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Emma is on the phone today for our first Day follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Kyle. So in a few minutes we'll call him and see if it tells why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date. But first, Emma, how long has it been since you heard from Kyle?

Emma is on the phone today for our first Day follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Kyle. So in a few minutes we'll call him and see if it tells why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date. But first, Emma, how long has it been since you heard from Kyle?

Gosh? I want to say it's been about like three weeks, three or four weeks?

Gosh? I want to say it's been about like three weeks, three or four weeks?

Oh oh, and been that long? Why do you want to get a hold of him?

Oh oh, and been that long? Why do you want to get a hold of him?

Okay, I mean, if I can be totally honest, it's because I know it's kind of cheesy to say because it was just one day, but I really felt like there was a connection, Like I really feel like there was something there. Yeah yeah, I mean the date went so well, and you know, we did like a whole escape room thing, which I thought would be pretty fun fun. Yeah yeah, I mean I love solving puzzles, and you know, it seemed like we were both really working well together. You know, I was kind of the brains, he was kind of like the muscle moving stuff around, helping them, you know, tall clues, and it just felt like, I don't know, it almost didn't even feel like it was a first date. We you know, even let so much time pass that it was like past dinner time and we hadn't ate anything yet, so then we decided to like stop and get somebody to eat. It was so casual. I am. I'm very much a person who kind of overthinks on the first date, and I get very nervous usually, but I didn't feel anything like that with Kyle. I feel like he was also kind of feeling the vibe too, and the way he was looking at me and talking to me and telling me things. Yeah, I just I felt so safe and comfortable.

Okay, I mean, if I can be totally honest, it's because I know it's kind of cheesy to say because it was just one day, but I really felt like there was a connection, Like I really feel like there was something there. Yeah yeah, I mean the date went so well, and you know, we did like a whole escape room thing, which I thought would be pretty fun fun. Yeah yeah, I mean I love solving puzzles, and you know, it seemed like we were both really working well together. You know, I was kind of the brains, he was kind of like the muscle moving stuff around, helping them, you know, tall clues, and it just felt like, I don't know, it almost didn't even feel like it was a first date. We you know, even let so much time pass that it was like past dinner time and we hadn't ate anything yet, so then we decided to like stop and get somebody to eat. It was so casual. I am. I'm very much a person who kind of overthinks on the first date, and I get very nervous usually, but I didn't feel anything like that with Kyle. I feel like he was also kind of feeling the vibe too, and the way he was looking at me and talking to me and telling me things. Yeah, I just I felt so safe and comfortable.

And it's always so hard to know that you feel that way, and it's kind of like it's impossible that the other person didn't feel something right, Like, don't you always feel.

And it's always so hard to know that you feel that way, and it's kind of like it's impossible that the other person didn't feel something right, Like, don't you always feel.

That way exactly?

That way exactly?

Yeah, what could have been the reason why he's disappeared now?

Yeah, what could have been the reason why he's disappeared now?

If it was that intense.

If it was that intense.

I've really been trying to pin this down, and I mean, I'm not totally sure, but the only thing that I can kind of think of is that I can sometimes get a little bit into the games, like I do get competitive to a certain point. But I did tell him this in advance, and I tried to kind of just brush it off in more of like a flirtatious way, Like there was one puzzle that he just wasn't getting, Like it was, you know, like a word clue thing, and it was so obvious to me, and he just wasn't getting it, and I just joked with him. I was like, well, you're lucky, you're so pretty, you know, Like, well, okay, I didn't say that, but and it's my own fault, like I know, I probably could have done better about but that's the only thing that I can think of.

I've really been trying to pin this down, and I mean, I'm not totally sure, but the only thing that I can kind of think of is that I can sometimes get a little bit into the games, like I do get competitive to a certain point. But I did tell him this in advance, and I tried to kind of just brush it off in more of like a flirtatious way, Like there was one puzzle that he just wasn't getting, Like it was, you know, like a word clue thing, and it was so obvious to me, and he just wasn't getting it, and I just joked with him. I was like, well, you're lucky, you're so pretty, you know, Like, well, okay, I didn't say that, but and it's my own fault, like I know, I probably could have done better about but that's the only thing that I can think of.

Okay, Well, how did it end with him?

Okay, Well, how did it end with him?

