The Guilt of Doing Nothing + Is Your Work Ethic Actually a Trauma Response? (Couch Talks)

Why does relaxing feel so hard? Why does sitting on the couch for 20 minutes feel like a moral failure? We break down the guilt of "unfinished" downtime, the pressure to turn every hobby into a side hustle, and why rest isn't something you have to earn. Plus, a listener question on feeling worthy t…

A Nightcap Ritual That Actually Works + What Makes People Successful

This week we're breaking down a 75-year Harvard study that found the biggest predictor of a successful adult by age 25 wasn't grades, test scores, or extracurriculars, it was whether they did chores starting at age three or four. We get into why that is, plus three rules for making chores actually …

Healing After Abuse + Are My Parents Gambling Addicts? (Couch Talks)

We're answering a heartbreaking listener question from a woman who survived a severely abusive relationship, one that included manipulation, threats, and abandonment during her pregnancy, and is now trying to figure out how to move forward knowing she may never get justice, accountability, or an ap…

What The Hell Are We Doing With Our Lives + 6 Rules to Avoid Being Cringe

We break down the idea of an annual "Girls Dinner" (specifically built around the question "What the hell are we doing with our lives?"), where you and your closest friends put your phones away and answer things like what you want more of, what you're tolerating that needs to change, and what you'd…

Is It Okay to Use AI as Your Therapist? Plus: Going No Contact With Family (Couch Talks)

This week we're tackling a listener question that's been on everyone's mind: is it okay to use AI as your therapist? We break down the real pros and cons, from accessibility to the risk of over-relying on something that can't read a room or hold real accountability. Then we dig into a gut-wrenchin…

6 People Who Quietly Drain Your Energy, Over-Apologizing & Semen Jewelry (Yes, Really)

We’re breaking down the 6 types of people quietly draining your energy: the Constant Critic, the Guilt Tripper, the Fake Supporter, and more. We also cover the "survival strategy" behaviors you didn't realize were trauma responses in disguise (over-apologizing, we're looking at you). Plus, we get i…

Can You Date Someone You're Not Attracted To? Plus, an Incredible Healing Story (Couch Talks)

Amy & Kat discuss a study that says women struggle to focus on conversations when they feel only okay about their outfit. Then, a 50 year old single listener from Colorado wants to know if it is wrong to keep seeing a man she genuinely likes but feels no physical attraction toward. Amy & Kat weigh …

Stop Adding More Hobbies. Do This Instead.

Amy is feeling happy (her testosterone pellet finally kicked in and she is feeling like a whole new person!) and Kat is feeling grateful but conflicted after having to tow cars from her therapy office parking lot. She felt disrespected but knew it had to be done. They get into how many unanswered t…

Late ADHD Diagnoses, a Friends Trip Dilemma & More (Couch Talks)

A listener is dreading her annual friends trip with former coworkers and wants to know if it's okay to just stop going. Amy & Kat weigh in. Then, two emails about ADHD bring on a bigger conversation…Katelyn was diagnosed after becoming a mom and wants to hear more about how Amy & Kat navigate ADHD …

The Most Common Lies We Tell, A Wild Blind Date Story & More

Amy is feeling frustrated and Kat is feeling exhausted, but they show up….so yay! First up, Michelle from Florida keeps a list in her phone of everyone she's feuding with and caps it at 10 people. Kat weighs in on whether that's actually unhealthy or more nuanced than it sounds. Then, Sam from Bost…