Resentment is sometimes labelled as an ugly or bad emotion, something that is derived from a sense of entitlement. In actuality, resentment is a really useful emotion, it serves as an emotional alarm, it teaches us what we value, and it can help us understand our own expectations and sense of self worth even more. Despite that, when we don't manage our resentment well it can also come to harm our relationships or cause us to be too rash. In today's episode, we break down the psychology of resentment, including:
Why we experience resentment
What you resentment may be telling you 
Our 3 ways to respond to resentment 
How to release resentment and move through it 

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Resentment is sometimes labelled as an ugly or bad emotion, something that is derived from a sense of entitlement. In actuality, resentment is a really useful emotion, it serves as an emotional alarm, it teaches us what we value, and it can help us understand our own expectations and sense of self worth even more. Despite that, when we don't manage our resentment well it can also come to harm our relationships or cause us to be too rash. In today's episode, we break down the psychology of resentment, including:
<ul>
<li>Why we experience resentment</li>
<li>What you resentment may be telling you </li>
<li>Our 3 ways to respond to resentment </li>
<li>How to release resentment and move through it </li>
</ul>
Listen now! 
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Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast 
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A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

My book is out NOW: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
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My book is out NOW: <a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean">https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean</a>&nbsp;
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The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

Buy my book, Person in Progress: https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Buy my book, Person in Progress: <a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655">https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655</a>&nbsp;
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216. The psychology of resentment

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Moving to a new city is one of the most exciting (and emotionally challenging) things you can do in your twenties. Whether it’s for work, study, love, or a fresh start, leaving behind what’s familiar often brings a mix of freedom, fear, loneliness, and growth all at once. It’s a rite of passage, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy.

In this episode, I’m sharing my personal experience of moving cities multiple times in my 20s, including moving internationally for the first time, alongside the psychology that explains why this transition feels so destabilising—and what actually helps.

We explore:
• Why moving increases stress, emotional exhaustion, and homesickness
• Why it takes around 6 months to truly adjust to a new city
• The role of routine, repetition, and place attachment in feeling settled
• Why “going home too often” can slow down adjustment
• How novelty, social effort, and structure protect mental health during transitions

If you’ve just moved, or are thinking about it, this episode will help you feel less alone, more grounded, and more confident that what you’re feeling is normal, temporary, and part of the process.

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Moving to a new city is one of the most exciting (and emotionally challenging) things you can do in your twenties. Whether it&rsquo;s for work, study, love, or a fresh start, leaving behind what&rsquo;s familiar often brings a mix of freedom, fear, loneliness, and growth all at once. It&rsquo;s a rite of passage, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean it&rsquo;s easy.
In this episode, I&rsquo;m sharing my personal experience of moving cities multiple times in my 20s, including moving internationally for the first time, alongside the psychology that explains why this transition feels so destabilising&mdash;and what actually helps.
We explore: &bull; Why moving increases stress, emotional exhaustion, and homesickness &bull; Why it takes around 6 months to truly adjust to a new city &bull; The role of routine, repetition, and place attachment in feeling settled &bull; Why &ldquo;going home too often&rdquo; can slow down adjustment &bull; How novelty, social effort, and structure protect mental health during transitions
If you&rsquo;ve just moved, or are thinking about it, this episode will help you feel less alone, more grounded, and more confident that what you&rsquo;re feeling is normal, temporary, and part of the process.
<a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/copy-of-book">ORDER MY BOOK</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
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For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
&nbsp;
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376. 7 tips for moving to a new country in your 20s

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Navigating friendship in your 20s is already complicated – so what happens when we add a third person into the mix? The group chat might be buzzing, there’s always someone to talk to, and belonging to a group of three can feel like a safe space. But what happens when two start getting closer, plans are made without you, or you’re constantly wondering if you’re the extra one?

In today’s episode, we unpack the psychology of friendship trios - why they feel so special, when they can hurt, and how to tell the difference between a rough patch and a dynamic that’s genuinely not good for you.

We explore:

•        The beauty of a friendship trio
•        Friendship dyads vs triads
•        The role of Simmelian ties
•        When imbalances start to show (alliances, jealousy and feeling like the ‘third wheel’)
•        What healthy trio dynamics actually look like (and how to achieve it)
•        Hot to know when it’s time to step back

If you’re navigating this nuanced aspect of friendship, this episode is for you.

 

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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

Navigating friendship in your 20s is already complicated &ndash; so what happens when we add a third person into the mix? The group chat might be buzzing, there&rsquo;s always someone to talk to, and belonging to a group of three can feel like a safe space. But what happens when two start getting closer, plans are made without you, or you&rsquo;re constantly wondering if you&rsquo;re the extra one?
In today&rsquo;s episode, we unpack the psychology of friendship trios - why they feel so special, when they can hurt, and how to tell the difference between a rough patch and a dynamic that&rsquo;s genuinely not good for you.
We explore:
&bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The beauty of a friendship trio &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Friendship dyads vs triads &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of Simmelian ties &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;When imbalances start to show (alliances, jealousy and feeling like the &lsquo;third wheel&rsquo;) &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;What healthy trio dynamics actually look like (and how to achieve it) &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Hot to know when it&rsquo;s time to step back
If you&rsquo;re navigating this nuanced aspect of friendship, this episode is for you.
&nbsp;
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Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
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For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
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375. The psychology of friendship trios

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In our 20s especially, the fear of regret can seem like every choice has the potential to ‘ruin’ our future - the degree we picked (or didn’t), the person we stayed with, the move we were too scared to make. And then there are the things we didn’t do at all, the opportunities we let pass, the words we never said, that still weigh on us years later. 

In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of regret – what it actually is, why it’s so tied to self-blame, and how it can either keep us frozen or push us forward. 

We explore:
•        The role of upward and downward counterfactual thinking
•        How regret can both motivate and stagnate us 
•        The four BIGGEST regrets people have
•        The paradox of the ‘perfect’ decision
•        Why we fear regret more than we feel it
•        How to grow through regret with acceptance and compassion 

If you want to quieten the ‘what if’ thoughts, this episode is for you.

ORDER MY BOOK

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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

In our 20s especially, the fear of regret can seem like every choice has the potential to &lsquo;ruin&rsquo; our future - the degree we picked (or didn&rsquo;t), the person we stayed with, the move we were too scared to make. And then there are the things we didn&rsquo;t do at all, the opportunities we let pass, the words we never said, that still weigh on us years later.&nbsp;
In this episode, we&rsquo;re unpacking the psychology of regret &ndash; what it actually is, why it&rsquo;s so tied to self-blame, and how it can either keep us frozen or push us forward.&nbsp;
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of upward and downward counterfactual thinking &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How regret can both motivate and stagnate us&nbsp; &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The four BIGGEST regrets people have &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The paradox of the &lsquo;perfect&rsquo; decision &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why we fear regret more than we feel it &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How to grow through regret with acceptance and compassion&nbsp;
If you want to quieten the &lsquo;what if&rsquo; thoughts, this episode is for you.
<a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/copy-of-book">ORDER MY BOOK</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

374. The psychology of regret

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