Topics discussed in today's episode:
The Explosive Child, by Dr Ross Greene an associate clinical professor at Harvard Medical School
Kids do well if they can
Flexibility & adaptability
Problem solving
High emotions, low intelligence
Lagging skills research
Motivation vs ability
How to work with intensely rigid children
Problem solving
Explore, Explain, Empower

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Topics discussed in today's episode:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-explosive-child-sixth-edition-ross-w-greene/book/9780063092464.html">The Explosive Child, by Dr Ross Greene</a> an associate clinical professor at Harvard Medical School</li>
<li>Kids do well if they can</li>
<li>Flexibility &amp; adaptability</li>
<li>Problem solving</li>
<li>High emotions, low intelligence</li>
<li>Lagging skills research</li>
<li>Motivation vs ability</li>
<li>How to work with intensely rigid children</li>
<li>Problem solving</li>
<li>Explore, Explain, Empower</li>
</ul>
Get in touch with your questions and feedback to <a href="mailto:podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au">podcasts@happyfamilies.com.au</a>
Find out more and register for the <a href="https://www.happyfamilies.com.au/shop/product/the-raising-resilient-kids-summit">Raising Resilient Kids Summit</a>.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy Families Podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now.

Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

#721 Defusing Explosive Children with Dr Ross Greene

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A quiet car ride. A game of footy. A conversation no one planned to have.

This week, Justin and Kylie reflect on a Mother’s Day that unexpectedly became one of their most meaningful yet — not because of gifts or grand gestures, but because of honest conversations with their adult daughters about motherhood, family, and the impact mums really have.

Plus, Justin shares how a surprising new obsession with rugby league has created an unexpected bond with their teenage daughter, proving that sometimes connection happens in the most ordinary moments.

This episode is a reminder that the small things families do together often become the moments kids remember forever.

KEY POINTS
Why motherhood often matters more than the world gives it credit for
The powerful conversations that can happen side-by-side in the car
How adult children begin to see parenting differently with age
Why simple family traditions create lasting connection
The surprising way sport brought a father and daughter closer
How shared interests help teens open up naturally
The hidden joy of grandparenting

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Sometimes the small things families do together become the moments kids remember forever.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Happy Families
Boys: Building Strong Young Men From the Inside Outby Dr Justin Coulson

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Create space for side-by-side conversations — especially during car rides or shared activities
Don’t underestimate the impact your parenting is having, even when it feels unnoticed
Look for low-pressure ways to connect with teens through shared interests
Prioritise time together over perfect celebrations
Build small family rituals that give everyone something to look forward to

A quiet car ride. A game of footy. A conversation no one planned to have.
This week, Justin and Kylie reflect on a Mother&rsquo;s Day that unexpectedly became one of their most meaningful yet &mdash; not because of gifts or grand gestures, but because of honest conversations with their adult daughters about motherhood, family, and the impact mums really have.
Plus, Justin shares how a surprising new obsession with rugby league has created an unexpected bond with their teenage daughter, proving that sometimes connection happens in the most ordinary moments.
This episode is a reminder that the small things families do together often become the moments kids remember forever.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why motherhood often matters more than the world gives it credit for</li>
<li aria-level="1">The powerful conversations that can happen side-by-side in the car</li>
<li aria-level="1">How adult children begin to see parenting differently with age</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why simple family traditions create lasting connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">The surprising way sport brought a father and daughter closer</li>
<li aria-level="1">How shared interests help teens open up naturally</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden joy of grandparenting</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Sometimes the small things families do together become the moments kids remember forever.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://happyfamilies.com.au?utm_source=chatgpt.com">Happy Families</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://booktopia.kh4ffx.net/5kjvy3">Boys: Building Strong Young Men From the Inside Out</a> by Dr Justin Coulson</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Create space for side-by-side conversations &mdash; especially during car rides or shared activities</li>
<li aria-level="1">Don&rsquo;t underestimate the impact your parenting is having, even when it feels unnoticed</li>
<li aria-level="1">Look for low-pressure ways to connect with teens through shared interests</li>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritise time together over perfect celebrations</li>
<li aria-level="1">Build small family rituals that give everyone something to look forward to</li>
</ul>

Watching the Footy

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Your child finishes assignments faster than ever… but are they actually learning anything?

In this Doctor’s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack two alarming new studies on how AI is changing the way kids think, learn, remember, and make decisions. From “cognitive offloading” to “cognitive surrender,” they explore why students using AI remembered less, trusted wrong answers more, and became increasingly dependent on technology to do the thinking for them.

If AI is becoming our children’s autopilot instead of their co-pilot, what happens to critical thinking, confidence, and real learning?

This conversation will challenge the way you think about ChatGPT, schoolwork, and the future of parenting in an AI-driven world.

KEY POINTS
Why students using AI remembered significantly less information
The hidden learning deficit created by cognitive offloading
How AI can weaken confidence in our own thinking
The shocking number of people who follow AI advice even when it’s wrong
Why “doing it the hard way” still matters for growth
The difference between getting outcomes and building capability
What parents need to teach kids before AI becomes their default brain

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“If you’re going for the growth, do it the hard way.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
University of Pennsylvania research on “cognitive surrender”
Brazilian study on AI use and memory retention

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Encourage kids to use AI as a helper, not a replacement thinker
Ask children to explain ideas in their own words after using AI
Prioritise learning and understanding over speed and convenience
Talk openly about AI mistakes, hallucinations, and misinformation
Create opportunities for kids to solve problems without technology assistance

