At some point, your teen will be faced with choices about alcohol consumption. What does the research tell us about parents’ role in this?

Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker and internationally published author, with 25 years experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

At some point, your teen will be faced with choices about alcohol consumption. What does the research tell us about parents’ role in this?
Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker and internationally published author, with 25 years experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

When it comes to raising little ones, we often feel as though we have a small village around us – in morning play groups, meeting other parents at tots’ birthday parties, or on the sides of sports fields. It can feel like we have it (mostly) under control. Until our child gradually emerges into their teen years and so much changes! It is a unique time for both you and your child.

Sometimes, everything you thought you knew goes out the window and you’re struggling to keep up. You look around and the village seems to have diminished. Raising Teens will be part of your support system – your village! There will be something here for everyone who cares for teens. Most importantly, this is your resource, so we want to hear from you – your challenges, your suggestions – you are part of this community.

For more information, expert advice or to ask Collett a question, visit raisingteens.au.

The information provided on this podcast is for general educational purposes only and does not take into account your personal situation. It is not a substitute for professional advice. We recommend you seek a medical or healthcare professional if you are seeking advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via the Hope website, Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram. 

When it comes to raising little ones, we often feel as though we have a small village around us – in morning play groups, meeting other parents at tots’ birthday parties, or on the sides of sports fields. It can feel like we have it (mostly) under control. Until our child gradually emerges into their teen years and so much changes! It is a unique time for both you and your child.
Sometimes, everything you thought you knew goes out the window and you’re struggling to keep up. You look around and the village seems to have diminished. Raising Teens will be part of your support system – your village! There will be something here for everyone who cares for teens. Most importantly, this is your resource, so we want to hear from you – your challenges, your suggestions – you are part of this community.
For more information, expert advice or to ask Collett a question, visit <a href="https://www.raisingteenagers.com.au/" data-auth="VerificationFailed" data-linkindex="0">raisingteens.au</a>.
The information provided on this podcast is for general educational purposes only and does not take into account your personal situation. It is not a substitute for professional advice. We recommend you seek a medical or healthcare professional if you are seeking advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at <a href="http://www.hopepodcasts.com.au/">hopepodcasts.com.au</a>. And send the team a message via the <a href="https://hope1032.com.au/listen/podcasts/">Hope website</a>, <a href="https://hope1032.com.au/listen/#apps">Hope 103.2’s app</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Hope103.2">Facebook</a> or <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sydneyshope1032/">Instagram</a>.

Raising Teens with Collett Smart

When it comes to raising little ones, we often feel as though we have a small village around us – in morning play groups, meeting other parents at tots’ birthday parties, or on the sides of sports fields. It can feel like we have it (mostly) under control. Until our child gradually emerges into their teen years and so much changes! It is a unique time for both you and your child.

Sometimes, everything you thought you knew goes out the window and you’re struggling to keep up. You look around and the village seems to have diminished. Raising Teens will be part of your support system – your village! There will be something here for everyone who cares for teens. Most importantly, this is your resource, so we want to hear from you – your challenges, your suggestions – you are part of this community.

For more information, expert advice or to ask Collett a question, visit raisingteens.au.

The information provided on this podcast is for general educational purposes only and does not take into account your personal situation. It is not a substitute for professional advice. We recommend you seek a medical or healthcare professional if you are seeking advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram. 

When it comes to raising little ones, we often feel as though we have a small village around us – in morning play groups, meeting other parents at tots’ birthday parties, or on the sides of sports fields. It can feel like we have it (mostly) under control. Until our child gradually emerges into their teen years and so much changes! It is a unique time for both you and your child.
Sometimes, everything you thought you knew goes out the window and you’re struggling to keep up. You look around and the village seems to have diminished. Raising Teens will be part of your support system – your village! There will be something here for everyone who cares for teens. Most importantly, this is your resource, so we want to hear from you – your challenges, your suggestions – you are part of this community.
For more information, expert advice or to ask Collett a question, visit <a href="https://www.raisingteenagers.com.au/" data-auth="VerificationFailed" data-linkindex="0">raisingteens.au</a>.
The information provided on this podcast is for general educational purposes only and does not take into account your personal situation. It is not a substitute for professional advice. We recommend you seek a medical or healthcare professional if you are seeking advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at <a href="http://www.hopepodcasts.com.au/">hopepodcasts.com.au</a>. And send the team a message via <a href="https://hope1032.com.au/listen/#apps">Hope 103.2’s app</a>, <a href="https://www.facebook.com/Hope103.2">Facebook</a> or <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sydneyshope1032/">Instagram</a>.

