What If You Don’t Need to Be More Regulated?
When nervous-system healing becomes another form of self-control...

What if our obsession with nervous-system regulation is actually becoming another form of hypervigilance?

Welcome to a new chapter of Transcending Trauma®. Following the educational journey of Season 2, Moniquea Spiteri is shaking things up with a new series of Hot Topics — conversations that challenge some of the ideas we've come to accept about trauma, healing and the nervous system.

In this first episode, Moniquea asks whether our constant pursuit of regulation is making us less tolerant of the normal discomfort that comes with being human.

When did healing start to mean being calm all the time? And have we turned nervous-system awareness into yet another way of monitoring and trying to fix ourselves?

Drawing on her experience as a somatic psychotherapist, Moniquea explores the difference between regulation and capacity, how hypervigilance can disguise itself as self-improvement, and why discomfort doesn't always mean we're unsafe.

She also looks at the role of relationships, co-regulation and hyper-independence — and why a healthy nervous system isn't one that never gets activated, but one that has the flexibility to move, respond and recover.

Perhaps healing isn't about feeling less. Perhaps it's about developing the capacity to experience more of life without losing ourselves in the process.

If this episode gets you thinking, join the conversation. Share your thoughts, leave a review or send it to someone who might see nervous-system regulation a little differently.

Coming next: Are We Overusing the Word Trauma?

Discover more about Moniquea's work, somatic psychotherapy and Transcending Trauma® at www.moniqueaspiteri.com

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