Today’s episode is a survival guide for your body, your safety, and your peace of mind. Amy & Kat talk about how a simple 12-minute walk with a friend is the ultimate nervous system reset…but it’s not all sunshine and strolls. They share chilling tips from a former FBI agent on the 4 specific behaviors that make someone a target for kidnappers. If you’ve ever "politely" responded to a stranger or stuck to the same walking routine, you need to hear this.

Plus, we’re celebrating Kat’s anniversary! They break down the traditional gift themes thanks to the book Kat is reading: Rock, Paper, Scissors. Amy shares why women over 40 should be pounding the stairs (literally) for bone health, the hidden psychology of why voice memos are "time-hijacking" your friends, and finally, navigating the heavy mental load of the Epstein Files.

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Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

Today&rsquo;s episode is a survival guide for your body, your safety, and your peace of mind. Amy &amp; Kat talk about how a simple 12-minute walk with a friend is the ultimate nervous system reset&hellip;but it&rsquo;s not all sunshine and strolls. They share chilling tips from a former FBI agent on the 4 specific behaviors that make someone a target for kidnappers. If you&rsquo;ve ever "politely" responded to a stranger or stuck to the same walking routine, you need to hear this.
Plus, we&rsquo;re celebrating Kat&rsquo;s anniversary! They break down the traditional gift themes thanks to the book Kat is reading: Rock, Paper, Scissors. Amy shares why women over 40 should be pounding the stairs (literally) for bone health, the hidden psychology of why voice memos are "time-hijacking" your friends, and finally, navigating the heavy mental load of the Epstein Files.
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Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Feeling Things with Amy & Kat is a podcast for anyone who’s ever had feelings—or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what’s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table—big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it’s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

Feeling Things with Amy &amp; Kat is a podcast for anyone who&rsquo;s ever had feelings&mdash;or wants to. Hosted by Amy Brown and therapist Kat Van Buren, this is a space where nothing is off-limits. From deep reflections on childhood to pop culture obsessions to what&rsquo;s happening in the world, all feelings deserve a seat at the table&mdash;big, small, awkward, joyful, confusing, and everything in between. At its core, it&rsquo;s real friends having real conversations about real feelings. Some episodes go deep, some stay light, but all are rooted in curiosity, honesty, and connection. In a world that moves fast, sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is pause... and feel things.

Feeling Things with Amy & Kat 

The 12-Minute Reset, FBI Safety Secrets, and the Epstein Files

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/93ffbc8d-4f84-437b-8b08-b3f400bd7a50/transcript

Amy and Kat open with a sweet note from Kari, a listener sharing a unique discovery: a suction-cup window birdhouse that allows for a front-row seat to nature without disturbing the nest. She also shares one of her favorite takeaways from the podcast: "never suppressing a generous thought."

Amy then reminds us about the “Blessings Jar” that Kat gave her a few years ago! Such a good gift idea if you need something special for a friend. Speaking of friends, we need to be hanging out with our people more because a Geriatric Psychologist said this: “Stop waiting to feel social. You do not wait to feel inspired to brush your teeth. Socializing after 40 is no longer entertainment; it is Cognitive Maintenance. You must force interactions with the same cold discipline you use for a mortgage payment. If you do not pay the social rent, your reality eventually gets evicted." This leads to a conversation about @monthlymomsclub gatherings that Amy gets invited to—and how she NEEDS to start attending for “cognitive maintenance."

Tracy in Denver sent a voicemail sharing a transformative "mother-daughter" breakthrough that shifted their relationship from friction to connection: the simple act of asking, "Are you calling to vent, or are you calling for advice?" Amy and Kat discuss how this one question can save relationships, prevent "toe-stepping," and ensure everyone gets exactly what they need.


BLESSINGS JAR: HERE

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HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

Amy and Kat open with a sweet note from Kari, a listener sharing a unique discovery: a suction-cup window birdhouse that allows for a front-row seat to nature without disturbing the nest. She also shares one of her favorite takeaways from the podcast: "never suppressing a generous thought."
Amy then reminds us about the &ldquo;Blessings Jar&rdquo; that Kat gave her a few years ago! Such a good gift idea if you need something special for a friend. Speaking of friends, we need to be hanging out with our people more because a Geriatric Psychologist said this: &ldquo;Stop waiting to feel social. You do not wait to feel inspired to brush your teeth. Socializing after 40 is no longer entertainment; it is Cognitive Maintenance. You must force interactions with the same cold discipline you use for a mortgage payment. If you do not pay the social rent, your reality eventually gets evicted." This leads to a conversation about <a href="https://www.instagram.com/monthlymomsclub/">@monthlymomsclub</a> gatherings that Amy gets invited to&mdash;and how she NEEDS to start attending for &ldquo;cognitive maintenance."
Tracy in Denver sent a voicemail sharing a transformative "mother-daughter" breakthrough that shifted their relationship from friction to connection: the simple act of asking, "Are you calling to vent, or are you calling for advice?" Amy and Kat discuss how this one question can save relationships, prevent "toe-stepping," and ensure everyone gets exactly what they need.
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Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
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HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Socializing is No Longer Optional, The Question That Helps Relationships & More (Couch Talks)

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First up is an email from a husband, who’s on the other side of early therapy and discovering something not talked about enough: the guilt and regret that can show up after self-awareness. Amy and Kat talk through the emotional J-curve of growth, why feeling worse can actually mean you’re healing, and how to hold accountability without getting stuck in shame. The second email is from an empathetic mom navigating a high-conflict co-parenting situation and the fear of going back to court. She asks the question so many people silently carry: How do I stay steady when I cry under pressure? Kat gives tips on how to ground yourself when your nervous system wants to take over. Also, discussed in this episode is avoiding the feeling of anger, book recommendations (Theo of Golden) and more.