S1E9 Teens and Alcohol

About the Guests:

Aduk Dau is a resilient community leader born in Duk Payuel, South Sudan. Growing up amid civil war, she lived in a refugee camp in Kenya before resettling in Australia, where she became an advocate for refugee families. She is a nurse, interpreter, community leader, and storyteller, and the co-author of For Hope, Love & Life Itself, which narrates her journey from South Sudan to Australia.

Marion Knell is a UK-based expert who has devoted decades to working with refugee families across Europe. Her expertise spans trauma recovery, intercultural adjustment, and family support. She has authored books such as Families on the Move and consults with Refugee Highway Partnership and European Freedom Network on care for refugees and refugee workers, developing courses for churches on working with traumatised refugees and supporting those who care for them.

Key Takeaways:
Empathy and Understanding: Recognising the pre- and post-trauma experienced by refugee children is essential for educators and communities to adequately support their growth and adaptation.
Cultural Sensitivity: Creating inclusive educational environments requires teachers to be cognisant of the cultural background and specific needs of refugee students.
Parental Role in Adolescence: Refugee parents often struggle with the cultural transition, needing support to guide their teens through identity formation and integration.
Resilience and Growth: Stories of post-traumatic growth exemplify how crisis can forge stronger, more resilient individuals capable of contributing meaningfully to society.
Community Involvement: Establishing connections through local initiatives and fostering genuine relationships with refugees can greatly enhance their sense of belonging and integration into the community.

Notable Quotes:
"My hope for refugee families that come to Australia is that life will change." - Aduk Dau
"Resilient, they've been through a lot and they have to be supported so they can fit in and adjust." - Aduk Dau
"I think it's important to be affected by what we hear, but not infected." - Marion Knell
"One of the best things we can do if we are on the outside of the community is to offer help and support for the children." - Marion Knell
"For young people to heal, achieve autonomy and live interdependently in the community." - Marion Knell

Resources:
Aduk Dau's Book: "For Hope, Love, and Life Itself"
Marion Knell's Work with Welcome Churches: Welcome Churches

 

About the Guests:
Aduk Dau is a resilient community leader born in Duk Payuel, South Sudan. Growing up amid civil war, she lived in a refugee camp in Kenya before resettling in Australia, where she became an advocate for refugee families. She is a nurse, interpreter, community leader, and storyteller, and the co-author of For Hope, Love &amp; Life Itself, which narrates her journey from South Sudan to Australia.
Marion Knell is a UK-based expert who has devoted decades to working with refugee families across Europe. Her expertise spans trauma recovery, intercultural adjustment, and family support. She has authored books such as Families on the Move and consults with Refugee Highway Partnership and European Freedom Network on care for refugees and refugee workers, developing courses for churches on working with traumatised refugees and supporting those who care for them.
Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li>Empathy and Understanding: Recognising the pre- and post-trauma experienced by refugee children is essential for educators and communities to adequately support their growth and adaptation.</li>
<li>Cultural Sensitivity: Creating inclusive educational environments requires teachers to be cognisant of the cultural background and specific needs of refugee students.</li>
<li>Parental Role in Adolescence: Refugee parents often struggle with the cultural transition, needing support to guide their teens through identity formation and integration.</li>
<li>Resilience and Growth: Stories of post-traumatic growth exemplify how crisis can forge stronger, more resilient individuals capable of contributing meaningfully to society.</li>
<li>Community Involvement: Establishing connections through local initiatives and fostering genuine relationships with refugees can greatly enhance their sense of belonging and integration into the community.</li>
</ul>
Notable Quotes:
<ul>
<li>"My hope for refugee families that come to Australia is that life will change." - Aduk Dau</li>
<li>"Resilient, they've been through a lot and they have to be supported so they can fit in and adjust." - Aduk Dau</li>
<li>"I think it's important to be affected by what we hear, but not infected." - Marion Knell</li>
<li>"One of the best things we can do if we are on the outside of the community is to offer help and support for the children." - Marion Knell</li>
<li>"For young people to heal, achieve autonomy and live interdependently in the community." - Marion Knell</li>
</ul>
Resources:
<ul>
<li>Aduk Dau's Book: "<a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/hope-love-life-itself-South-Sudanese/dp/1764301404">For Hope, Love, and Life Itself</a>"</li>
<li>Marion Knell's Work with Welcome Churches: <a href="https://welcomechurches.org/">Welcome Churches</a></li>
</ul>
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Refugee Teens: A Guide for Parents Who Want to Help | Aduk Dau | Marion Knell

Key Takeaways:
Letting go of the "super parent" myth can alleviate feelings of guilt; focus on meaningful connections instead.
Confirming through actions that your child knows they are loved and important is vital in parenting.
Small touch points and personalized approaches to connection, such as texts or shared activities, are essential in building strong relationships.
Community support and involving other trusted adults in your child's life bolster resilience and provide needed assistance.
Understanding your teen's unique needs and responding with flexible, negotiated solutions can enhance your relational bond.

