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Really is on the phone today for our first date follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Lucas. So in a few minutes we're gonna call him see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her on another date. But first, literally, how long has it been since you heard from Lucas?

Really is on the phone today for our first date follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Lucas. So in a few minutes we're gonna call him see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her on another date. But first, literally, how long has it been since you heard from Lucas?

Yea, so it's been two weeks exactly.

Yea, so it's been two weeks exactly.

Okay, have you reached out to him?

Okay, have you reached out to him?

No?

No?

I kind of feel like the guy she reached out first.

I kind of feel like the guy she reached out first.

Okay, why do you want to get hold of him? Likeause, if it's been two weeks? Like, was the date just like that good?

Okay, why do you want to get hold of him? Likeause, if it's been two weeks? Like, was the date just like that good?

Well?

Well?

I said it was okay, Like it wasn't that great, But I thought I did everything right, and he made it a point to tell me that he really want to see me again. So I'm just kind of wondering why he hasn't reached out.

I said it was okay, Like it wasn't that great, But I thought I did everything right, and he made it a point to tell me that he really want to see me again. So I'm just kind of wondering why he hasn't reached out.

Right, Well, tell us and tell us about the date, Lily, what happened?

Right, Well, tell us and tell us about the date, Lily, what happened?

Yeah, well, I haven't been on a date in a while. I'm kind of like a homebody. So my friends were saying that they needed to get me out. They met this school guy at a neighborhood bar named Lucas. So I met up with him for a songria and app a QBR.

Yeah, well, I haven't been on a date in a while. I'm kind of like a homebody. So my friends were saying that they needed to get me out. They met this school guy at a neighborhood bar named Lucas. So I met up with him for a songria and app a QBR.

And it was fun.

And it was fun.

But you know, he talked about himself a lot.

But you know, he talked about himself a lot.

And I don't think I did anything wrong because I didn't have time to say anything inappropriate because he was talking about him the whole time kind of and you want.

And I don't think I did anything wrong because I didn't have time to say anything inappropriate because he was talking about him the whole time kind of and you want.

To see him again.

To see him again.

Well, I think that sometimes when people start talking about themselves incessantly, it's almost a defense mechanism, right, like you get kind of right. Yeah, So we had two different options that he was nervous or he's extremely arrogant. I'm not sure what was your take on that, Lily.

Well, I think that sometimes when people start talking about themselves incessantly, it's almost a defense mechanism, right, like you get kind of right. Yeah, So we had two different options that he was nervous or he's extremely arrogant. I'm not sure what was your take on that, Lily.

No, maybe I thought maybe he was nervous, and maybe I didn't react to him, like maybe I should have been like ooh in ah about his whatever he was saying a little bit more. I could have been more engaging.

No, maybe I thought maybe he was nervous, and maybe I didn't react to him, like maybe I should have been like ooh in ah about his whatever he was saying a little bit more. I could have been more engaging.

So you think that would be the that's the problem.

So you think that would be the that's the problem.

I don't know. I mean, I really would like to know. That's kind of why I'm going in.

I don't know. I mean, I really would like to know. That's kind of why I'm going in.

Well, tell us a little bit more about the date, like was there any awkward moments or anything like that.

Well, tell us a little bit more about the date, like was there any awkward moments or anything like that.

Well, he wanted to split the bill, which I'm always kind of like, I don't know how I feel about that. I feel like the guy should usually pay. But it was kind of a casual thing, so I was like, okay. But I also think that when guys want split the bill, it's kind of like, oh, do you not want to.

Well, he wanted to split the bill, which I'm always kind of like, I don't know how I feel about that. I feel like the guy should usually pay. But it was kind of a casual thing, so I was like, okay. But I also think that when guys want split the bill, it's kind of like, oh, do you not want to.

See me again? So that was one signe but I didn't read too much into it.

See me again? So that was one signe but I didn't read too much into it.

I mean, we had, you know, pretty good conversations. M h.

I mean, we had, you know, pretty good conversations. M h.

It was like a fixed out of him.

It was like a fixed out of him.

Date six out of him? You still want to call him back?

Date six out of him? You still want to call him back?

Yeah, I guess my ego's a little bit hurt.

Yeah, I guess my ego's a little bit hurt.

Maybe I don't know.

Maybe I don't know.

So this is about the principle, not the date. It's like, Okay, you're the buddy that had the nerve that goes to me, and you want to know why.

So this is about the principle, not the date. It's like, Okay, you're the buddy that had the nerve that goes to me, and you want to know why.

Yeah, exactly, that's why.

Yeah, exactly, that's why.

How did your date end?

How did your date end?

You know, he just hugged.

You know, he just hugged.

He didn't try to go in for like an awkward kiss, which I think is very respectful on a first date. And again he said that he really wanted to see me again, which I was, you know, flattered, And then he walks me to my car.

He didn't try to go in for like an awkward kiss, which I think is very respectful on a first date. And again he said that he really wanted to see me again, which I was, you know, flattered, And then he walks me to my car.

Okay, and you said that you haven't reached out to him because you think that he should reach out, right.

