me like great job, and I still will sometimes feel like, wait, do I even deserve to be here? Like it's just that feeling and your own insecurities can creep in. And I think for a lot of creatives it's a very similar thing because we're basically judged on your vision too, you know, like your creativity. You're not necessarily judged on like plugging in numbers to something and how fast you can do that. It's like a very personal experience in a lot of ways, and so I don't know, it can make you question yourself in different ways.

You imposter syndrome thing, right, you know, and like I think all creatives have this. I've really tried to accept that that this is not just a me thing, but I could get like all the things can go right in my career. I can be successful and I can have everyone around me telling me like great job, and I still will sometimes feel like, wait, do I even deserve to be here? Like it's just that feeling and your own insecurities can creep in. And I think for a lot of creatives it's a very similar thing because we're basically judged on your vision too, you know, like your creativity. You're not necessarily judged on like plugging in numbers to something and how fast you can do that. It's like a very personal experience in a lot of ways, and so I don't know, it can make you question yourself in different ways.

Maybe.

Maybe.

So one of the things that I do for.

So one of the things that I do for.

Just kind of like this is like so ridiculous, but I have to like call a friend, like if you have a safe friend and have a pep talk, like I do the fake talk with the person and they build me up so much during it, Yeah, so that when I go in, I'm like all right, all right, Like it's like it's like before a game when your coach is in the locker room, like having those moments, like I really do have to get them. And it's usually after I get to a place of having some form of resentment. So like when I realize I'm resentful, that means that some sort of boundary has been crossed or I'm not being taken care of in a certain way that is making the job feel like a reciprocally good situation for me. And so then I'll be like, Okay, I'm noticing the resentment. I gotta make a call, get a pep talk, and then you just got to fucking put on your big girl painties and do it.

Just kind of like this is like so ridiculous, but I have to like call a friend, like if you have a safe friend and have a pep talk, like I do the fake talk with the person and they build me up so much during it, Yeah, so that when I go in, I'm like all right, all right, Like it's like it's like before a game when your coach is in the locker room, like having those moments, like I really do have to get them. And it's usually after I get to a place of having some form of resentment. So like when I realize I'm resentful, that means that some sort of boundary has been crossed or I'm not being taken care of in a certain way that is making the job feel like a reciprocally good situation for me. And so then I'll be like, Okay, I'm noticing the resentment. I gotta make a call, get a pep talk, and then you just got to fucking put on your big girl painties and do it.

Yeah, I think too.

Yeah, I think too.

It's like for me, it's often so much easier for someone else to see the predicament I'm in or the situation that I'm in and to give me advice that I just can't see from where I'm sitting, because usually there's like it's tied up in emotions or anger or fear or whatever it is, and it's so it makes it harder to see. So if you have that conversation with a friend that can help you walk you through it. Yeah, it can help you make a lot more sense of it, and then you can find the courage to be like, oh, yeah, I'm worried for the wrong reasons. M m.

It's like for me, it's often so much easier for someone else to see the predicament I'm in or the situation that I'm in and to give me advice that I just can't see from where I'm sitting, because usually there's like it's tied up in emotions or anger or fear or whatever it is, and it's so it makes it harder to see. So if you have that conversation with a friend that can help you walk you through it. Yeah, it can help you make a lot more sense of it, and then you can find the courage to be like, oh, yeah, I'm worried for the wrong reasons. M m.

Well, it's usually a narrative in our head that we're attached to. It's not even reality, right, And I do think like with the work thing, it's one thing, like you said, and then at home it's a totally different thing. But ultimately it's kind of what we've talked about on this podcast before, where what is the like risk reward if you don't say anything and you continue to just self abandoned self abandoned and not step up asking for the things that you know you want internally? Are you going to live a happy and fulfilled life? Like is it worth it to you to do that? To what keep the relationship or keep the peace or whatever it is. I guess you have to just weigh those things.

Well, it's usually a narrative in our head that we're attached to. It's not even reality, right, And I do think like with the work thing, it's one thing, like you said, and then at home it's a totally different thing. But ultimately it's kind of what we've talked about on this podcast before, where what is the like risk reward if you don't say anything and you continue to just self abandoned self abandoned and not step up asking for the things that you know you want internally? Are you going to live a happy and fulfilled life? Like is it worth it to you to do that? To what keep the relationship or keep the peace or whatever it is. I guess you have to just weigh those things.

Yeah, yeah, I mean there's there's so many what's the word that I'm looking for? There's so many variables to all of these things too, that you know, you have to look at it from so many different sides.

