On this bestie advice segment we're talking about what success can quietly cost you. Our listener built the business, bought the place, sorted all of it herself and the version of her that made that happen doesn't know how to clock off. She corrects her partner constantly, won't ask him for anything, then resents him for not offering. He told her he feels more like an employee than a partner and she hasn't stopped thinking about it since. She's not being difficult. She just doesn't know how to be soft after fifteen years of hard being the only thing that worked.