I mean I thought it ended so well. We didn't like fully confirm going on a second day, but we both said the whole like, oh, you know, like I had a great time. I'd like to do it again sometime. And we both said that at the end, and we exchanged you know, like we still had, you know, our phone numbers and stuff. And then I tried to text him the next day and I didn't hear anything. And then I tried again, you know, a couple of days later, and then nothing, and I did try again you know a few more times, but I haven't. Yeah, I will say.

I mean I thought it ended so well. We didn't like fully confirm going on a second day, but we both said the whole like, oh, you know, like I had a great time. I'd like to do it again sometime. And we both said that at the end, and we exchanged you know, like we still had, you know, our phone numbers and stuff. And then I tried to text him the next day and I didn't hear anything. And then I tried again, you know, a couple of days later, and then nothing, and I did try again you know a few more times, but I haven't. Yeah, I will say.

If there's one thing I normally hear on all these it said after every single time they go on a first day they everyone says like, oh, mars, like we should this again some.

If there's one thing I normally hear on all these it said after every single time they go on a first day they everyone says like, oh, mars, like we should this again some.

Time, or like, yeah, that's polite.

Time, or like, yeah, that's polite.

I think it's honestly just a polite thing people say, because I've said it before, knowing that I was like, huh, so, I don't know. It sucks because you, like you thought it was a really great date, and you in your head is like, oh, he wants to go see me again.

I think it's honestly just a polite thing people say, because I've said it before, knowing that I was like, huh, so, I don't know. It sucks because you, like you thought it was a really great date, and you in your head is like, oh, he wants to go see me again.

But at the same time, he could just be doing it to be polite. Well, that's heartbreaking. That's what's sounds.

But at the same time, he could just be doing it to be polite. Well, that's heartbreaking. That's what's sounds.

I know.

I know.

That's like pure em We'll see if we can figure it out for you. We'll play a song, come back, and then call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you and maybe get to another date.

That's like pure em We'll see if we can figure it out for you. We'll play a song, come back, and then call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you and maybe get to another date.

Okay, all right, I appreciate it, guys.

Okay, all right, I appreciate it, guys.

All right, thank you? Yeah, first thing follow.

All right, thank you? Yeah, first thing follow.

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Right in the middle of today's first day follow up and if you're just joining us. Emma is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by Kyle. So we're about to call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date. But first, Emma, why don't you break down your date for us one more time?

Right in the middle of today's first day follow up and if you're just joining us. Emma is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by Kyle. So we're about to call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date. But first, Emma, why don't you break down your date for us one more time?

Yeah, Kyle and I went out a few weeks ago. We had a great first date. We did an escape room, we had you know, dinner afterwards. It felt like we were both on the same page. We were vibing, we were laughing, we were having fun, and we both said that we were wanting to see each other again. But then I never heard back from him.

Yeah, Kyle and I went out a few weeks ago. We had a great first date. We did an escape room, we had you know, dinner afterwards. It felt like we were both on the same page. We were vibing, we were laughing, we were having fun, and we both said that we were wanting to see each other again. But then I never heard back from him.

All right, Well he did kind of imply that he wasn't the smartest, so yeah, there was that.

All right, Well he did kind of imply that he wasn't the smartest, so yeah, there was that.

All right, Well, you're ready for us to see if we can figure it out?

All right, Well, you're ready for us to see if we can figure it out?

Yeah, I'm ready.

Yeah, I'm ready.

Okay.

Okay.

Hey is Kyle, Kyle?

Hey is Kyle, Kyle?

How are you? This is a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.

How are you? This is a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.

Hi Kyle.

Hi Kyle.

My name is Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and I'm Jebel. How's it going, Hey, guys, it's going, it's going.

My name is Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and I'm Jebel. How's it going, Hey, guys, it's going, it's going.

It's going pretty good.

It's going pretty good.

How's it going right?

How's it going right?

Good?

Good?

Thanks for asking? Have you ever listened to the show before, Yeah, a little bit. Well, we do a segment on the show called the First eight follow Up. I swear if you go out on a date with somebody and you ghost them, they can email us to call you and figure out why you're ghosting them. So we had an email about you from somebody, Kyle, that's why we're calling.

Thanks for asking? Have you ever listened to the show before, Yeah, a little bit. Well, we do a segment on the show called the First eight follow Up. I swear if you go out on a date with somebody and you ghost them, they can email us to call you and figure out why you're ghosting them. So we had an email about you from somebody, Kyle, that's why we're calling.

Uh huh yeah, yeah for sure.

Uh huh yeah, yeah for sure.

I think I uh, I think I've been familiar with it. Let me guess she's been texting me a ton Uh, no surprises.

