Love Factually is a new podcast looking at what "rom com" movies get right and wrong about relationships. Dr Laurie Santos joined the hosts Eli Finkel of Northwestern University and Paul Eastwick from UC Davis to talk about her favorite 80s teen movie, Say Anything.

In this episode, they discuss what Cameron Crowe's 1989 film tells us about what constitutes stalking; and the transition when romantic partners supplant our parents as our closest relationships.   

<a href="https://www.lovefactuallypod.com/">Love Factually</a> is a new podcast looking at what "rom com" movies get right and wrong about relationships. Dr Laurie Santos joined the hosts Eli Finkel of Northwestern University and Paul Eastwick from UC Davis to talk about her favorite 80s teen movie, Say Anything.
In this episode, they discuss what Cameron Crowe's 1989 film tells us about what constitutes stalking; and the transition when romantic partners supplant our parents as our closest relationships.&nbsp; &nbsp;

You might think you know what it takes to lead a happier life… more money, a better job, or Instagram-worthy vacations. You’re dead wrong. Yale professor Dr. Laurie Santos has studied the science of happiness and found that many of us do the exact opposite of what will truly make our lives better. Based on the psychology course she teaches at Yale -- the most popular class in the university’s 300-year history -- Laurie will take you through the latest scientific research and share some surprising and inspiring stories that will change the way you think about happiness.

You might think you know what it takes to lead a happier life… more money, a better job, or Instagram-worthy vacations. You’re dead wrong. Yale professor Dr. Laurie Santos has studied the science of happiness and found that many of us do the exact opposite of what will truly make our lives better. Based on the psychology course she teaches at Yale -- the most popular class in the university’s 300-year history -- Laurie will take you through the latest scientific research and share some surprising and inspiring stories that will change the way you think about happiness.

The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

Dr Laurie Talks Romance, Parents and Stalking on 'Love Factually' 

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Over the past decade, rates of depression and loneliness have surged among young people. Many researchers point to one major change: the rise of smartphones and social media. But what does the data actually show?

Psychologist Jean Twenge has spent years studying how technology shapes adolescent happiness. Dr. Laurie sits down with her to unpack new findings from the 2026 World Happiness Report on how social media use affects teen wellbeing around the world.

What happens when kids spend hours a day on these platforms? Is any amount of social media actually beneficial? And what can we all do to build healthier relationships with our phones, regardless of age?

Resources mentioned in this episode: 

“What is the International Day of Happiness?”

“World Happiness Report 2026”

iGen: Why Today's Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy—and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood

“Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?”

“National Trends in the Prevalence and Treatment of Depression in Adolescents and Young Adults”

“Pew Research Center Mobile Fact Sheet”

“Increases in Depression, Self‐Harm, and Suicide Among U.S. Adolescents After 2012 and Links to Technology Use: Possible Mechanisms”

“The Effects of Social Media Restriction: Meta-Analytic Evidence from Randomized controlled Trials”

“Am I Happier Without You? Social Media Detox and Well-Being: A Meta-Analysis of Randomized Controlled Trials”

PISA 2022 Database

10 Rules for Raising Kids in a High-Tech World: How Parents Can Stop Smartphones, Social Media, and Gaming from Taking Over Their Children's Lives

“Over 20,000 Educators Share Insights on School Cell Phone Policies”

“Managing Student Digital Distraction in the College Classroom: a Self-Determination Theory Perspective”

Over the past decade,&nbsp;rates&nbsp;of&nbsp;depression and loneliness have surged among young people. Many researchers point to one major change: the rise of smartphones and social media. But what does the data actually show?
Psychologist Jean Twenge has spent years studying how technology shapes adolescent happiness. Dr. Laurie sits down with her to unpack new findings from the <a href="https://www.worldhappiness.report/">2026 World Happiness Report</a> on how social media use affects teen wellbeing around the world.
What happens when kids spend hours a day on these platforms? Is any amount of social media actually beneficial? And what can we all do to build healthier relationships with our phones, regardless of age?
Resources mentioned in this episode:&nbsp;
&ldquo;<a href="https://www.un.org/en/observances/happiness-day">What is the International Day of Happiness?</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://www.worldhappiness.report/">World Happiness Report 2026</a>&rdquo;
<a href="https://books.apple.com/us/book/igen/id1180611517">iGen: Why Today's Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy&mdash;and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood</a>
&ldquo;<a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/09/has-the-smartphone-destroyed-a-generation/534198/">Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27940701/">National Trends in the Prevalence and Treatment of Depression in Adolescents and Young Adults</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/fact-sheet/mobile/">Pew Research Center Mobile Fact Sheet</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9176070/">Increases in Depression, Self‐Harm, and Suicide Among U.S. Adolescents After 2012 and Links to Technology Use: Possible Mechanisms</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2666560325000714">The Effects of Social Media Restriction: Meta-Analytic Evidence from Randomized controlled Trials</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11939267/">Am I Happier Without You? Social Media Detox and Well-Being: A Meta-Analysis of Randomized Controlled Trials</a>&rdquo;
<a href="https://www.oecd.org/en/data/datasets/pisa-2022-database.html">PISA 2022 Database</a>
<a href="https://books.apple.com/us/book/10-rules-for-raising-kids-in-a-high-tech-world/id6743085792">10 Rules for Raising Kids in a High-Tech World: How Parents Can Stop Smartphones, Social Media, and Gaming from Taking Over Their Children's Lives</a>
&ldquo;<a href="https://penntoday.upenn.edu/news/angela-duckworth-over-20000-educators-share-insights-school-cell-phone-policies">Over 20,000 Educators Share Insights on School Cell Phone Policies</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10648-023-09780-y">Managing Student Digital Distraction in the College Classroom: a Self-Determination Theory Perspective</a>&rdquo;

