Topics discussed in today's episode:
The Explosive Child, by Dr Ross Greene an associate clinical professor at Harvard Medical School
Kids do well if they can
Flexibility & adaptability
Problem solving
High emotions, low intelligence
Lagging skills research
Motivation vs ability
How to work with intensely rigid children
Problem solving
Explore, Explain, Empower

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Topics discussed in today's episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-explosive-child-sixth-edition-ross-w-greene/book/9780063092464.html">The Explosive Child, by Dr Ross Greene</a> an associate clinical professor at Harvard Medical School</li>
<li>Kids do well if they can</li>
<li>Flexibility &amp; adaptability</li>
<li>Problem solving</li>
<li>High emotions, low intelligence</li>
<li>Lagging skills research</li>
<li>Motivation vs ability</li>
<li>How to work with intensely rigid children</li>
<li>Problem solving</li>
<li>Explore, Explain, Empower</li>
</ul>
Get in touch with your questions and feedback to <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>
Find out more and register for the <a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/the-raising-resilient-kids-summit">Raising Resilient Kids Summit</a>.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#721 Defusing Explosive Children with Dr Ross Greene

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/7d31f05b-fb92-4b98-8667-afc30042300b/transcript

You’re not too busy for friendships - you’re just missing this.

Loneliness is rising, even among people who seem to have it all. So why does making (and keeping) friends as an adult feel so hard?

In this episode, we unpack the surprising science behind connection - and the simple, uncomfortable shifts that turn acquaintances into real friendships.

If you’ve ever thought, “I wish I had deeper friendships”… this is the one to listen to.

KEY POINTS
Why loneliness is rising - even when we’re more “connected” than ever
The hidden rule of friendship: it takes 50+ hours to even get started
Why discomfort is part of every meaningful relationship
The mistake most adults make (waiting instead of initiating)
How one brave invite can completely change your social life
Why face-to-face time beats texts, likes, and DMs every time

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Don’t wait - initiate. The friendships you want won’t build themselves.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Research on friendship time thresholds (Jeff Hall, University of Kansas)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Reach out to one person this week - don’t overthink it
Schedule time together (don’t leave it as “we should catch up”)
Put your phone away in shared spaces - create connection moments
Commit to consistency - friendship is built over hours, not intention
Say yes to discomfort - it’s a sign something meaningful is forming

You&rsquo;re not too busy for friendships - you&rsquo;re just missing this.
Loneliness is rising, even among people who seem to have it all. So why does making (and keeping) friends as an adult feel so hard?
In this episode, we unpack the surprising science behind connection - and the simple, uncomfortable shifts that turn acquaintances into real friendships.
If you&rsquo;ve ever thought, &ldquo;I wish I had deeper friendships&rdquo;&hellip; this is the one to listen to.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why loneliness is rising - even when we&rsquo;re more &ldquo;connected&rdquo; than ever</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden rule of friendship: it takes 50+ hours to even get started</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why discomfort is part of every meaningful relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">The mistake most adults make (waiting instead of initiating)</li>
<li aria-level="1">How one brave invite can completely change your social life</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why face-to-face time beats texts, likes, and DMs every time</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Don&rsquo;t wait - initiate. The friendships you want won&rsquo;t build themselves.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://news.ku.edu/news/article/2018/03/06/study-reveals-number-hours-it-takes-make-friend">Research on friendship time thresholds</a> (Jeff Hall, University of Kansas)</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Reach out to one person this week - don&rsquo;t overthink it</li>
<li aria-level="1">Schedule time together (don&rsquo;t leave it as &ldquo;we should catch up&rdquo;)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Put your phone away in shared spaces - create connection moments</li>
<li aria-level="1">Commit to consistency - friendship is built over hours, not intention</li>
<li aria-level="1">Say yes to discomfort - it&rsquo;s a sign something meaningful is forming</li>
</ul>

The Friendship Advice Experts Swear By

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/157c074f-442a-40e9-9487-b40f00beec4e/transcript

What if the thing your family needs most… isn’t more time - but better conversations?

In this episode, we reveal the one habit that keeps us aligned, connected, and actually moving forward - despite the chaos of raising six kids.

It’s simple. It’s structured. And almost no one does it.

If your family feels reactive, disconnected, or stuck in survival mode… this might be the reset you didn’t know you needed.