I think I uh, I think I've been familiar with it. Let me guess she's been texting me a ton Uh, no surprises.

On this Is it?

On this Is it?

Is it? Emma?

Is it? Emma?

Yes, it is Emma. Do you have time to tell us why you're ghostinger?

Yes, it is Emma. Do you have time to tell us why you're ghostinger?

Uh? Yeah, I guess.

Uh? Yeah, I guess.

Uh.

Uh.

Look, I mean look, I mean I don't know. I mean, the day was really fun.

Look, I mean look, I mean I don't know. I mean, the day was really fun.

I thought it was. I thought it was a good time. I mean she was really really gorgeous, and I mean I think she means, well, I'm just kind of uh, I don't know, I'm bum because I mean I was pretty attracted to her. I was like really feeling something with her, and uh, it turns out I don't know, it's kind of crazy, but she's like as a pretty specific kind of girl, and it just kind of rubs me the wrong way.

I thought it was. I thought it was a good time. I mean she was really really gorgeous, and I mean I think she means, well, I'm just kind of uh, I don't know, I'm bum because I mean I was pretty attracted to her. I was like really feeling something with her, and uh, it turns out I don't know, it's kind of crazy, but she's like as a pretty specific kind of girl, and it just kind of rubs me the wrong way.

Sort of right.

Sort of right.

So after our day, she she sends me, she sends me a Venmo request for half of our Uber ride. People to send like Venmo requests without like a heads up, that's like a different kind of passive aggressive. And this is an uber ride that was like twenty five bucks, So like I paid it and I just kind of checked out with her. I don't know.

So after our day, she she sends me, she sends me a Venmo request for half of our Uber ride. People to send like Venmo requests without like a heads up, that's like a different kind of passive aggressive. And this is an uber ride that was like twenty five bucks, So like I paid it and I just kind of checked out with her. I don't know.

Wait, wait a minute, sorry, that's the reason why you ghosted me.

Wait, wait a minute, sorry, that's the reason why you ghosted me.

Hey, Kyle, that's much. She's on the phone and wants to talk to you.

Hey, Kyle, that's much. She's on the phone and wants to talk to you.

By the way, Yeah, I could jump in like it was your you're you ghosted me over twelve dollars and fifty cents?

By the way, Yeah, I could jump in like it was your you're you ghosted me over twelve dollars and fifty cents?

Did you send them? I mean I did.

Did you send them? I mean I did.

It's like, ye, I didn't.

It's like, ye, I didn't.

Sorry, I didn't even make it. I don't even make like a big thing or anything like that. Yeah, it just it's just it's so kind of weird, dude, I don't know, but you made it.

Sorry, I didn't even make it. I don't even make like a big thing or anything like that. Yeah, it just it's just it's so kind of weird, dude, I don't know, but you made it.

A big thing like it's it was a twenty five dollars ride, like I was. I just supposed to just not like just deal with it like it was a first date. I feel like that's just a very common expense expectancy to like split things.

A big thing like it's it was a twenty five dollars ride, like I was. I just supposed to just not like just deal with it like it was a first date. I feel like that's just a very common expense expectancy to like split things.

Did you guys split everything else on the day?

Did you guys split everything else on the day?

It?

It?

Wow?

Wow?

My thing is?

My thing is?

This is my thing?

This is my thing?

Though?

Though?

Is that?

Is that?

So to me this has.

So to me this has.

Like nothing to do with the money, Like I don't care about this split in the money, the fees, the twenty five dollars, but I don't even care about that.

Like nothing to do with the money, Like I don't care about this split in the money, the fees, the twenty five dollars, but I don't even care about that.

To me is like this is a communication thing. You kind of know what I mean by that.

To me is like this is a communication thing. You kind of know what I mean by that.

So it's like we hadn't even had our first post first date conversation before You're like sending me these Venmo requests without like hitting me up about like or even just texting me or even just like talking to me. It felt like, I don't know that could be like our future, right it's just passive aggressive comment actions and stuff like that. I really, I just I can't really handle that. I'm kind of good. I'm an adult and I appreciate straightforward communications, just to be honest about it.

So it's like we hadn't even had our first post first date conversation before You're like sending me these Venmo requests without like hitting me up about like or even just texting me or even just like talking to me. It felt like, I don't know that could be like our future, right it's just passive aggressive comment actions and stuff like that. I really, I just I can't really handle that. I'm kind of good. I'm an adult and I appreciate straightforward communications, just to be honest about it.