Notable Quotes:
"Being stretched doesn't mean you're failing."
"Connection matters much more than your constant presence."
"A five minute meaningful conversation can be more important or have more impact than hours spent in the same room."
"No teen is meant to be raised by one adult alone."
"Your teen doesn't need a perfect parent… They need a parent who keeps showing up."

 

Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li>Letting go of the "super parent" myth can alleviate feelings of guilt; focus on meaningful connections instead.</li>
<li>Confirming through actions that your child knows they are loved and important is vital in parenting.</li>
<li>Small touch points and personalized approaches to connection, such as texts or shared activities, are essential in building strong relationships.</li>
<li>Community support and involving other trusted adults in your child's life bolster resilience and provide needed assistance.</li>
<li>Understanding your teen's unique needs and responding with flexible, negotiated solutions can enhance your relational bond.</li>
</ul>
Notable Quotes:
<ul>
<li>"Being stretched doesn't mean you're failing."</li>
<li>"Connection matters much more than your constant presence."</li>
<li>"A five minute meaningful conversation can be more important or have more impact than hours spent in the same room."</li>
<li>"No teen is meant to be raised by one adult alone."</li>
<li>"Your teen doesn't need a perfect parent&hellip; They need a parent who keeps showing up."</li>
</ul>
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Busy / Single Parents: Why Connection Beats Constant Presence

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/258d2f07-1164-48e4-970c-accc0047a4ed/clips/fca9291a-42ce-4103-8117-b4820081235a/transcript

Key Takeaways:
Independence is Key: Teenagers naturally drift away from parents as they seek independence, making this a crucial but challenging time for both.
Adaptability is Essential: Parents must adapt to their teen’s rapidly changing behaviors and needs, understanding their own frustrations.
Balancing Control and Connection: It is important to maintain connection over controlling every aspect of a teen's life, emphasizing trust and openness.
Acknowledging Grief and Growth: Parents can acknowledge their feelings of loss and foreboding while celebrating the new person their teen is becoming.
Communication is Paramount: Establish a communication style that respects the evolving needs of teens, guiding them without dictating.

Notable Quotes:
"It's hard because you care. It's hard because you love them."
"The goal shifts from being involved in everything really just to thinking in your mind. I'm available for anything that they need."
"If parenting your teen feels hard, it doesn't necessarily mean that something's wrong."
"Give ourselves permission to feel those things that worry, that sadness, that excitement."
"Influence comes through connection, conversations, trust."

 

 

Click here to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here to contact the Raising Teens team.

Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.

Visit Raising Teens for more resources, click here for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook.

Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app, Facebook or Instagram.

Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li>Independence is Key: Teenagers naturally drift away from parents as they seek independence, making this a crucial but challenging time for both.</li>
<li>Adaptability is Essential: Parents must adapt to their teen&rsquo;s rapidly changing behaviors and needs, understanding their own frustrations.</li>
<li>Balancing Control and Connection: It is important to maintain connection over controlling every aspect of a teen's life, emphasizing trust and openness.</li>
<li>Acknowledging Grief and Growth: Parents can acknowledge their feelings of loss and foreboding while celebrating the new person their teen is becoming.</li>
<li>Communication is Paramount: Establish a communication style that respects the evolving needs of teens, guiding them without dictating.</li>
</ul>
Notable Quotes:
<ul>
<li>"It's hard because you care. It's hard because you love them."</li>
<li>"The goal shifts from being involved in everything really just to thinking in your mind. I'm available for anything that they need."</li>
<li>"If parenting your teen feels hard, it doesn't necessarily mean that something's wrong."</li>
<li>"Give ourselves permission to feel those things that worry, that sadness, that excitement."</li>
<li>"Influence comes through connection, conversations, trust."</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
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Click&nbsp;<a href="mailto:info@raisingteenagers.com.au">here</a> to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click <a href="https://hope1032.com.au/show/raising-teens/">here</a> to contact the Raising Teens team.
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Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice.
Visit <a href="http://raisingteens.au/">Raising Teens</a> for more resources, click <a href="https://collettsmart.com/resources/">here</a> for Collett's books, or join the discussion on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/collettsmart/">Facebook</a>.
Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at&nbsp;<a href="http://www.hopepodcasts.com.au/" aria-label="Link hopepodcasts.com.au">hopepodcasts.com.au</a>. And send the team a message via&nbsp;<a href="https://hope1032.com.au/listen/#apps" aria-label="Link Hope 103.2&rsquo;s app">Hope 103.2&rsquo;s app</a>,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.facebook.com/Hope103.2" aria-label="Link Facebook">Facebook</a>&nbsp;or&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/sydneyshope1032/" aria-label="Link Instagram">Instagram</a>.

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