Lyn is joined once more by returning guest Stephany Ann, a speaker, author, and attorney. Lyn and Stephany continue their conversation around the phases of narcissistic abuse, including idolisation, devaluation with intermittent love bombing, and the final discard.

They delve into the concept of trauma bonding, likening it to an addictive cycle where victims crave the intermittent rewards and good times from the abuser. Stephany shares personal experiences from two narcissistic relationships, highlighting the importance of setting firm boundaries, recognising self-worth, and breaking free from a victim mentality mindset. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Understanding the phases of idolisation, devaluation with intermittent love bombing, and final discard, is crucial to identifying and breaking free from narcissistic abuse.
• Trauma bonding occurs when victims of narcissistic abuse become addicted to the unpredictable rewards and intermittent affection from the abuser, creating a cycle of craving and attachment.
• It's essential to shift from a victim mindset to a hero mindset, focusing on self-worth and self-love, and recognising the lessons learned from toxic relationships.
• Setting and maintaining firm boundaries is key in preventing being sucked back into a manipulative, abusive relationship, leading to respect and healthier relationships going forward.

BEST MOMENTS

"The cycle of narcissistic abuse is all about power and control. The first phase is the idolisation. Then there's the devaluation with intermittent love bombing. And then there's the final discard."

"A trauma bond in a narcissistic relationship is when you have all this intermittent reinforcement with the negative. So we talked about the devaluation stage where they come in and they start criticising you."

"I fell in love with his potential. We can see their potential, we know what they are capable of doing. And we fall in love with that future potential."

"True love starts with opening our hearts"

ABOUT THE GUEST -  Stephany Ann - Speaker, Author, Attorney

Meet Stephany Ann, an extraordinary woman, an attorney, recipient of the governor's award for advocacy with survivors of domestic violence, and international best-selling author who triumphed over narcissistic abuse.

With two marriages to narcissists behind her, Stephany harnessed the transformative power of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and the power of thought and mindset to guide others on their path to healing and personal growth. Her transformation came when she shifted from “why me” to “for me”. Hear her incredible story today!

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100092716308108

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephany-ann-369a01293?

ABOUT THE HOST

Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert

Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.

She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.

Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.

HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.

Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.

CONTACT METHOD

lyn@hearts-entwined.com