We all want our kids to be resilient, but the word is used so widely that it’s hard to know what it is, or how you get it. In this Mojo Monday, Carly looks at what drives resilience: hardiness.

What's covered:

• Why resilience is an outcome, a label we give after we’ve seen how someone handles a challenge
• Where hardiness research began, with Suzanne Kobasa and Salvatore Maddi
• The 3Cs of commitment, control and challenge, with examples for parents and young people
• The fourth C, connection, and how to help kids through friendship conflict
• The one question that can change how we respond to stress.
• The questions Carly uses herself when life hits hard

Paul’s research shows hardiness can be developed at any age, and the people who start lowest often improve the most.

Want to dive deeper? Check ou The Hardiness Effect by Dr Paul Taylor (Wiley)

Carly is a counsellor and coach who specialises in building psychological hardiness, which is the ability to navigate challenge, stay engaged, and take meaningful action under pressure. Her work integrates modern psychology with Eastern and Stoic approaches, helping people build resilience, live with purpose, and respond to life’s challenges with greater clarity, courage and steadiness.