So would you have rather her text you and be like, hey, do you mind if I send you a Venmo request for.

So would you have rather her text you and be like, hey, do you mind if I send you a Venmo request for.

The uber ride? Like would that have solved issue for you?

The uber ride? Like would that have solved issue for you?

I don't know, because like I would have rather heard I guess in my head I kind of want her to just drive at least in two We're having like regular conversations for a little while, and then it's like, hey, you want to send me some money for that uber?

I don't know, because like I would have rather heard I guess in my head I kind of want her to just drive at least in two We're having like regular conversations for a little while, and then it's like, hey, you want to send me some money for that uber?

Right, you just.

Right, you just.

Said that the money. You just said the money wasn't an issue, but now you're saying it is an issue because I mean, I haint fo and like everything all I did was sent a request. I didn't demand it from you. I was and you could have just texted me and said, hey, what's up with the Venmo request? You didn't respond to me at all? How is that an adult mature thing?

Said that the money. You just said the money wasn't an issue, but now you're saying it is an issue because I mean, I haint fo and like everything all I did was sent a request. I didn't demand it from you. I was and you could have just texted me and said, hey, what's up with the Venmo request? You didn't respond to me at all? How is that an adult mature thing?

I mean, even if you would have demanded it from me, that would.

I mean, even if you would have demanded it from me, that would.

Have been more straightforward communications. So I feel like I would have preferred that even over, Like, I just don't like the passive aggressive Venmo thing, dude, Like this is it's like a type of person that communicates and operates through the Venmo transactions like that, And it's not me.

Have been more straightforward communications. So I feel like I would have preferred that even over, Like, I just don't like the passive aggressive Venmo thing, dude, Like this is it's like a type of person that communicates and operates through the Venmo transactions like that, And it's not me.

I'm just not I'm not into it.

I'm just not I'm not into it.

It was a turn off.

It was a turn off.

But do you think you're a passive aggressive person in general?

But do you think you're a passive aggressive person in general?

No? No, I'm definitely not. I don't know what kind of specific person you're like looking for in terms of wanting something like that, but you could have also just communicated that that was an issue, Like you're boasting about being a mature adult and communication is important to you. But you did the exact opposite of what you just said. So I'm looking for somebody who can actually follow through with their own principles. I needed to.

No? No, I'm definitely not. I don't know what kind of specific person you're like looking for in terms of wanting something like that, but you could have also just communicated that that was an issue, Like you're boasting about being a mature adult and communication is important to you. But you did the exact opposite of what you just said. So I'm looking for somebody who can actually follow through with their own principles. I needed to.

Send a them request, like to someone after a date all out of the move.

Send a them request, like to someone after a date all out of the move.

I just think it's kind of weird in this economy. How is that weird?

I just think it's kind of weird in this economy. How is that weird?

If you're if you're if you need the money or whatever. I guess I get that or whatever, but it's for me, it's to turn off.

If you're if you're if you need the money or whatever. I guess I get that or whatever, but it's for me, it's to turn off.

I'm sorry about it.

I'm sorry about it.

It is what it is.

It is what it is.

You said that you would have rather bring it up later, but I feel like it'd been more awkward if she would have brought it up later and randomly.

You said that you would have rather bring it up later, but I feel like it'd been more awkward if she would have brought it up later and randomly.

Well, okay, how about we try this right, Like, why don't you tell me how much your time was worth for the date and I'll reimburse you for it?

Well, okay, how about we try this right, Like, why don't you tell me how much your time was worth for the date and I'll reimburse you for it?

Wow? No, you know, I don't know money, you know, I just I mean, if you want to pay me, like, you know, give me one hundred and fifty bucks, But be honest, I don't think you can even afford that.

Wow? No, you know, I don't know money, you know, I just I mean, if you want to pay me, like, you know, give me one hundred and fifty bucks, But be honest, I don't think you can even afford that.

Oh, Okay, all right, I'm going an you will use three hundred right now, just to show you I can afford it.

Oh, Okay, all right, I'm going an you will use three hundred right now, just to show you I can afford it.

Hey, Kyle, would you like to go on another date with Emma? We'll pay for it.

Hey, Kyle, would you like to go on another date with Emma? We'll pay for it.

I'm thinking about it. I think I'm good, don't fam. I think we're business.

I'm thinking about it. I think I'm good, don't fam. I think we're business.

Emma, you didn't get a second date, but hey, you got three hundred bus when In my book, Jubile's first day call up

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