Justin & Kylie discuss episode 1 of Parental Guidance Season Two

Topics included in this episode -
Online safety
Families were challenged to have their children play a game online
Why kids lie about what they're doing online
How to have the 'online safety' conversation with your kids
Talk early. Talk often.

Find us on Facebook at Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Email us your questions and comments at podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au

Justin &amp; Kylie discuss episode 1 of Parental Guidance Season Two
Topics included in this episode -
<ul>
<li>Online safety</li>
<li>Families were challenged to have their children play a game online</li>
<li>Why kids lie about what they're doing online</li>
<li>How to have the 'online safety' conversation with your kids</li>
<li>Talk early. Talk often.</li>
</ul>
Find us on Facebook at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/happyfamilies.au/">Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families</a>
Email us your questions and comments at <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#779 Parental Guidance Recap - How Safe Are Your Kids Online?

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/6fbb8bcf-5929-4970-8895-b013006d8412/transcript

He’s perfect at school. Polite. Award-winning. Well behaved.

Then he comes home… and explodes.

If your 7–8-year-old is melting down over TV, pushing boundaries, or even getting physical when you say no — this episode will help you understand what’s really going on beneath the surface.

We unpack the hidden developmental shifts happening in boys around this age, why “just turn it off” can feel impossible for them, and practical strategies to reduce the blow-ups — without constant battles.

If you’re exhausted, confused, or questioning yourself… this one’s for you.

KEY POINTS
Why boys around 7–8 experience a surge in emotional intensity (adrenarche)
The surprising reason “good at school” can mean explosions at home
Why turning off TV feels bigger than it looks
How to build emotional regulation before age 10
A powerful way to teach healthy masculinity early
Practical tools: transitions, routines, signals, and collaborative problem-solving

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“A strong, healthy man doesn’t use his strength to dominate. He uses it to help the people around him feel safer and stronger.”

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Pre-plan transitions before TV ends — decide together what happens next.
Use a neutral signal (timer, lights, countdown) to reduce confrontation.
Have calm conversations later, not in the heat of the moment.
Teach emotional strength explicitly — especially for boys.
Stay consistent. Regulation takes repetition, not one perfect talk.

He&rsquo;s perfect at school. Polite. Award-winning. Well behaved.
Then he comes home&hellip; and explodes.
If your 7&ndash;8-year-old is melting down over TV, pushing boundaries, or even getting physical when you say no &mdash; this episode will help you understand what&rsquo;s really going on beneath the surface.
We unpack the hidden developmental shifts happening in boys around this age, why &ldquo;just turn it off&rdquo; can feel impossible for them, and practical strategies to reduce the blow-ups &mdash; without constant battles.
If you&rsquo;re exhausted, confused, or questioning yourself&hellip; this one&rsquo;s for you.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why boys around 7&ndash;8 experience a surge in emotional intensity (adrenarche)</li>
<li aria-level="1">The surprising reason &ldquo;good at school&rdquo; can mean explosions at home</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why turning off TV feels bigger than it looks</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to build emotional regulation before age 10</li>
<li aria-level="1">A powerful way to teach healthy masculinity early</li>
<li aria-level="1">Practical tools: transitions, routines, signals, and collaborative problem-solving</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;A strong, healthy man doesn&rsquo;t use his strength to dominate. He uses it to help the people around him feel safer and stronger.&rdquo;
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ol>
<li aria-level="1">Pre-plan transitions before TV ends &mdash; decide together what happens next.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Use a neutral signal (timer, lights, countdown) to reduce confrontation.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Have calm conversations later, not in the heat of the moment.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Teach emotional strength explicitly &mdash; especially for boys.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Stay consistent. Regulation takes repetition, not one perfect talk.</li>
</ol>

Q&A: My Eight-Year-Old Turns Aggressive and I Don’t Know Why

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/2504b538-6ab9-481a-97ca-b3f30178f8aa/transcript

You are pouring yourself out every single day. But into whose cup?

In this powerful conversation inspired by Derek Thompson, Justin and Kylie explore a simple metaphor that will stop you mid-scroll: every morning you wake with a full jug of water. By night, it’s empty. The only question that matters is where it went.

Work. News. Regret. Netflix. Anxiety. Group chats. Your kids. Your marriage.

Attention never lies. It reveals what we truly value.

If you’ve been feeling depleted, resentful, stretched thin — this episode will gently realign you with what actually matters.

Because tomorrow morning?
The jug refills.

KEY POINTS
The “Cup Game” metaphor and why you’re playing it whether you realise it or not
Why attention is your most honest measure of values
The hidden cost of pouring into cups that don’t matter
Why good things can still drain you
A simple end-of-day question that changes everything
How to reset — even if you’ve been “losing” the game for years

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Attention never lies. It reveals what we truly value.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Derek Thompson Substack article: Whose Cup Are You Filling?
Stephen Covey – “The things that matter most should never be at the mercy of the things that matter least.”