Your child finishes assignments faster than ever&hellip; but are they actually learning anything?
In this Doctor&rsquo;s Desk episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack two alarming new studies on how AI is changing the way kids think, learn, remember, and make decisions. From &ldquo;cognitive offloading&rdquo; to &ldquo;cognitive surrender,&rdquo; they explore why students using AI remembered less, trusted wrong answers more, and became increasingly dependent on technology to do the thinking for them.
If AI is becoming our children&rsquo;s autopilot instead of their co-pilot, what happens to critical thinking, confidence, and real learning?
This conversation will challenge the way you think about ChatGPT, schoolwork, and the future of parenting in an AI-driven world.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why students using AI remembered significantly less information</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden learning deficit created by cognitive offloading</li>
<li aria-level="1">How AI can weaken confidence in our own thinking</li>
<li aria-level="1">The shocking number of people who follow AI advice even when it&rsquo;s wrong</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why &ldquo;doing it the hard way&rdquo; still matters for growth</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between getting outcomes and building capability</li>
<li aria-level="1">What parents need to teach kids before AI becomes their default brain</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;If you&rsquo;re going for the growth, do it the hard way.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">University of Pennsylvania&nbsp;<a href="https://futurism.com/artificial-intelligence/study-do-what-chatgpt-tells-us">research on &ldquo;cognitive surrender&rdquo;</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.psypost.org/chatgpt-acts-as-a-cognitive-crutch-that-weakens-memory-new-research-suggests/">Brazilian study on AI use and memory retention</a></li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Encourage kids to use AI as a helper, not a replacement thinker</li>
<li aria-level="1">Ask children to explain ideas in their own words after using AI</li>
<li aria-level="1">Prioritise learning and understanding over speed and convenience</li>
<li aria-level="1">Talk openly about AI mistakes, hallucinations, and misinformation</li>
<li aria-level="1">Create opportunities for kids to solve problems without technology assistance</li>
</ul>

AI Reduces Memory

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/fa326977-3de5-4283-9b8b-af3500c58607/clips/c2ddaaed-3df5-44ee-92cc-b43d008bb398/transcript

AI isn’t just helping your kids with homework - it’s shaping who they trust, how they think, and what they feel.

In this eye-opening conversation, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with Chris McKenna from Protect Young Eyes to unpack what most parents are missing about screens, social media, and the explosive rise of AI.

This isn’t about screen time. It’s about attachment, influence, and a digital world that’s moving faster than families can keep up.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, outpaced, or unsure what actually matters anymore - this episode will change how you parent in a tech-saturated world.

KEY POINTS
Why focusing on “screen time” is distracting parents from bigger risks
The hidden shift from attention to emotional attachment in AI
How chatbots are designed to pull kids back in - and keep them there
Why government restrictions aren’t enough to keep kids safe
The real reason screen battles keep happening at home
The two strategies every parent must balance: relational vs technical
How building “digital trust” reduces conflict and increases influence
Why modelling your own tech habits matters more than rules

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Social media came for their attention. AI is coming for their affection.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Protect Young Eyes
Five Habits of a Tech-Ready Family by Chris McKenna
Jonathan Haidt’s After Babel blog

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Shift your focus from screen time to what your child is experiencing and who they’re connecting with
Start proactive conversations about AI - don’t wait until there’s a problem
Build digital trust through regular, calm, curiosity-led chats
Reduce unnecessary devices and access points in your home
Clearly define boundaries - and the path to earning more freedom
Model healthy tech use consistently (they’re watching more than listening)
Balance technical controls (filters, limits) with relational connection

AI isn&rsquo;t just helping your kids with homework - it&rsquo;s shaping who they trust, how they think, and what they feel.
In this eye-opening conversation, Dr Justin Coulson sits down with Chris McKenna from Protect Young Eyes to unpack what most parents are missing about screens, social media, and the explosive rise of AI.
This isn&rsquo;t about screen time. It&rsquo;s about attachment, influence, and a digital world that&rsquo;s moving faster than families can keep up.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt overwhelmed, outpaced, or unsure what actually matters anymore - this episode will change how you parent in a tech-saturated world.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why focusing on &ldquo;screen time&rdquo; is distracting parents from bigger risks</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden shift from attention to emotional attachment in AI</li>
<li aria-level="1">How chatbots are designed to pull kids back in - and keep them there</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why government restrictions aren&rsquo;t enough to keep kids safe</li>
<li aria-level="1">The real reason screen battles keep happening at home</li>
<li aria-level="1">The two strategies every parent must balance: relational vs technical</li>
<li aria-level="1">How building &ldquo;digital trust&rdquo; reduces conflict and increases influence</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why modelling your own tech habits matters more than rules</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Social media came for their attention. AI is coming for their affection.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.protectyoungeyes.com/">Protect Young Eyes</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.techreadyfamily.com/">Five Habits of a Tech-Ready Family</a> by Chris McKenna</li>
<li aria-level="1">Jonathan Haidt&rsquo;s <a href="https://www.afterbabel.com/">After Babel</a> blog</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Shift your focus from screen time to what your child is experiencing and who they&rsquo;re connecting with</li>
<li aria-level="1">Start proactive conversations about AI - don&rsquo;t wait until there&rsquo;s a problem</li>
<li aria-level="1">Build digital trust through regular, calm, curiosity-led chats</li>
<li aria-level="1">Reduce unnecessary devices and access points in your home</li>
<li aria-level="1">Clearly define boundaries - and the path to earning more freedom</li>
<li aria-level="1">Model healthy tech use consistently (they&rsquo;re watching more than listening)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Balance&nbsp;technical controls (filters, limits) with relational connection</li>
</ul>

The Tech-Ready Family (with  Chris McKenna)

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#721 Defusing Explosive Children with Dr Ross Greene

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