Our inability to make decisions is wasting our time, keeping us acting from a place of fear and stuck in a life we don't want! It's also not entirely our fault and often stems from unconscious mechanisms, neuroticism and fears that we haven't recognised. In today's episode we break down: 
Why you struggle to make decisions
The consequences of our chronic indecisiveness 
Perfection and indecision 
Choice overload 
A fear of failure 
How to overcome your indecisiveness using the 80/20 rule
The 'trusted advisor' method 

Listen now! 

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg 

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Our inability to make decisions is wasting our time, keeping us acting from a place of fear and stuck in a life we don't want! It's also not entirely our fault and often stems from unconscious mechanisms, neuroticism and fears that we haven't recognised. In today's episode we break down: 
<ul>
<li>Why you struggle to make decisions</li>
<li>The consequences of our chronic indecisiveness </li>
<li>Perfection and indecision </li>
<li>Choice overload </li>
<li>A fear of failure </li>
<li>How to overcome your indecisiveness using the 80/20 rule</li>
<li>The 'trusted advisor' method </li>
</ul>
Listen now! 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg 
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

My book is out NOW: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
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My book is out NOW: <a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean">https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

Buy my book, Person in Progress: https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Buy my book, Person in Progress: <a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655">https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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188. Why are we so indecisive?

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Superstitions can seem irrational on the surface, but beneath them is something incredibly human - the need for meaning, comfort, and a sense of control in an uncertain world. In this episode, we explore the psychology of superstition - why the mind creates these beliefs, why they can feel so reassuring, and what they reveal about anxiety, ritual, hope, and the stories we inherit.

We explore:
•        Historical origins of common superstitions
•        The role of pattern recognition and gut feelings
•        How rituals soothe anxiety and create a sense of certainty
•        When superstitions become self-fulfilling and shape performance
•        How magical thinking overlaps with OCD and anxiety
•        Why it's important to create our own magic in our 20s 

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

Our favourite sources: 
https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/everyday-magic-superstition

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797610372631

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/behavioural-and-cognitive-psychotherapy/article/abs/magical-thinking-in-obsessivecompulsive-disorder-and-generalized-anxiety-disorder/AAA4404A26637024E2E5D01B3F133928

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

Superstitions can seem irrational on the surface, but beneath them is something incredibly human - the need for meaning, comfort, and a sense of control in an uncertain world. In this episode, we explore the psychology of superstition - why the mind creates these beliefs, why they can feel so reassuring, and what they reveal about anxiety, ritual, hope, and the stories we inherit.
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Historical origins of common superstitions &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of pattern recognition and gut feelings &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How rituals soothe anxiety and create a sense of certainty &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;When superstitions become self-fulfilling and shape performance &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How magical thinking overlaps with OCD and anxiety &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why it's important to create our own magic in our 20s&nbsp;
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
Our favourite sources:&nbsp; <a href="https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/everyday-magic-superstition">https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/everyday-magic-superstition</a>
<a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797610372631">https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797610372631</a>
<a href="https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/behavioural-and-cognitive-psychotherapy/article/abs/magical-thinking-in-obsessivecompulsive-disorder-and-generalized-anxiety-disorder/AAA4404A26637024E2E5D01B3F133928">https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/behavioural-and-cognitive-psychotherapy/article/abs/magical-thinking-in-obsessivecompulsive-disorder-and-generalized-anxiety-disorder/AAA4404A26637024E2E5D01B3F133928</a>
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

426. The psychology of superstition 

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Why do we become obsessed with people who don't want us back? Even when we know it will never work? Even when we know there's no convincing them? In this episode, we unpack the psychology behind unrequited love, limerence, longing, and the irresistible pull of unavailable people, including:
The neuroscience of craving, attraction, and obsession
How intermittent reinforcement keeps us emotionally hooked
Jacques Lacan's "object of desire" theory
Why high achievers often struggle with unrequited love
The role of limerence, fantasy, and idealisation
The Zeigarnik Effect and our need for closure
Practical strategies to finally move on and let go
Creating your own closure when none is given
Plus so so much more 

If you've ever found yourself unable to stop thinking about someone who doesn't feel the same way, this episode is for you. Together, we'll explore why it happens, what it reveals about us, and how to break free from the cycle

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

Why do we become obsessed with people who don't want us back? Even when we know it will never work? Even when we know there's no convincing them?&nbsp;In this episode, we unpack the psychology behind unrequited love, limerence, longing, and the irresistible pull of unavailable people, including:
<ul>
<li>The neuroscience of craving, attraction, and obsession</li>
<li>How intermittent reinforcement keeps us emotionally hooked</li>
<li>Jacques Lacan's "object of desire" theory</li>
<li>Why high achievers often struggle with unrequited love</li>
<li>The role of limerence, fantasy, and idealisation</li>
<li>The Zeigarnik Effect and our need for closure</li>
<li>Practical strategies to finally move on and let go</li>
<li>Creating your own closure when none is given</li>
<li>Plus so so much more&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
If you've ever found yourself unable to stop thinking about someone who doesn't feel the same way, this episode is for you. Together, we'll explore why it happens, what it reveals about us, and how to break free from the cycle
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

425. Why we want people who don't want us back 

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We all have something about our behaviour or our lives we really want to change. But every time we go to try, we find we lose motivation very quickly and end up back where we started with the behaviour still in tact. Whether it's quitting smoking, exercising more, wanting to eat healthier, sleep better, stop gossiping, be a better partner; bad habits usually all have the same psychology. 

In today's episode we invited on Harvard-trained behavioural scientist & BCG Managing Director, Julia Dhar, to give us the step by step guide to changing bad habits. We talk about: 
Where bad habits come from? 
Why bad habits stick?
What's happening in our brain when we can't quit a bad habit?
The 3 principles of behaviour change you need to know to change 
How to help OTHERS change when they don't want to?
Why your approach to failing will determine if you're successful 
Plus much more! 

Happy listening! 

Buy Julia's book here: How Change Really Works

Watch her TedTalk here: How to Disagree Productively 

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

 

We all have something about our behaviour or our lives we really want to change. But every time we go to try, we find we lose motivation very quickly and end up back where we started with the behaviour still in tact. Whether it's quitting smoking, exercising more, wanting to eat healthier, sleep better, stop gossiping, be a better partner; bad habits usually all have the same psychology.&nbsp;
In today's episode we invited on Harvard-trained behavioural scientist &amp; BCG Managing Director, Julia Dhar, to give us the step by step guide to changing bad habits. We talk about:&nbsp;
<ul>
<li>Where bad habits come from?&nbsp;</li>
<li>Why bad habits stick?</li>
<li>What's happening in our brain when we can't quit a bad habit?</li>
<li>The 3 principles of behaviour change you need to know to change&nbsp;</li>
<li>How to help OTHERS change when they don't want to?</li>
<li>Why your approach to failing will determine if you're successful&nbsp;</li>
<li>Plus much more!&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
Happy listening!&nbsp;
Buy Julia's book here: <a href="https://www.bcg.com/capabilities/people-strategy/how-change-really-works">How Change Really Works</a>
Watch her TedTalk here: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phgjouv0BUA">How to Disagree Productively</a>&nbsp;
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
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424. How to ACTUALLY change your bad habits ft. Harvard Behavioural Scientist, Julia Dhar

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188. Why are we so indecisive?

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