Okay, and you said that you haven't reached out to him because you think that he should reach out, right.

Yeah, And he also said that he was going to reach out if he wanted to see it.

Yeah, And he also said that he was going to reach out if he wanted to see it.

Had he reached out, Lily, would you have gone on that second date?

Had he reached out, Lily, would you have gone on that second date?

Yeah?

Yeah?

I always wanted to give people a second because you know, people get nervous.

I always wanted to give people a second because you know, people get nervous.

I was a little nervous.

I was a little nervous.

They do say you should go on a date with somebody three times before you make a decision about how you feel about them. Science and my mother both say them. I agree. I'm just saying that's what i've heard.

They do say you should go on a date with somebody three times before you make a decision about how you feel about them. Science and my mother both say them. I agree. I'm just saying that's what i've heard.

Okay, Well, we'll play a song come back, and then call him and see if you tell us why he's ghosting you, and maybe.

Okay, Well, we'll play a song come back, and then call him and see if you tell us why he's ghosting you, and maybe.

Get you another date.

Get you another date.

Okay, thank you, if you even want one. Maybe they just be able to find out why you're getting ghosted. All right, Well, play a song, come back, get your first date follow.

Okay, thank you, if you even want one. Maybe they just be able to find out why you're getting ghosted. All right, Well, play a song, come back, get your first date follow.

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Right in the middle of your first date follow up, if you're just joining us, Lily is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Lucas that she is okay with.

Right in the middle of your first date follow up, if you're just joining us, Lily is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Lucas that she is okay with.

I was normally I say that.

I was normally I say that.

Really likes But Lily doesn't really really really like Lucas. She just wanted to date with him. She's getting ghosted for two weeks now, so we're about to call him see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date if she wants one. But Lily, why don't you refresh everybody's memory on your situation?

Really likes But Lily doesn't really really really like Lucas. She just wanted to date with him. She's getting ghosted for two weeks now, so we're about to call him see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date if she wants one. But Lily, why don't you refresh everybody's memory on your situation?

Yeah? Sure, So I met up with this guy Lucas for like a cute date, and he talked about himself a lot, but at the end he said he really wanted to see me again and he was going to reach out.

Yeah? Sure, So I met up with this guy Lucas for like a cute date, and he talked about himself a lot, but at the end he said he really wanted to see me again and he was going to reach out.

And it's been two weeks.

And it's been two weeks.

Okay, you ready for us to call him? Yeah, here we go. Hi masspeak to Lucas please. Yeah, Hey Lucas, how are you. My name is Jewbell and I'm calling from a radio show.

Okay, you ready for us to call him? Yeah, here we go. Hi masspeak to Lucas please. Yeah, Hey Lucas, how are you. My name is Jewbell and I'm calling from a radio show.

It's called the Jubil Show.

It's called the Jubil Show.

Hi, Lucas, I'm mean als on the show.

Hi, Lucas, I'm mean als on the show.

Hi, I'm Ria Things. What's gone?

Hi, I'm Ria Things. What's gone?

Have you heard the show before?

Have you heard the show before?

No?

No?

Well, let me tell you a little bit about it. It's a radio show.

Well, let me tell you a little bit about it. It's a radio show.

And then also we just a segment on it called the First Aid follow Up, where if you go out on a date with somebody and ghost them. That person can email us to get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you from somebody you want to know who?

And then also we just a segment on it called the First Aid follow Up, where if you go out on a date with somebody and ghost them. That person can email us to get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you from somebody you want to know who?

Sure?

Sure?

Okay, her name is Lily.

Okay, her name is Lily.

Do you remember Lily?

Do you remember Lily?

Yeah? Yeah, of course?

Yeah? Yeah, of course?

Thoughts on Lily.

Thoughts on Lily.

Uh she thinks I'm ghosting her? Mm hmm are you I don't know? I don't. I don't call girls after a date. I wait for them to call me.

Uh she thinks I'm ghosting her? Mm hmm are you I don't know? I don't. I don't call girls after a date. I wait for them to call me.

Can I ask why?

Can I ask why?

Yeah? Because I don't like to play games. I like, I don't want to girl plays games, So like, I don't want to like how many days you're supposed to wait? Not, It's just a stupid game. I don't need that. So I want somebody who wants to hang out with me. So, I mean, if anybody's getting ghosted, it's me here, right Huh?

Yeah? Because I don't like to play games. I like, I don't want to girl plays games, So like, I don't want to like how many days you're supposed to wait? Not, It's just a stupid game. I don't need that. So I want somebody who wants to hang out with me. So, I mean, if anybody's getting ghosted, it's me here, right Huh?

Okay, did did you like your date with her?

Okay, did did you like your date with her?

Yeah?

Yeah?

It was fine. She didn't seem like that. You know, I'm like, I'm an open book. Asked me questions. You know, she didn't to have much to say.

It was fine. She didn't seem like that. You know, I'm like, I'm an open book. Asked me questions. You know, she didn't to have much to say.

Okay, did it seemed like she wasn't into you?

Okay, did it seemed like she wasn't into you?

Really?

Really?

