Simping vs Bare Minimum

Be Honest About Situationships

Why Men Don't Open Up

Can Guys and Girls Be Friends?

What's Up With Male Egos

This week, we’re reacting to women’s biggest complaints about men, sent in by our listeners as anonymous voice notes.

No guest this time, just the two of us hearing what women say about men when we’re not in the room, and trying to give guys an honest answer. The complaints run from guys who say “I love you” just to hook up, to men who won’t open up, to the ego that won’t let them admit they’re wrong.

Some of these hit closer to home than we expected. Most of them came back to the same fix, which is men being clear about what they want and honest about how they feel.

If a guy has ever told you he loves you and then vanished, or you’re trying to understand why the man in your life won’t let you in, this one is for you.

New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.

00:00:00 – Intro
00:02:17 – Simping vs. the Bare Minimum
00:06:38 – Be Honest About What You Want
00:12:45 – Why Men Don’t Open Up to Friends
00:16:03 – Can Guys and Girls Be Friends?
00:19:02 – What's Up With Male Egos

This week, we&rsquo;re reacting to women&rsquo;s biggest complaints about men, sent in by our listeners as anonymous voice notes.
No guest this time, just the two of us hearing what women say about men when we&rsquo;re not in the room, and trying to give guys an honest answer. The complaints run from guys who say &ldquo;I love you&rdquo; just to hook up, to men who won&rsquo;t open up, to the ego that won&rsquo;t let them admit they&rsquo;re wrong.
Some of these hit closer to home than we expected. Most of them came back to the same fix, which is men being clear about what they want and honest about how they feel.
If a guy has ever told you he loves you and then vanished, or you&rsquo;re trying to understand why the man in your life won&rsquo;t let you in, this one is for you.
New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.
00:00:00 &ndash; Intro 00:02:17 &ndash; Simping vs. the Bare Minimum 00:06:38 &ndash; Be Honest About What You Want 00:12:45 &ndash; Why Men Don&rsquo;t Open Up to Friends 00:16:03 &ndash; Can Guys and Girls Be Friends? 00:19:02 &ndash; What's Up With Male Egos

Two best friends sitting down with different therapists and experts every week to talk through the stuff everyone struggles with but nobody says out loud. Anxiety. Dating. Relationships. Career. Family Dynamics. Grief. The list goes on.

We're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time). 

Because therapy’s expensive, but thankfully podcasts aren’t ;)

Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod

Two best friends sitting down with different therapists and experts every week to talk through the stuff everyone struggles with but nobody says out loud. Anxiety. Dating. Relationships. Career. Family Dynamics. Grief. The list goes on.
We're not experts. We're just two very curious, slightly unhinged guys who can label our feelings (most of the time).&nbsp;
Because therapy&rsquo;s expensive, but thankfully podcasts aren&rsquo;t ;)
Subscribe and follow along on IG at @freetherapy and TT at @freetherapypod

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Answering women's biggest complaints about men #29

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Tool 1: Stop Avoiding What You Want

Tool 2: Stop letting People Bother You

Tool 3: Stop Doubting Yourself

Barry's Terminal Diagnosis 

How to Help the Men Open Up

This week is about overthinking, anxiety and self-doubt, and simple tools you can use in the moment to stop them from running your life.

Barry Michels is a legendary therapist with over 40 years in practice and co-author of The Tools with Phil Stutz. His work is built on a simple idea: understanding why you’re stuck isn’t enough, you need something you can actually do about it.

He gives us three quick techniques you can use in seconds, for when you keep putting off the things you know would make your life better, when the people closest to you start getting under your skin, and when you can’t shake the feeling that you’re not enough.

If you’ve ever known exactly what you need to do and still couldn’t make yourself do it, this one is for you.

New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.


And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

00:00:00 – Intro
00:05:13 – Tool 1: Stop Avoiding What You Want
00:13:38 – Tool 2: Stop Letting People Bother You
00:22:09 – Tool 3: Stop Doubting Yourself
00:32:05 – Barry’s Terminal Diagnosis
00:40:10 – How to Help the Men Open Up

This week is about overthinking, anxiety and self-doubt, and simple tools you can use in the moment to stop them from running your life.
Barry Michels is a legendary therapist with over 40 years in practice and co-author of The Tools with Phil Stutz. His work is built on a simple idea: understanding why you&rsquo;re stuck isn&rsquo;t enough, you need something you can actually do about it.
He gives us three quick techniques you can use in seconds, for when you keep putting off the things you know would make your life better, when the people closest to you start getting under your skin, and when you can&rsquo;t shake the feeling that you&rsquo;re not enough.
If you&rsquo;ve ever known exactly what you need to do and still couldn&rsquo;t make yourself do it, this one is for you.
New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.
 And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it&rsquo;s not. So if you&rsquo;re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.
00:00:00 &ndash; Intro 00:05:13 &ndash; Tool 1: Stop Avoiding What You Want 00:13:38 &ndash; Tool 2: Stop Letting People Bother You 00:22:09 &ndash; Tool 3: Stop Doubting Yourself 00:32:05 &ndash; Barry&rsquo;s Terminal Diagnosis 00:40:10 &ndash; How to Help the Men Open Up

3 tools to stop overthinking, anxiety, & self-doubt #28

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Sleeping With Your Ex

Scared to Change Careers

Losing Yourself While Dating

Paying on Dates

Being More Present

This week is our first ever Therapy in Session, where guys sent us anonymous messages about what they’re struggling with and a therapist answered them.