What is Social Media Doing to Kids? with Dr. Jean Twenge

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Work doesn’t end when the workday does. Even after we close our laptops, our minds keep replaying awkward meetings, looming deadlines, and unfinished to-do lists. Over time, that “always on” mentality can quietly hijack our relationships, our health, and our happiness.

Dr. Laurie sits down with psychologist and bestselling author Guy Winch (Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life) to explore the science of work stress — and why so many of us get stuck in fight-or-flight mode long after we’ve left the office. 

Plus, Ben Walter, host of “The Unshakeables” and CEO of Chase for Business, shares what he’s learned from working with small business owners who don’t have the option to simply “clock out.”

If you’ve ever felt like work is bleeding into everything, this episode offers science-based tools to help you take your life back.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life

"Burnout: A Review of Theory and Measurement"

"The Relationship Between Workplace Stressors and Mortality and Health Costs in the United States"

"How Small Businesses Drive the American Economy"

"Small Business Facts"

“The Unshakeables”

"Yerkes-Dodson Law Of Arousal And Performance"

“The Use of Imagery to Manipulate Challenge and Threat Appraisal States in Athletes”

“Rebuilding After a Blaze: Luna Gourmet Coffee & Tea”

Work doesn&rsquo;t end when the workday does. Even after we close our laptops, our minds keep replaying awkward meetings, looming deadlines, and unfinished to-do lists. Over time, that &ldquo;always on&rdquo; mentality can quietly hijack our relationships, our health, and our happiness.
Dr. Laurie sits down with psychologist and bestselling author Guy Winch (<a href="https://books.apple.com/us/book/mind-over-grind/id6747038189">Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life</a>) to explore the science of work stress &mdash; and why so many of us get stuck in fight-or-flight mode long after we&rsquo;ve left the office.&nbsp;
Plus, Ben Walter, host of &ldquo;<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unshakeables/id1725983618">The Unshakeables</a>&rdquo; and CEO of&nbsp;Chase&nbsp;for&nbsp;Business, shares what he&rsquo;s learned from working with small&nbsp;business&nbsp;owners who don&rsquo;t have the option to simply &ldquo;clock out.&rdquo;
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt like work is bleeding into everything, this episode offers science-based tools to help you take your life back.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
<a href="https://books.apple.com/us/book/mind-over-grind/id6747038189">Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life</a>
"<a href="https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8834764/">Burnout: A Review of Theory and Measurement</a>"
"<a href="https://pubsonline.informs.org/doi/10.1287/mnsc.2014.2115">The Relationship Between Workplace Stressors and Mortality and Health Costs in the United States</a>"
"<a href="https://www.forbes.com/councils/forbesbusinesscouncil/2022/03/25/how-small-businesses-drive-the-american-economy/">How Small Businesses Drive the American Economy</a>"
"<a href="https://advocacy.sba.gov/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Job_Creation_fact_sheet_FINAL_0.pdf">Small Business Facts</a>"
&ldquo;<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unshakeables/id1725983618">The Unshakeables</a>&rdquo;
"<a href="https://www.simplypsychology.org/what-is-the-yerkes-dodson-law.html">Yerkes-Dodson Law Of Arousal And Performance</a>"
&ldquo;<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20587822/">The Use of Imagery to Manipulate Challenge and Threat Appraisal States in Athletes</a>&rdquo;
&ldquo;<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/rebuilding-after-a-blaze-luna-gourmet-coffee-tea/id1725983618?i=1000642623023">Rebuilding After a Blaze: Luna Gourmet Coffee &amp; Tea</a>&rdquo;

How to Stop Work From Taking Over Your Life

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In Part 2 of Dr. Laurie’s conversation with researchers Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, we learn how couples can raise complaints without damaging their relationship — and how to respond constructively when a partner voices a concern. Their research shows that fighting doesn’t have to pull couples apart. When handled well, conflict can actually make relationships stronger.

Further reading: Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connectionby Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman.

In Part 2 of Dr. Laurie&rsquo;s conversation with researchers Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, we learn how couples can raise complaints without damaging their relationship &mdash; and how to respond constructively when a partner voices a concern. Their research shows that fighting doesn&rsquo;t have to pull couples apart. When handled well, conflict can actually make relationships stronger.
Further reading: <a href="https://books.apple.com/us/book/fight-right/id6448687736">Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection</a> by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman.

Inside the Love Lab with Drs. John & Julie Gottman (Part 2)

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