I mean it was fine, it was you know, it wasn't. It wasn't like a big spark, but it was fine, like I would go with her again.

I mean it was fine, it was you know, it wasn't. It wasn't like a big spark, but it was fine, like I would go with her again.

Okay, that's what I was gonna ask if you call me if she did. Okay, interesting, okay, cool, Well, Lucas, Lily is actually on the phone listing and wants to talk to you.

Okay, that's what I was gonna ask if you call me if she did. Okay, interesting, okay, cool, Well, Lucas, Lily is actually on the phone listing and wants to talk to you.

Hi. Oh oh hey, hi, Lucas. This yeah.

Hi. Oh oh hey, hi, Lucas. This yeah.

Hey, look, Lucas, she didn't more than call you. We can't do too.

Hey, look, Lucas, she didn't more than call you. We can't do too.

Hey.

Hey.

Okay, well, I mean this, this feels like the game to end all games. Man, I don't I don't think this is for me. We're doing a radio show after one date. I don't know.

Okay, well, I mean this, this feels like the game to end all games. Man, I don't I don't think this is for me. We're doing a radio show after one date. I don't know.

I'm not a game player at all.

I'm not a game player at all.

I was just really curious why you didn't text me after you then you really wanted to see me again and you were going to reach out.

I was just really curious why you didn't text me after you then you really wanted to see me again and you were going to reach out.

You didn't text me either. I mean, it feels like it goes both ways.

You didn't text me either. I mean, it feels like it goes both ways.

Well, Lucas, actually you're the one that's playing games because you're waiting to see if I'm going to text you.

Well, Lucas, actually you're the one that's playing games because you're waiting to see if I'm going to text you.

I mean, you could just have texted. This feels like you're doing games right back. I feel like this is these are your.

I mean, you could just have texted. This feels like you're doing games right back. I feel like this is these are your.

Games to get clarity and communication.

Games to get clarity and communication.

Look, I don't know what you want? Like, you didn't text, You didn't say anything, So seems like you know want. I want to be with someone who really wants to talk to me. That's enough, That's what I'm looking for.

Look, I don't know what you want? Like, you didn't text, You didn't say anything, So seems like you know want. I want to be with someone who really wants to talk to me. That's enough, That's what I'm looking for.

Don't you see it kind of as a game because you didn't text either?

Don't you see it kind of as a game because you didn't text either?

You know what I'm saying?

You know what I'm saying?

What it feels like now, you're trying to do mine games. I'm just not interested in this.

What it feels like now, you're trying to do mine games. I'm just not interested in this.

Yeah. No, I'm not trying.

Yeah. No, I'm not trying.

You're playing games.

You're playing games.

Yeah, now, I think we're all playing games. But if you want someone to like you, shouldn't you also like them show them interest as well.

Yeah, now, I think we're all playing games. But if you want someone to like you, shouldn't you also like them show them interest as well.

I mean, I'm interested in everybody, So I'm looking for people who are interested in me.

I mean, I'm interested in everybody, So I'm looking for people who are interested in me.

Oh okay, How am I supposed to know that you're interested if you don't text or call me?

Oh okay, How am I supposed to know that you're interested if you don't text or call me?

Am I supposed to know you're interested? If you don't text your call me?

Am I supposed to know you're interested? If you don't text your call me?

Wow?

Wow?

Hey, would you guys? I'd like to go on a second date. We'll pay for it?

Hey, would you guys? I'd like to go on a second date. We'll pay for it?

Yeah, actually I would?

Yeah, actually I would?

Oh what you would?

Oh what you would?

Yeah?

Yeah?

Ye, Lucas, you want to go on a date too?

Ye, Lucas, you want to go on a date too?

Yeah?

Yeah?

Sure, it sounds good. You're gonna pay for them?

Sure, it sounds good. You're gonna pay for them?

Yeah?

Yeah?

So, now do we both feel confident that the other person is interested in the other person or do we need to text again after this call to say I'm interested, I want to see you. We can go on the counter three you can text each other at the same time.

So, now do we both feel confident that the other person is interested in the other person or do we need to text again after this call to say I'm interested, I want to see you. We can go on the counter three you can text each other at the same time.

Yeah, I mean it sounds like she's interested. That's what I was looking for. So I think he solved it.

Yeah, I mean it sounds like she's interested. That's what I was looking for. So I think he solved it.

All right, And now Lily, you know that he was interested too, and you'm glad to find that out. Okay, well, well, enjoy your date and you guys have a lot to talk about.

All right, And now Lily, you know that he was interested too, and you'm glad to find that out. Okay, well, well, enjoy your date and you guys have a lot to talk about.

I'm sure, yeah, good luck on that.

I'm sure, yeah, good luck on that.

We should appreciate this out now. Then I guess you want to text me.

We should appreciate this out now. Then I guess you want to text me.

Only you know what. Sure, but you have to text me back after.

Only you know what. Sure, but you have to text me back after.

Isn't that what you do when?

Isn't that what you do when?

Okay, well, deal, we got a deal and another day your congratulations guys.

Okay, well, deal, we got a deal and another day your congratulations guys.

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