Seth Menachem is back, a therapist here in LA who runs the Menachem Psychotherapy Group. 

The questions covered getting back with an ex, starting over in a new career, losing yourself the second you start dating, and who should be paying on dates. Across all five, it became clear that when it comes down to it, we’re all going through a lot of the same struggles, and nobody is as alone in them as they think. 

Got something you’re struggling with? Send us an anonymous voice note at freetherapypod.com/questions and you might hear it answered on the next Therapy in Session.

New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.

And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it’s not. So if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

00:00:00 – Intro
00:02:04 – In Bed With an Ex
00:09:25 – Scared to Start Over
00:19:34 – Losing Yourself When Dating
00:24:12 – Who Pays on Dates
00:37:05 – Being More Present
00:42:04 – Career Uncertainty

This week is our first ever Therapy in Session, where guys sent us anonymous messages about what they&rsquo;re struggling with and a therapist answered them.
Seth Menachem is back, a therapist here in LA who runs the Menachem Psychotherapy Group.&nbsp;
The questions covered getting back with an ex, starting over in a new career, losing yourself the second you start dating, and who should be paying on dates.&nbsp;Across all five, it became clear that when it comes down to it, we&rsquo;re all going through a lot of the same struggles, and nobody is as alone in them as they think.&nbsp;
Got something you&rsquo;re struggling with? Send us an anonymous voice note at freetherapypod.com/questions and you might hear it answered on the next Therapy in Session.
New episodes every week. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.
And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it&rsquo;s not. So if you&rsquo;re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.
00:00:00 &ndash; Intro 00:02:04 &ndash; In Bed With an Ex 00:09:25 &ndash; Scared to Start Over 00:19:34 &ndash; Losing Yourself When Dating 00:24:12 &ndash; Who Pays on Dates 00:37:05 &ndash; Being More Present 00:42:04 &ndash; Career Uncertainty

A therapist answers your questions on dating, self-doubt & feeling stuck #27

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intro to shadow work tools

shadow work starts with self-acceptance

hidden shame can drive behavior

your triggers reveal your shadow

others’ expectations can shape your life

shadow work supports taking risks

Kristan Sargeant joins us to explore shadow work, the parts of ourselves we’ve learned to hide, and how they can keep us from going after what we want.

You want to speak up, set a boundary, ask someone out or take a chance on something you care about. But then you imagine how it could go wrong, and talk yourself out of it. A coach who studied under Phil Stutz, Kristan explains how she works with the shame and fear of rejection underneath those moments.

We get into why understanding your patterns doesn’t automatically change them, how needing everyone’s approval can quietly run your life, and what it means to stay on your own side even when things don’t go your way. She also shares practical exercises for getting to know your shadow and comparing what you’re afraid will happen with what actually happens when you take a risk.

If you’ve ever known what you wanted to do and still couldn’t bring yourself to do it, this one is for you.

00:00 intro to shadow work tools
03:41 shadow work starts with self-acceptance
10:08 hidden shame can drive behavior
20:08 your triggers reveal your shadow
26:29 others’ expectations can shape your life
36:37 shadow work supports taking risks

Kristan Sargeant joins us to explore shadow work, the parts of ourselves we&rsquo;ve learned to hide, and how they can keep us from going after what we want.
You want to speak up, set a boundary, ask someone out or take a chance on something you care about. But then you imagine how it could go wrong, and talk yourself out of it. A coach who studied under Phil Stutz, Kristan explains how she works with the shame and fear of rejection underneath those moments.
We get into why understanding your patterns doesn&rsquo;t automatically change them, how needing everyone&rsquo;s approval can quietly run your life, and what it means to stay on your own side even when things don&rsquo;t go your way. She also shares practical exercises for getting to know your shadow and comparing what you&rsquo;re afraid will happen with what actually happens when you take a risk.
If you&rsquo;ve ever known what you wanted to do and still couldn&rsquo;t bring yourself to do it, this one is for you. 00:00 intro to shadow work tools 03:41 shadow work starts with self-acceptance 10:08 hidden shame can drive behavior 20:08 your triggers reveal your shadow 26:29 others&rsquo; expectations can shape your life 36:37 shadow work supports taking risks

Overcome your fears and insecurities with shadow work #26

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