Yeah, yeah, I mean there's there's so many what's the word that I'm looking for? There's so many variables to all of these things too, that you know, you have to look at it from so many different sides.

But I for.

But I for.

Me, when I'm with somebody that is more willing to be vulnerable with me, It makes it easier to be vulnerable with them and ask for what I want.

Me, when I'm with somebody that is more willing to be vulnerable with me, It makes it easier to be vulnerable with them and ask for what I want.

So you're saying, surround yourself with.

So you're saying, surround yourself with.

With people that people well, that will communicate with you, you know, because if someone is not open, they might if they're not open enough to ask for what they want, they're probably not going to be super open for you asking what you want.

With people that people well, that will communicate with you, you know, because if someone is not open, they might if they're not open enough to ask for what they want, they're probably not going to be super open for you asking what you want.

Totally, that's a great point.

Totally, that's a great point.

Yeah, I am finding the older I get, I find it to be so interesting how bad a communication so many adults are. I don't think I realized it. How are we like getting through life? Truly, though, it is shocking to me sometimes the lack of communication skills that a lot of people have, and how much it can even send them into like a panic mode to think about having a hard conversation. So if that is you, and that's like when you're asking this question, you're literally going into a freeze response. Actually, I don't think it's actually about having the conversation yet.

Yeah, I am finding the older I get, I find it to be so interesting how bad a communication so many adults are. I don't think I realized it. How are we like getting through life? Truly, though, it is shocking to me sometimes the lack of communication skills that a lot of people have, and how much it can even send them into like a panic mode to think about having a hard conversation. So if that is you, and that's like when you're asking this question, you're literally going into a freeze response. Actually, I don't think it's actually about having the conversation yet.

It's more about.

It's more about.

Dealing with you and what's going on with you and maybe learning some new skills, whether that's be a therapy or something else. But like, if having one hard conversation is shutting you down completely. There's something bigger going on that needs to be addressed there. So maybe the first things first is like look at your own shit, the why, the why? Yeah, you know I love.

Dealing with you and what's going on with you and maybe learning some new skills, whether that's be a therapy or something else. But like, if having one hard conversation is shutting you down completely. There's something bigger going on that needs to be addressed there. So maybe the first things first is like look at your own shit, the why, the why? Yeah, you know I love.

The why the why?

The why the why?

I mean, I love I personally I struggle with tough conversations and.

I mean, I love I personally I struggle with tough conversations and.

Yeah you do. Yeah, well you want you to have them. It's like you just put them off and put them off and put them off.

Yeah you do. Yeah, well you want you to have them. It's like you just put them off and put them off and put them off.

Right, and and but the you feel afterwards is fucking amazing because they often never go the way that you anticipate them to get, like the way that you've dreamt that, like they're gonna go horribly awry.

Right, and and but the you feel afterwards is fucking amazing because they often never go the way that you anticipate them to get, like the way that you've dreamt that, like they're gonna go horribly awry.

Yeah, you make up the worst case scenarios, usually in your head, and then you have anxiety based on those worst case scenarios. And in reality, a lot of times it was way easier. You just had to actually have the conversation, right, Yeah, and then once it's done, it's like laying down the way to best. But you've been carrying around you could go run ten marathons.

Yeah, you make up the worst case scenarios, usually in your head, and then you have anxiety based on those worst case scenarios. And in reality, a lot of times it was way easier. You just had to actually have the conversation, right, Yeah, and then once it's done, it's like laying down the way to best. But you've been carrying around you could go run ten marathons.

All right. Let me say one more for you.

All right. Let me say one more for you.

I'm reading a lot of smut aka literature. Is that healthy or could it possibly hurt my real life sexual relationships by creating a story that can't happen in real life.

I'm reading a lot of smut aka literature. Is that healthy or could it possibly hurt my real life sexual relationships by creating a story that can't happen in real life.

Does that make sense? Makes total sense? Literature? I died, I can that's amazing TM that put it on a T show.

Does that make sense? Makes total sense? Literature? I died, I can that's amazing TM that put it on a T show.

Seriously, Wow, I honestly don't know the answer to that. But I would think that that is healthier than watching porn because it's like an internalized sort of thing too, where it's I mean, look, if it's like fifty shades of gray kind of insane shit is one thing. But if it's like romantic where it's like doing something to you from the inside, I don't know, Like I feel like it's healthier that way than watching people like just jackhammer each other on the internet.