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Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

First up is an email from a husband, who&rsquo;s on the other side of early therapy and discovering something not talked about enough: the guilt and regret that can show up after self-awareness. Amy and Kat talk through the emotional J-curve of growth, why feeling worse can actually mean you&rsquo;re healing, and how to hold accountability without getting stuck in shame. The second email is from an empathetic mom navigating a high-conflict co-parenting situation and the fear of going back to court. She asks the question so many people silently carry: How do I stay steady when I cry under pressure? Kat gives tips on how to ground yourself when your nervous system wants to take over. Also, discussed in this episode is avoiding the feeling of anger, book recommendations (Theo of Golden) and more.
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking&nbsp;<a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

Guilt After Growth, Staying Steady When You Cry Easily & Avoiding Anger (Couch Talks)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/e11e3e0e-4d0b-413d-9821-b3ef0035e76f/transcript

When life feels loud and uncertain, “it will be okay” doesn’t always help. Amy and Kat talk about how to show up without fixing, why validation matters, and what real support looks like. They also share what they’re feeling of the day, what they're reading and watching, including immersion reading and a perimenopause documentary that sparked a conversation about hormones, relationships, and why everything can feel turned way up. Amy reflects on her divorce, what perimenopause may (or may not) have influenced, and why understanding your body matters. Plus, a heartfelt voicemail from a listener in Alberta reminds them why the randomness, laughter, and everyday conversations matter...especially in hard seasons.

5 Things to Say Instead of “It Will Be Okay”:

1. “Gosh, this sounds hard.”
Lead with validation instead of solutions. Naming how difficult something feels helps people feel seen rather than fixed.

2. “What do you need from me right now?”
Before giving advice, check in. Sometimes people want help, sometimes they just want to be heard...and they may not even know yet.

3. “Sounds like you’re having a very human reaction.”
Normalize their response. Fear, anger, sadness, and overwhelm are often appropriate reactions...not signs something is wrong with them.

4. “I don’t know the right thing to say, but I’m here.”
Be honest and present. You don’t need the perfect words to offer support...your presence matters more than certainty.

5. “I’m bringing you over cookies.”
When asking what someone needs feels like too much, take the guesswork out and do something tangible. Care doesn’t have to be complicated.

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Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter HERE!

Watch us on Youtube HERE!

Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077

Email: heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com

HOSTS:

Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy

Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen

When life feels loud and uncertain, &ldquo;it will be okay&rdquo; doesn&rsquo;t always help. Amy and Kat talk about how to show up without fixing, why validation matters, and what real support looks like. They also share what they&rsquo;re feeling of the day, what they're reading and watching, including immersion reading and a perimenopause documentary that sparked a conversation about hormones, relationships, and why everything can feel turned way up. Amy reflects on her divorce, what perimenopause may (or may not) have influenced, and why understanding your body matters. Plus, a heartfelt voicemail from a listener in Alberta reminds them why the randomness, laughter, and everyday conversations matter...especially in hard seasons.
5 Things to Say Instead of &ldquo;It Will Be Okay&rdquo;:
1. &ldquo;Gosh, this sounds hard.&rdquo; Lead with validation instead of solutions. Naming how difficult something feels helps people feel seen rather than fixed.
2. &ldquo;What do you need from me right now?&rdquo; Before giving advice, check in. Sometimes people want help, sometimes they just want to be heard...and they may not even know yet.
3. &ldquo;Sounds like you&rsquo;re having a very human reaction.&rdquo; Normalize their response. Fear, anger, sadness, and overwhelm are often appropriate reactions...not signs something is wrong with them.
4. &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t know the right thing to say, but I&rsquo;m here.&rdquo; Be honest and present. You don&rsquo;t need the perfect words to offer support...your presence matters more than certainty.
5. &ldquo;I&rsquo;m bringing you over cookies.&rdquo; When asking what someone needs feels like too much, take the guesswork out and do something tangible. Care doesn&rsquo;t have to be complicated.
Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking <a href="https://feelingthingspodcast.com">HERE</a>! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com)
Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/threecordstherapy/feeling-things-subscribe">HERE</a>!
Watch us on Youtube&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@feelingthingspodcast">HERE</a>!
Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077
Email:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com">heythere@feelingthingspodcast.com</a>
HOSTS:
Amy Brown // <a href="http://radioamy.com/">RadioAmy.com</a> // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/radioamy/">@RadioAmy</a>
Kat Van Buren // <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com">threecordstherapy.com</a> //&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/katvanburen/">@KatVanburen</a>

5 Things to Say Instead of “It Will Be Okay” (Hint: Bring Cookies, Not Advice)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/3cd5a101-f0dd-4f4a-9b06-b3ed008383c4/transcript

The 12-Minute Reset, FBI Safety Secrets, and the Epstein Files

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