KEY POINTS
Why most families drift (and how to stop it)
The “quarterly reset” that changes everything
How to plan your family life like a thriving business
The power of stepping away to reconnect properly
What to actually talk about (so it’s not just another chat)
Balancing deep conversations with fun so it actually works
Turning vague goals into real, actionable plans
Why weekly check-ins make the biggest difference long-term

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“If your family is the most important thing in your life… when was the last time you made a plan for it?”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Quarterly getaways / family planning sessions
Weekly couple check-ins
Goal setting (annual, quarterly, weekly rhythm)

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Block out time (a day or weekend) with your partner—no distractions
Start with a full “life map” (kids, health, finances, routines, relationships)
Choose 2–3 focus words for the season ahead
Break big goals into specific, practical actions
Schedule your next check-in before you finish
Commit to a simple weekly alignment conversation

What if the thing your family needs most&hellip; isn&rsquo;t more time - but better conversations?
In this episode, we reveal the one habit that keeps us aligned, connected, and actually moving forward - despite the chaos of raising six kids.
It&rsquo;s simple. It&rsquo;s structured. And almost no one does it.
If your family feels reactive, disconnected, or stuck in survival mode&hellip; this might be the reset you didn&rsquo;t know you needed.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why most families drift (and how to stop it)</li>
<li aria-level="1">The &ldquo;quarterly reset&rdquo; that changes everything</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to plan your family life like a thriving business</li>
<li aria-level="1">The power of stepping away to reconnect properly</li>
<li aria-level="1">What to actually talk about (so it&rsquo;s not just another chat)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Balancing deep conversations with fun so it actually works</li>
<li aria-level="1">Turning vague goals into real, actionable plans</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why weekly check-ins make the biggest difference long-term</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;If your family is the most important thing in your life&hellip; when was the last time you made a plan for it?&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Quarterly getaways / family planning sessions</li>
<li aria-level="1">Weekly couple check-ins</li>
<li aria-level="1">Goal setting (annual, quarterly, weekly rhythm)</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Block out time (a day or weekend) with your partner&mdash;no distractions</li>
<li aria-level="1">Start with a full &ldquo;life map&rdquo; (kids, health, finances, routines, relationships)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Choose 2&ndash;3 focus words for the season ahead</li>
<li aria-level="1">Break big goals into specific, practical actions</li>
<li aria-level="1">Schedule your next check-in before you finish</li>
<li aria-level="1">Commit to a simple weekly alignment conversation</li>
</ul>

Why Most Families Feel Stuck and How to Fix It

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/f60c1bd6-e348-45df-b073-b40200922cff/transcript

What really keeps a marriage strong after nearly three decades?

In this honest, funny, and surprisingly emotional anniversary episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the real lessons behind a lasting relationship—beyond the clichés.

From choosing each other daily to letting go of the need to be right, this episode reveals the small mindset shifts that make the biggest difference.

Plus… Kylie shares her very simple (and slightly controversial) formula for a happy marriage.

KEY POINTS
Why love is a daily choice—not just a feeling
The truth about trying to change your partner
How your frustrations say more about you than them
Why “winning” arguments can cost your relationship
The simple habits that keep connection alive over time

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Don’t choose being right over being connected.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
The idea that 80% of what annoys you about your partner will never change
Relationship insight from Professor H. Wallace Goddard

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Choose your partner—intentionally—every single day
Swap criticism for gratitude (focus on the 80%)
Pause before reacting: “Is this my issue or theirs?”
Prioritise connection over winning small arguments
Schedule regular, simple time together (even 20 minutes counts)

What really keeps a marriage strong after nearly three decades?
In this honest, funny, and surprisingly emotional anniversary episode, Justin and Kylie unpack the real lessons behind a lasting relationship&mdash;beyond the clich&eacute;s.
From choosing each other daily to letting go of the need to be right, this episode reveals the small mindset shifts that make the biggest difference.
Plus&hellip; Kylie shares her very simple (and slightly controversial) formula for a happy marriage.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why love is a daily choice&mdash;not just a feeling</li>
<li aria-level="1">The truth about trying to change your partner</li>
<li aria-level="1">How your frustrations say more about you than them</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why &ldquo;winning&rdquo; arguments can cost your relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">The simple habits that keep connection alive over time</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Don&rsquo;t choose being right over being connected.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The idea that 80% of what annoys you about your partner will never change</li>
<li aria-level="1">Relationship insight from Professor H. Wallace Goddard</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Choose your partner&mdash;intentionally&mdash;every single day</li>
<li aria-level="1">Swap criticism for gratitude (focus on the 80%)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Pause before reacting: &ldquo;Is this my issue or theirs?&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritise connection over winning small arguments</li>
<li aria-level="1">Schedule regular, simple time together (even 20 minutes counts)</li>
</ul>

Justin & Kylie's 28th Anniversary

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/a67eb3b4-041d-4337-a0ba-b4020091ed60/transcript

#721 Defusing Explosive Children with Dr Ross Greene

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