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
At the end of today, ask: Whose cup did I fill?
Notice one cup that received too much water.
Choose one relationship that gets first pour tomorrow.
When you feel depleted at 4pm, take one small intentional step toward connection.
Remember: the jug refills in the morning.

You are pouring yourself out every single day. But into whose cup?
In this powerful conversation inspired by Derek Thompson, Justin and Kylie explore a simple metaphor that will stop you mid-scroll: every morning you wake with a full jug of water. By night, it&rsquo;s empty. The only question that matters is where it went.
Work. News. Regret. Netflix. Anxiety. Group chats. Your kids. Your marriage.
Attention never lies. It reveals what we truly value.
If you&rsquo;ve been feeling depleted, resentful, stretched thin &mdash; this episode will gently realign you with what actually matters.
Because tomorrow morning? The jug refills.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The &ldquo;Cup Game&rdquo; metaphor and why you&rsquo;re playing it whether you realise it or not</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why attention is your most honest measure of values</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden cost of pouring into cups that don&rsquo;t matter</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why good things can still drain you</li>
<li aria-level="1">A simple end-of-day question that changes everything</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to reset &mdash; even if you&rsquo;ve been &ldquo;losing&rdquo; the game for years</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Attention never lies. It reveals what we truly value.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Derek Thompson Substack article: Whose Cup Are You Filling?</li>
<li aria-level="1">Stephen Covey &ndash; &ldquo;The things that matter most should never be at the mercy of the things that matter least.&rdquo;</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ol>
<li aria-level="1">At the end of today, ask: Whose cup did I fill?</li>
<li aria-level="1">Notice one cup that received too much water.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Choose one relationship that gets first pour tomorrow.</li>
<li aria-level="1">When you feel depleted at 4pm, take one small intentional step toward connection.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Remember: the jug refills in the morning.</li>
</ol>

Whose Cup Are You Filling?

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/aba5d063-8501-400d-9ca8-b3f30178d342/transcript

What if your child’s resistance isn’t laziness… but fear?

In this heartfelt Friday “I’ll Do Better Tomorrow” episode of the The Happy Families Podcast, Justin and Kylie unpack a powerful parenting moment: an 11-year-old who didn’t want to try the 6am surf class — and the surprising truth behind her pushback.

This episode is about competence, courage, friendship, and why slowing down might be the most important thing we do for our kids (and ourselves).

If you’ve ever pushed, pulled, or panicked when your child resisted something new — this one will land.

KEY POINTS
Why “I don’t want to” often masks “What if I look dumb?”
The hidden power of friendships in building confidence
How to use a “soft entry” instead of forcing commitment
The sweet spot of growth (hello, zone of proximal development)
Why parents need protected, screen-free stillness
The family lesson we forgot after COVID

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Sometimes our kids’ trepidation is less about the activity… and more about feeling incompetent.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Justin’s books and parenting resources at happyfamilies.com.au
Research behind capability, autonomy and competence (Self-Determination Theory)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Offer a one-time trial instead of a full commitment
Look for the fear underneath the resistance
Pair new challenges with trusted friends
Protect one quiet hour this week — no screens, no rushing
Let your child grow at the edge of their capability, not beyond it

What if your child&rsquo;s resistance isn&rsquo;t laziness&hellip; but fear?
In this heartfelt Friday &ldquo;I&rsquo;ll Do Better Tomorrow&rdquo; episode of the The Happy Families Podcast, Justin and Kylie unpack a powerful parenting moment: an 11-year-old who didn&rsquo;t want to try the 6am surf class &mdash; and the surprising truth behind her pushback.
This episode is about competence, courage, friendship, and why slowing down might be the most important thing we do for our kids (and ourselves).
If you&rsquo;ve ever pushed, pulled, or panicked when your child resisted something new &mdash; this one will land.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t want to&rdquo; often masks &ldquo;What if I look dumb?&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden power of friendships in building confidence</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to use a &ldquo;soft entry&rdquo; instead of forcing commitment</li>
<li aria-level="1">The sweet spot of growth (hello, zone of proximal development)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why parents need protected, screen-free stillness</li>
<li aria-level="1">The family lesson we forgot after COVID</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Sometimes our kids&rsquo; trepidation is less about the activity&hellip; and more about feeling incompetent.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Justin&rsquo;s books and parenting resources at <a href="happyfamilies.com.au">happyfamilies.com.au</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Research behind capability, autonomy and competence (Self-Determination Theory)</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Offer a one-time trial instead of a full commitment</li>
<li aria-level="1">Look for the fear underneath the resistance</li>
<li aria-level="1">Pair new challenges with trusted friends</li>
<li aria-level="1">Protect one quiet hour this week &mdash; no screens, no rushing</li>
<li aria-level="1">Let your child grow at the edge of their capability, not beyond it</li>
</ul>

When “I Don’t Want To” Is Really “I’m Scared”

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#779 Parental Guidance Recap - How Safe Are Your Kids Online?

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