Sometimes the loudest critic, our biggest hater is not someone we know, it is ourselves. We are the ones who are the first to judge ourselves, to shut ourselves and our ambitions down, to say the nastiest things. In today's episode we break down why we are our own worst critic, including: 
How we learn self criticism in childhood
The evolutionary component to criticism 
The role of the super ego 
The role of comparison 
Why no one is really looking at your that closely 
How to embrace radical self compassion and acceptance
How to use cognitive diffusion, and much more 

This episode is a rerun whilst Jemma is recovering from an illness. We will be back on Friday with a brand new episode. 

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

Sometimes the loudest critic, our biggest hater is not someone we know, it is ourselves. We are the ones who are the first to judge ourselves, to shut ourselves and our ambitions down, to say the nastiest things. In today's episode we break down why we are our own worst critic, including: 
<ul>
<li>How we learn self criticism in childhood</li>
<li>The evolutionary component to criticism </li>
<li>The role of the super ego </li>
<li>The role of comparison </li>
<li>Why no one is really looking at your that closely </li>
<li>How to embrace radical self compassion and acceptance</li>
<li>How to use cognitive diffusion, and much more </li>
</ul>
This episode is a rerun whilst Jemma is recovering from an illness. We will be back on Friday with a brand new episode. 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 



For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

New merchandise here: https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 
 
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
New merchandise here: <a href="https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/">https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/</a>

The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 



For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

New merchandise here: https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 
 
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
New merchandise here: <a href="https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/">https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/</a>

241. Are we our own worst critic?

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A lot of us try to convince ourselves we can be friends with our ex in the immediate aftermath of a breakup, but is that necesserily the best idea? In 2022 I did an episode with my ex-boyfriend talking about how a friendship was totally possible, well since then it is obvious to say that I have changed my mind, and in this episode I give my reasons, including: 
Why we (mistakedly) try to stay friends with our exes 
The types of relationships where this feels possible 
The consequences 
How it impacts our new relationships, self esteem, and ability to find closure
How to be friends with an ex if you MUST BE 
Essential boundaries for a friendship with your ex

This episode is the only time I have redone/revised an episode so we hope you enjoy. 



PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/755841/person-in-progress-by-jemma-sbeg/

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com



The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor. 

A lot of us try to convince ourselves we can be friends with our ex in the immediate aftermath of a breakup, but is that necesserily the best idea? In 2022 I did an episode with my ex-boyfriend talking about how a friendship was totally possible, well since then it is obvious to say that I have changed my mind, and in this episode I give my reasons, including: 
<ul>
<li>Why we (mistakedly) try to stay friends with our exes </li>
<li>The types of relationships where this feels possible </li>
<li>The consequences </li>
<li>How it impacts our new relationships, self esteem, and ability to find closure</li>
<li>How to be friends with an ex if you MUST BE </li>
<li>Essential boundaries for a friendship with your ex</li>
</ul>
This episode is the only time I have redone/revised an episode so we hope you enjoy. 
 
PREORDER MY BOOK: <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/755841/person-in-progress-by-jemma-sbeg/">https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/755841/person-in-progress-by-jemma-sbeg/</a> 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a> 
 
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor.

247. Can we be friends with our ex?

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Many of us have been facing increasing levels of political anxiety in the past days and weeks. It seems that the world has never been more divisive and polarised and there is a lot that we are uncertain and fearful of. In today’s episode we talk about how we can acknowledge that the future feels scary, but still find an internal sense of safety and peace, including:
The value of stoic principles and focusing on what you can control
The psychology of a strong belief system
The power of staying present and grounding ourselves
Overcoming doomscrolling and being informed but not overwhelmed
How to talk about politics in a healthy way

I know this time feels very scary and uncertain but I hope this tiny slice of the internet makes you feel safe and seen, love Jemma.



PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/755841/person-in-progress-by-jemma-sbeg/

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com





The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor. 

Many of us have been facing increasing levels of political anxiety in the past days and weeks. It seems that the world has never been more divisive and polarised and there is a lot that we are uncertain and fearful of. In today’s episode we talk about how we can acknowledge that the future feels scary, but still find an internal sense of safety and peace, including:
<ul>
<li>The value of stoic principles and focusing on what you can control</li>
<li>The psychology of a strong belief system</li>
<li>The power of staying present and grounding ourselves</li>
<li>Overcoming doomscrolling and being informed but not overwhelmed</li>
<li>How to talk about politics in a healthy way</li>
</ul>
I know this time feels very scary and uncertain but I hope this tiny slice of the internet makes you feel safe and seen, love Jemma.
 
PREORDER MY BOOK: <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/755841/person-in-progress-by-jemma-sbeg/">https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/755841/person-in-progress-by-jemma-sbeg/</a> 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a> 
 
 
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor.

246. How to cope with political anxiety

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We all know the stereotypes about the eldest child, the youngest and the only child, but the middle child often seems to be left out, and not just from our conversations on birth order theory, but also seemingly from the family sometimes. In today's episode, we putting a spotlight on the middle children, including how their position in the family makes them so agreeable, why they often become the conflict mediators, and how this can build resentment later in life. 

We also discuss why middle children feel so unseen, but also are the most independent, how they behave in friendships, relationships, in the workplace, and what happens when there are multiple middle children, as well as how to reparent your middle child. Listen now! 

PREORDER MY BOOK: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/755841/person-in-progress-by-jemma-sbeg/

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

We all know the stereotypes about the eldest child, the youngest and the only child, but the middle child often seems to be left out, and not just from our conversations on birth order theory, but also seemingly from the family sometimes. In today's episode, we putting a spotlight on the middle children, including how their position in the family makes them so agreeable, why they often become the conflict mediators, and how this can build resentment later in life. 
We also discuss why middle children feel so unseen, but also are the most independent, how they behave in friendships, relationships, in the workplace, and what happens when there are multiple middle children, as well as how to reparent your middle child. Listen now! 
PREORDER MY BOOK: <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/755841/person-in-progress-by-jemma-sbeg/">https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/755841/person-in-progress-by-jemma-sbeg/</a> 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a> 
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

245. The psychology of the middle child

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241. Are we our own worst critic?

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