This week, Lyn and special guest, Stephany Ann delve into the topic of narcissistic abuse. Stephany shares her personal experiences with two narcissistic ex-husbands and provides insights into the different types of narcissistic behaviours, such as 'covert' and 'overt' narcissism, and explains the cycle of narcissistic abuse, including the idealisation, devaluation with intermittent love bombing, and discard phases.

She discusses manipulative tactics like gaslighting, used by narcissists to control and confuse their victims, and touches on the impact of narcissistic abuse on individuals and the importance of focusing on self-growth, health and well-being to gain the confidence & strength to leave.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The cycle of narcissistic abuse includes idealisation, devaluation with intermittent love bombing and discard phases, creating a pattern of manipulation and control.
• Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse used by narcissists to manipulate and confuse their victims, leading to self-doubt and erosion of self-respect.
• Victims of narcissistic abuse may experience cognitive dissonance, confusion, and lack of emotional control, leading to a cycle of reaction and conditioning by the abuser.
• The key takeaway is the importance of focusing on personal growth, health, well-being, and setting firm boundaries to break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse by prioritising self-care.

BEST MOMENTS

"Gaslighting is when you manipulate another person into doubting their perceptions, experiences, or understanding of events. It is a form of emotional abuse." 

"They start getting you to live from a place of reaction. They condition you. It's like they release a virus inside your mind that goes deep down into your subconscious" 

"We stay because we think we can change them. If I love them enough, if I change all these things about me, will they love me enough?" 

"If it's moving and progressing very rapidly, slow it down. And, you know, they will lie and hide things. And so you don't really know who they are in the beginning." 

ABOUT THE GUEST -  Stephany Ann - Speaker, Author, Attorney

Meet Stephany Ann, an extraordinary woman, an attorney, recipient of the governor's award for advocacy with survivors of domestic violence, and international best-selling author who triumphed over narcissistic abuse.

With two marriages to narcissists behind her, Stephany harnessed the transformative power of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and the power of thought and mindset to guide others on their path to healing and personal growth. Her transformation came when she shifted from “why me” to “for me”. Hear her incredible story today!

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LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephany-ann-369a01293?

ABOUT THE HOST

Lyn Smith – (The Queen of HEARTS) – Love, Dating & Relationship Expert

Lyn’s personal story is a very inspirational and harrowing one of how she went from having unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships with men (on the back of several serious traumatic sexual assaults in her teens) to now being in a soul fulfilling relationship which makes her feel alive, is full of passion and gives her inner peace.

She has a proven track record as a Love Solutions - Relationship Expert / Trainer / Inspirational Speaker and Best-Selling Author based upon her own vast personal research, experiential learning and training with the world’s leading industry experts.

Understanding the polarisation of masculine & feminine energy resulted in her creating massive attraction and a passionate, intimate, fulfilling relationship – that inspired her to design & present her own course programmes to share these break-through relationship techniques with women across the globe.

HEARTS Entwined is a world-class service based on care and understanding, which is committed to providing step-by-step high-value love, dating and relationship solutions.

Lyn makes a difference by helping you make a difference; she has a vision of contributing back on a global scale – to create a lasting legacy of safety, dignity and opportunity for children and women who have survived rape, abuse and severe trauma as a result of war crimes and sex trafficking – through the setting up of worldwide – ‘you can heal your life’ centres.

CONTACT METHOD

lyn@hearts-entwined.com