Lyn welcomes back Caroline Ackroyd, a hypnotherapist and love coach, to explore the compelling topic of why women often attract emotionally unavailable men. Caroline shares her insights on unhealthy patterns that stem from our childhood experiences, emphasising how unmet emotional needs can lead to a cycle of seeking affection and validation from men who mirror those early relationships. The conversation delves into the psychological aspects of these dynamics, including the concept of "pining patterns", & the trauma bonds that attract unhealthy relationships, and how we can heal and break free from them.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Understanding Emotional Unavailability: Emotional unavailability in men can stem from their childhood experiences, where their emotional needs were not met. This can manifest in various ways, from lack of affection/ attention to more severe issues like narcissisic behaviours.
• The Pining Pattern: The "pining pattern," is where love is associated with longing and chasing and feeling anxious. This pattern often leads to choosing men who mirror the emotional unavailability experienced in childhood, perpetuating a cycle of unfulfilling/ unhealthy relationships.
• Self-Responsibility: It's crucial to recognise that while attraction to emotionally unavailable men is external, it's actually a reflection of what's going on internally. Taking responsibility for any unhealthy choices we make in relationships is the first step towards healing and breaking the pattern.
• Healing involves changing your negative self-talk/ narrative about self-worth and being good enough, and learning to positively validate yourself. By acknowledging your own lovability and worthiness, you can attract more attention/ affection and healthier relationships.

BEST MOMENTS

 "When I say emotionally unavailable, that can manifest itself... from someone who is not affectionate, all the way to higher degrees... a narcissist all the way to psychopath."

"You are trying to change your parent by changing that partner... if you can make him into a warm, cuddly, loving pussycat, you will have put a happy ending on your childhood."

"You will know that you have healed when that type and those red flags no longer come into your radar."

"It's not about finding love. It's about attracting that partner... it's possible and available for you."

ABOUT THE GUEST - Caroline Ackroyd - Hypnotherapist & Love Coach

Caroline Ackroyd is an RTT Hypnotherapist, Dating Coach and Soulmate Attraction Mentor helping women elevate their self-concept, sense of worthiness and lovability to feel whole and confident to date in their power. She helps women heal love blocks that keep them single or in negative relationship patterns with emotionally unavailable or uncommitted men, and supports them to raise their standards through self-love.

She herself overcame unworthiness and insecurity through inner child healing, reparenting, and wiring in a new upgraded self-concept with hypnotherapy. Longing to have a healthy, happy relationship, she specialised in Feminine Communication that leads to emotional connection and commitment, and Feminine Dating that creates sizzling polarity and lasting attraction. Her dream of finding her Soulmate came true after manifesting him with her signature Soulmate Attraction Process.

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ABOUT THE HOST

Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert

Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.

She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.

Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.

HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.

Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.

CONTACT METHOD

lyn@hearts-entwined.com