Do you really have a love language? And does learning your partner’s actually make your relationship better? In this bonus episode of our debunking psychology series, we unpack the truth behind one of the most popular ideas in modern dating. We explore:


Where the five love languages came from and their religious roots


The controversial advice in Gary Chapman’s original book


What the research actually says about love languages and relationship satisfaction


Why lasting love might need a “balanced diet” of affection


Partner responsiveness and what it means to feel understood, valued and cared for

Find all episodes of DEBUNKING PSYCHOLOGY: HERE

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Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

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For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

Do you really have a love language? And does learning your partner&rsquo;s actually make your relationship better? In this bonus episode of our debunking psychology series, we unpack the truth behind one of the most popular ideas in modern dating. We explore:
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>
Where the five love languages came from and their religious roots
</li>
<li>
The controversial advice in Gary Chapman&rsquo;s original book
</li>
<li>
What the research actually says about love languages and relationship satisfaction
</li>
<li>
Why lasting love might need a &ldquo;balanced diet&rdquo; of affection
</li>
<li>
Partner responsiveness and what it means to feel understood, valued and cared for
</li>
</ul>
Find all episodes of DEBUNKING PSYCHOLOGY: <a href="https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3v4MCVBZ2itiJweLFzKVmO?si=b4677b78b7954bf5">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
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For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a> The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
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The Psychology of your 20s

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Listen to this collection of top episodes from iHeartRadio and iHeartPodcasts.&nbsp;

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A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;

470. Are the love languages a big myth?

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We blush, we look away, we replay the moment for hours (or years) after it happened, becoming convinced that everyone noticed far more than they probably did. Embarrassment is an interesting and complex emotion, but it can help us recognise social expectations and communicate how our behaviour affects others.

Watch on Netflix: HERE

We explore:
•        When we first develop the capacity to feel embarrassed
•        Why we blush and the role of embarrassment in trust
•        Why some of us feel embarrassment more than others
•        The role of rumination 
•        The psychological and social role of embarrassment 
•        How we can form a better relationship with it

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

Our favourite sources:

https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0025403

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/european-psychiatry/article/not-intended-still-embarrassed-social-anxiety-is-related-to-increased-levels-of-embarrassment-in-response-to-unintentional-social-norm-violations/F4143AB3B88D41FB18F9962696A77151

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/desc.70024 

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

We blush, we look away, we replay the moment for hours (or years) after it happened, becoming convinced that everyone noticed far more than they probably did. Embarrassment is an interesting and complex emotion, but it can help us recognise social expectations and communicate how our behaviour affects others.
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;When we first develop the capacity to feel embarrassed &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why we blush and the role of embarrassment in trust &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why some of us feel embarrassment more than others &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of rumination&nbsp; &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The psychological and social role of embarrassment&nbsp; &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How we can form a better relationship with it
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
Our favourite sources:
<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0025403">https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0025403</a>
<a href="https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/european-psychiatry/article/not-intended-still-embarrassed-social-anxiety-is-related-to-increased-levels-of-embarrassment-in-response-to-unintentional-social-norm-violations/F4143AB3B88D41FB18F9962696A77151">https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/european-psychiatry/article/not-intended-still-embarrassed-social-anxiety-is-related-to-increased-levels-of-embarrassment-in-response-to-unintentional-social-norm-violations/F4143AB3B88D41FB18F9962696A77151</a>
<a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/desc.70024">https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/desc.70024</a>&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

469. The psychology of embarrassment

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Brain fog is so much more than just feeling tired. It's that frustrating feeling of knowing what you want to say or do, but your brain simply won't cooperate. And whilst it's incredibly common, we're only just beginning to understand what actually causes it.

Watch on Netflix: HERE

In today's episode, we're breaking down the fascinating new research behind brain fog, including:


The three main causes of brain fog, from physical depletion to cognitive overload and neurological disruption


Why chronic stress, anxiety and mental load can leave your brain feeling exhausted


The surprising links between brain fog, inflammation, long COVID and gut health


Why women may be more susceptible to brain fog


The science of sleep, nutrition and the brain's natural cleaning system


What actually helps clear brain fog, beyond just drinking more water and getting more rest

Extra links: 

Brain fog and trauma: HERE

Brain fog and ADHD: HERE

Brain fog and food: HERE

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

Brain fog is so much more than just feeling tired. It's that frustrating feeling of knowing what you want to say or do, but your brain simply won't cooperate. And whilst it's incredibly common, we're only just beginning to understand what actually causes it.
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
In today's episode, we're breaking down the fascinating new research behind brain fog, including:
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>
The three main causes of brain fog, from physical depletion to cognitive overload and neurological disruption
</li>
<li>
Why chronic stress, anxiety and mental load can leave your brain feeling exhausted
</li>
<li>
The surprising links between brain fog, inflammation, long COVID and gut health
</li>
<li>
Why women may be more susceptible to brain fog
</li>
<li>
The science of sleep, nutrition and the brain's natural cleaning system
</li>
<li>
What actually helps clear brain fog, beyond just drinking more water and getting more rest
</li>
</ul>
Extra links:&nbsp;
Brain fog and trauma: <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/5b6iqJLaaf6EF9PL5smTGg?si=97e8dca19bc547e7">HERE</a>
Brain fog and ADHD: <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/0uUql8R4jrh3wIAtcUXO1b?si=5ae070c902bc4e61">HERE</a>
Brain fog and food: <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/2XbO4j44dBta1a5h2be952?si=197197df56ba4e8d">HERE</a>
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

468. The psychology of brain fog

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Does the taxi cab theory actually explain why some people suddenly become ready to settle down, or is it just another dating myth?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the psychology behind the infamous, Sex and The City taxi cab theory and asking whether timing really can determine who we end up with. We explore commitment readiness, the social clock, why our relationship priorities change as we age, and the painful psychology of watching someone give their next partner everything they refused to give you.

Watch on Netflix: HERE

We discuss:

• The psychology behind the taxi cab theory
• Why someone can suddenly become “ready” for commitment
• The foster girlfriend phenomenon
• Why timing matters, but compatibility matters more
• How to tell when someone is genuinely serious about you
• Why waiting for someone’s “light to switch on” can keep you stuck

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

Does the taxi cab theory actually explain why some people suddenly become ready to settle down, or is it just another dating myth?
In this episode, we&rsquo;re breaking down the psychology behind the infamous, Sex and The City taxi cab theory and asking whether timing really can determine who we end up with. We explore commitment readiness, the social clock, why our relationship priorities change as we age, and the painful psychology of watching someone give their next partner everything they refused to give you.
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
We discuss:
&bull; The psychology behind the taxi cab theory &bull; Why someone can suddenly become &ldquo;ready&rdquo; for commitment &bull; The foster girlfriend phenomenon &bull; Why timing matters, but compatibility matters more &bull; How to tell when someone is genuinely serious about you &bull; Why waiting for someone&rsquo;s &ldquo;light to switch on&rdquo; can keep you stuck
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

467. The psychology of the cab theory 

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470. Are the love languages a big myth?

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