Seriously, Wow, I honestly don't know the answer to that. But I would think that that is healthier than watching porn because it's like an internalized sort of thing too, where it's I mean, look, if it's like fifty shades of gray kind of insane shit is one thing. But if it's like romantic where it's like doing something to you from the inside, I don't know, Like I feel like it's healthier that way than watching people like just jackhammer each other on the internet.

Yeah, I disagree, Okay, I well, because I think that the porn that you're talking about, like that you would google and find like videos, is more attractive to a male mind. I think the words and hearing a fairy tale romance whatever is girl's porn, right, So it's the same thing. I think it's exactly the same thing, and I think you'll get exactly the same results. And I don't think there's anything like I'm not gonna be like, don't read a book like that ever, don't ever like get on the beach and just have fun and read something.

Yeah, I disagree, Okay, I well, because I think that the porn that you're talking about, like that you would google and find like videos, is more attractive to a male mind. I think the words and hearing a fairy tale romance whatever is girl's porn, right, So it's the same thing. I think it's exactly the same thing, and I think you'll get exactly the same results. And I don't think there's anything like I'm not gonna be like, don't read a book like that ever, don't ever like get on the beach and just have fun and read something.

Light or whatever.

Light or whatever.

But I know what she's talking about because I have another friend who's like this, where it's just like this constant she gets lost in these books and it's like when she finishes one, she starts another one and whatever. And that's fantasy. And so like, if we it's that's fine. It's good to have like playful fun and fantasies and all that stuff. But if you're only having that, I think that's where that becomes the issue, because, like what the listener was saying in the question, then you get in real life and it's never going to live up to that because that isn't real life. That's a fairy tale. It's a fantasy. But if you're going back to your real life and then you're disappointed because you're like, oh, well, in this book, the guy like cooks the dinner and brought out this one and he like laid out roses and then he like picked her up and brought her to the back, and like that is girl porn. Literally, that is like the things that can get us off so bad. And so if you're living in that and then you come home and it's like your husband and your kids and they're just like everyone's screaming and whatever.

But I know what she's talking about because I have another friend who's like this, where it's just like this constant she gets lost in these books and it's like when she finishes one, she starts another one and whatever. And that's fantasy. And so like, if we it's that's fine. It's good to have like playful fun and fantasies and all that stuff. But if you're only having that, I think that's where that becomes the issue, because, like what the listener was saying in the question, then you get in real life and it's never going to live up to that because that isn't real life. That's a fairy tale. It's a fantasy. But if you're going back to your real life and then you're disappointed because you're like, oh, well, in this book, the guy like cooks the dinner and brought out this one and he like laid out roses and then he like picked her up and brought her to the back, and like that is girl porn. Literally, that is like the things that can get us off so bad. And so if you're living in that and then you come home and it's like your husband and your kids and they're just like everyone's screaming and whatever.

You just want to go back to the fantasy.

You just want to go back to the fantasy.

You can't be in reality, or you don't want to be, I would imagine. And so then when your husband is actually trying to make a move later, but it's.

You can't be in reality, or you don't want to be, I would imagine. And so then when your husband is actually trying to make a move later, but it's.

Like no, rot.

Like no, rot.

Away, Yes you're gonna be like, get the fuck off me. Ugh, like your touch like grosses me out, you know. And it's just I don't know. I just think it's all about being aware of how you're using it. And again, it's the same thing as actual porn. You know, if it's in moderation, that's up to you whatever. But if you're overdoing it, it probably is going to have an impact on the way that you show up or what you expect from your relationships.

Away, Yes you're gonna be like, get the fuck off me. Ugh, like your touch like grosses me out, you know. And it's just I don't know. I just think it's all about being aware of how you're using it. And again, it's the same thing as actual porn. You know, if it's in moderation, that's up to you whatever. But if you're overdoing it, it probably is going to have an impact on the way that you show up or what you expect from your relationships.

That's my thought.

That's my thought.

I mean I could buy into that.

I mean I could buy into that.

I wonder though, if like if it's a way to sort of like discover your kinks.

I wonder though, if like if it's a way to sort of like discover your kinks.

Though you know, like if you don't, that's what I'm.

Though you know, like if you don't, that's what I'm.

Come a little bit more comfortable with them before sure exploring them with a partner.

Come a little bit more comfortable with them before sure exploring them with a partner.

That's a great point. Yeah, So maybe it's just again it's like she said, though, I am reading them NonStop, like literature NonStop, and she called it that, So I'm imagined me there's something going on, maybe some playtime with herself or whatever. Again, no judgment, because I don't think there's anything wrong with masturbating. I think it's just a it's the same thing that visually stimulates men. We're like auditory and the story and the man that's coming in it's going to rescue and like.

