When we experience healthy love for the first time after years of unsettling, unhealthy, toxic relationships, one of the first reactions we can have is "why does this feel so boring?" Often we confuse safety with a lack of passion, or assume that just because this person doesn't activate our nervous system, we are missing the spark. This is often left over from past relationships where we have confused anxiety with excitement. 

In this episode, we bring on Sarah Yudkin, the founder of You Love and You Learn to break down the relationship anxiety that comes with experiencing healthy love for the first time and how to dissect your relationship OCD, the unconscious ways we sabotage relationships and all that comes with it. Listen now. 



Sarah's website: https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/

Follow Sarah on Instagram: @youloveandyoulearn

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When we experience healthy love for the first time after years of unsettling, unhealthy, toxic relationships, one of the first reactions we can have is "why does this feel so boring?" Often we confuse safety with a lack of passion, or assume that just because this person doesn't activate our nervous system, we are missing the spark. This is often left over from past relationships where we have confused anxiety with excitement. 
In this episode, we bring on Sarah Yudkin, the founder of You Love and You Learn to break down the relationship anxiety that comes with experiencing healthy love for the first time and how to dissect your relationship OCD, the unconscious ways we sabotage relationships and all that comes with it. Listen now. 
 
Sarah's website: <a href="https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/">https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/</a> 
Follow Sarah on Instagram: @youloveandyoulearn
Follow the Podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast
Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 



For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

New merchandise here: https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 
 
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
New merchandise here: <a href="https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/">https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/</a>

The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 



For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

New merchandise here: https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 
 
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
New merchandise here: <a href="https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/">https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/</a>

154. Why does healthy love feel boring? ft. Sarah Yudkin

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Work makes up a large component of our lives. It's estimated that 1/3 of our waking lives will be spent working, so when that environment is toxic or harmful, it takes it's toll. Especially in our 20s, a toxic workplace can be quite a negative, formative experience and leave us with poor confidence, imposter syndrome and chronic burnout. In today's episode we discuss the psychological impact of bad jobs, including: 
The burnout cycle
Psychological enmeshment with a workplace
Long term impact on self esteem and future employment 
Tips for surviving a toxic workplace
Tips on how to thrive afterwards, despite the trauma 

I also share my own lived experience with a toxic workplace and what I wish I'd known before. Listen now! 

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

Work makes up a large component of our lives. It's estimated that 1/3 of our waking lives will be spent working, so when that environment is toxic or harmful, it takes it's toll. Especially in our 20s, a toxic workplace can be quite a negative, formative experience and leave us with poor confidence, imposter syndrome and chronic burnout. In today's episode we discuss the psychological impact of bad jobs, including: 
<ul>
<li>The burnout cycle</li>
<li>Psychological enmeshment with a workplace</li>
<li>Long term impact on self esteem and future employment </li>
<li>Tips for surviving a toxic workplace</li>
<li>Tips on how to thrive afterwards, despite the trauma </li>
</ul>
I also share my own lived experience with a toxic workplace and what I wish I'd known before. Listen now! 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>

233. Surviving a toxic workplace

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When someone criticises us we naturally feel on edge and defensive. This is because criticism threatens our ego and our sense of self and so we have a very emotional reaction. But that doesn't have to be the case. In today's episode, we break down:
What makes us so sensitive to criticism
Hypercritical parenting and an aversion to feedback 
Rejection sensitivity and criticism 
The differences between criticism and feedback
How to properly approach criticism
When the criticism isn't worth your time

All of that and more as we unpack the psychology behind criticism. Listen now! 

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

When someone criticises us we naturally feel on edge and defensive. This is because criticism threatens our ego and our sense of self and so we have a very emotional reaction. But that doesn't have to be the case. In today's episode, we break down:
<ul>
<li>What makes us so sensitive to criticism</li>
<li>Hypercritical parenting and an aversion to feedback </li>
<li>Rejection sensitivity and criticism </li>
<li>The differences between criticism and feedback</li>
<li>How to properly approach criticism</li>
<li>When the criticism isn't worth your time</li>
</ul>
All of that and more as we unpack the psychology behind criticism. Listen now! 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>

232. Why do we hate criticism?

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If nothing else, our 20s are a time for reinvention and transformation. We become clearer and clearer about the version of us we want to be, and hopefully more confident around expressing our authentic elves, but sometimes this is interrupted by periods of boredom, stagnation, isolation and discomfort. These are all signs that something in our lives needs to change, and it needs to change now. In today's episode we break down five ways to reinvent yourself during your 20s, including: 
Theory of opposites
Visualisation and choosing the 'theme' for your next era
The timeline for change 
The power of risk + microrisks 
Changing 'what if' thinking into 'what else' or 'so what?' + more 

Listen now when you're ready for transformation.

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

If nothing else, our 20s are a time for reinvention and transformation. We become clearer and clearer about the version of us we want to be, and hopefully more confident around expressing our authentic elves, but sometimes this is interrupted by periods of boredom, stagnation, isolation and discomfort. These are all signs that something in our lives needs to change, and it needs to change now. In today's episode we break down five ways to reinvent yourself during your 20s, including: 
<ul>
<li>Theory of opposites</li>
<li>Visualisation and choosing the 'theme' for your next era</li>
<li>The timeline for change </li>
<li>The power of risk + microrisks </li>
<li>Changing 'what if' thinking into 'what else' or 'so what?' + more </li>
</ul>
Listen now when you're ready for transformation.
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>

231. 5 ways to reinvent yourself in your 20s

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154. Why does healthy love feel boring? ft. Sarah Yudkin

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