Lyn is in conversation with childhood trauma coach Harris Eddie Hill about setting healthy boundaries in our relationships. Harris emphasizses the importance of understanding boundaries and highlights the impact of childhood experiences on boundary setting.

They discuss the dynamics of the drama triangle (victim, rescuer and persecutor), the challenges of people-pleasing, and the significance of connecting with one's inner child. The conversation delves into the discomfort of setting boundaries, the fear of rejection/ conflict, and the need to respect one's own boundaries whilst also accepting others.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Setting healthy boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and personal well-being.
• Boundaries should be proactive in establishing mutual respect and balance in our relationships.
• It is important to differentiate between 'helping' and 'enabling' others, as enabling can lead to an unhealthy relationship dynamic.
• Connecting with our inner child can help us care for ourselves in a healthier way.
• It is essential to follow how we feel about setting boundaries and not be swayed by others' emotional reactions, as respecting our own boundaries is a key part of self-care and attracting healthy relationships.

BEST MOMENTS

"I think boundaries are much easier to instigate once we kind of get in contact with our inner child." 

"I think the respect comes from... being more comfortable with other people having emotions." 

"Good boundary function is... (saying for example) it's unacceptable when you do that. If you do it again, we will have to reconsider the relationship." 

"True love starts with opening our hearts." 

ABOUT THE GUEST - Harris Eddie Hill - Childhood Trauma Coach

Harris Eddie Hill (they/them) is an out-and-proud nonbinary podcaster, best-selling author, coach and founder of the Centre for Childhood Trauma Healing; a platform dedicated to supporting neurodivergent, queer or highly empathic adults to overcome their childhood trauma and begin to thrive.

Shortlisted for the Positive Impact and Sustainability Speaker of the Year at the Speaker Awards, Harris is passionate about demystifying healing and helping people to connect to their own ability to heal. Clients take back their power from a medical system that doesn’t always offer tangible solutions and doesn’t always educate clients on their ability to heal.

Harris has survived and overcome trauma, unaccepting family members, cancer, abusive relationships, physical paralysis and mental health challenges, yet has found their way to emotional freedom and is now passing that power forward.

Website - https://www.mxharrishill.com
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LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mxharrishill

ABOUT THE HOST

Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert

Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.

She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.

Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.

HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.

Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.

CONTACT METHOD
lyn@hearts-entwined.com