That's a great point. Yeah, So maybe it's just again it's like she said, though, I am reading them NonStop, like literature NonStop, and she called it that, So I'm imagined me there's something going on, maybe some playtime with herself or whatever. Again, no judgment, because I don't think there's anything wrong with masturbating. I think it's just a it's the same thing that visually stimulates men. We're like auditory and the story and the man that's coming in it's going to rescue and like.

Do all the shit. That is the stuff that turns us on.

Do all the shit. That is the stuff that turns us on.

Right, So I think it's somehow like going back to reality. But then also, like you're saying, if there are things that you're learning and you're here and you're like wow, that really turns me on, go talk to your partner about it. Like these are like two questions combined basically, or we can bring two answers together here, because it's like, how do you have the hard conversation? Well, I was reading this book and this I heard this part and it turned me on. It would turn me on so much if you did that to me or whatever, you know, like right, actually use that as a tool to connect with your partner and maybe it wouldn't have a negative impact. Maybe it could have a really positive one if they were open to receiving that, right.

Right, So I think it's somehow like going back to reality. But then also, like you're saying, if there are things that you're learning and you're here and you're like wow, that really turns me on, go talk to your partner about it. Like these are like two questions combined basically, or we can bring two answers together here, because it's like, how do you have the hard conversation? Well, I was reading this book and this I heard this part and it turned me on. It would turn me on so much if you did that to me or whatever, you know, like right, actually use that as a tool to connect with your partner and maybe it wouldn't have a negative impact. Maybe it could have a really positive one if they were open to receiving that, right.

Yeah, I'm just thinking, like I feel like in those books is where you even discover what your kinks are. Sometimes Yeah, it's things that you never even thought of and you're like.

Yeah, I'm just thinking, like I feel like in those books is where you even discover what your kinks are. Sometimes Yeah, it's things that you never even thought of and you're like.

Oh, think that's a great point.

Oh, think that's a great point.

Yeah yeah, or you see what you're getting turned on by and you're like, oh, that's interesting because I think a lot of times for women, we haven't been taught to explore our bodies or those thoughts in the same way that it's been so acceptable for men for so long, and so some of us are late bloomers with what we would even like or want or what feels good or how do we enjoy ourselves or have an orgasm or anything like that. You know, it's it is a little trickier. So again, no judgment, no, like, no, you can't do this ever. I don't necessarily feel that way about porn either, But I do think it's about how you're using it. Are you using it in place of true intimacy in your relationship and is it like in moderation or is it like compulsive and use or can't stop like.

Yeah yeah, or you see what you're getting turned on by and you're like, oh, that's interesting because I think a lot of times for women, we haven't been taught to explore our bodies or those thoughts in the same way that it's been so acceptable for men for so long, and so some of us are late bloomers with what we would even like or want or what feels good or how do we enjoy ourselves or have an orgasm or anything like that. You know, it's it is a little trickier. So again, no judgment, no, like, no, you can't do this ever. I don't necessarily feel that way about porn either, But I do think it's about how you're using it. Are you using it in place of true intimacy in your relationship and is it like in moderation or is it like compulsive and use or can't stop like.

Else?

Else?

Yeah, are you reading anything else? Are you like taking a break between books even or is it just this constant you have to have this fantasy to be able to get through your day to day. Then that might be something to look at because it definitely seems like a way that it would impact your life and your relationships. It's like tupey down, wah wah, your parade, your glitter, clitterature parade, literature anyway, that's all the time we have for questions today. But I love getting the questions from you guys, so again, keep them coming. You can hit that on the link in my bio on Instagram. I am at Velvet's Edge. You can also hit it on the link of chips bio which is on his Instagram, which is.

Yeah, are you reading anything else? Are you like taking a break between books even or is it just this constant you have to have this fantasy to be able to get through your day to day. Then that might be something to look at because it definitely seems like a way that it would impact your life and your relationships. It's like tupey down, wah wah, your parade, your glitter, clitterature parade, literature anyway, that's all the time we have for questions today. But I love getting the questions from you guys, so again, keep them coming. You can hit that on the link in my bio on Instagram. I am at Velvet's Edge. You can also hit it on the link of chips bio which is on his Instagram, which is.

Chip door sho's h I P D O R S C H.

Chip door sho's h I P D O R S C H.

And know, as you guys are going into the weekend and you're living on the edge, I hope you always remember too back casual.

And know, as you guys are going into the weekend and you're living on the edge, I hope you always remember too back casual.

Bye bye

Bye bye