When was the last time you checked in on a friend? Maybe months or even years have passed by and you feel awkward about reestablishing the connection. Maybe the last time you did, they didn't reply. Author Andy Salkind tells Dr. Laurie why it's worth it to ignore your hesitations and just reach out—and shares how a simple message from a friend saved his own life.
WARNING: This episode deals with depression and suicidality. If you’re based in the US, you can call or text the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Similar services are available in pretty much every other country. So, if you need help, please, please reach out.
Experts Mentioned:
- Peggy Liu, Ben L. Fryrear Endowed Chair and Professor of Marketing, University of Pittsburgh
Resources Mentioned:
- "The Surprise of Reaching Out: Appreciated More Than We Think," (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2023)
Related episodes of "The Happiness Lab":
- "The Secret to Making Friends as an Adult"
- "How to Make Friends and Compliment People"
- "Beat Your Isolation Loneliness"
- "Help Others to Help Yourself"
- "The Introvert's Guide to Extroversion"
- "Harnessing People Around us to Feel Happier (Live with Ethan Kross)"

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