What's happening in parenting in the news?

Topics included in this episode -
'We love kids but it's time to take control': Restaurant bans anyone under 10
Rihanna credits motherhood for headlining Super Bowl show: 'You can do anything'
Instant noodles are a leading cause of childhood burn injuries, new study
Wild way Australian kids are outsmarting new school phone bans
Aunt sparks outrage after taking toddler for 'mullet' haircut, without permission

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What's happening in parenting in the news?
Topics included in this episode -
<ul>
<li><a href="https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/primary-school/we-love-kids-but-its-time-to-take-control-restaurant-bans-anyone-under-10/news-story/fa626e12f6d802447d54a5886de751cf">'We love kids but it's time to take control': Restaurant bans anyone under 10</a></li>
<li><a href="https://honey.nine.com.au/parenting/rihanna-credits-her-son-with-decision-to-headline-superbowl-show/5bad486b-f4bb-46e2-a52c-03a82619433e">Rihanna credits motherhood for headlining Super Bowl show: 'You can do anything'</a></li>
<li><a href="https://honey.nine.com.au/parenting/instant-noodles-leading-cause-kids-burns-new-study/2396947e-36d9-41a5-8ab7-6ad7a66c50bc">Instant noodles are a leading cause of childhood burn injuries, new study</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/parenting/school-life/wild-way-australian-kids-are-outsmarting-new-school-phone-bans/news-story/1e16a7733f94e44556e257fa350b8c7c">Wild way Australian kids are outsmarting new school phone bans</a></li>
<li><a href="https://honey.nine.com.au/parenting/aunt-takes-toddler-nephew-for-mullet-haircut/f938bb91-e559-4019-bcba-9c9a1f0ab4ab">Aunt sparks outrage after taking toddler for 'mullet' haircut, without permission</a></li>
</ul>
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From early childhood challenges to the complexities of the teenage years, each daily episode offers simple, evidence-based strategies to help you feel more confident in your decisions and more connected to your kids.

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#712 This Week in Parenting: Banned Children, Noodle Injuries & Baby Mullets

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You’ve chosen the school you believe is best for your child. There’s just one problem. They absolutely refuse to go.

When an 11-year-old is threatening to cut up his uniform and stay home rather than attend the high school his parents have chosen, pushing harder is unlikely to help. Justin and Kylie explain why force creates resistance, what might really be underneath a child’s refusal, and how to have the conversation that could change everything.

KEY POINTS
Why trying to convince your child you’re right can make them dig in harder
The three needs driving your child’s response: connection, competence and autonomy
Why feeling heard needs to come before problem-solving
How to listen without adding your own interpretation
Why writing your child’s concerns down can take the heat out of the conversation
How to explain your reasons once your child knows you understand theirs
Using trial days and agreed expectations to move forward
Why the school that looks best on paper may not be the school where your child thrives

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“Force creates resistance. The harder you push, the harder your kids push back.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Self-Determination Theory
Basic Psychological Need Theory
Autonomy-supportive parenting

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Stop trying to win the argument. Shift the goal from convincing your child to understanding them.
Ask what you’re missing. Give them space to explain every concern without correcting or defending.
Write it down. Take their concerns seriously enough to make notes, then repeat them back without adding your interpretation.
Wait for the “yes, you get it”. If they’re still correcting you, keep listening.
Explain your why. Once they feel understood, share the two or three reasons behind your preferred school.
Look for a workable next step. Consider an experience day, trial period or clear agreement about what giving the school a genuine chance will look like.

You&rsquo;ve chosen the school you believe is best for your child. There&rsquo;s just one problem. They absolutely refuse to go.
When an 11-year-old is threatening to cut up his uniform and stay home rather than attend the high school his parents have chosen, pushing harder is unlikely to help. Justin and Kylie explain why force creates resistance, what might really be underneath a child&rsquo;s refusal, and how to have the conversation that could change everything.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why trying to convince your child you&rsquo;re right can make them dig in harder</li>
<li aria-level="1">The three needs driving your child&rsquo;s response: connection, competence and autonomy</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why feeling heard needs to come before problem-solving</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to listen without adding your own interpretation</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why writing your child&rsquo;s concerns down can take the heat out of the conversation</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to explain your reasons once your child knows you understand theirs</li>
<li aria-level="1">Using trial days and agreed expectations to move forward</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why the school that looks best on paper may not be the school where your child thrives</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;Force creates resistance. The harder you push, the harder your kids push back.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Self-Determination Theory</li>
<li aria-level="1">Basic Psychological Need Theory</li>
<li aria-level="1">Autonomy-supportive parenting</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ol>
<li aria-level="1">Stop trying to win the argument. Shift the goal from convincing your child to understanding them.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Ask what you&rsquo;re missing. Give them space to explain every concern without correcting or defending.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Write it down. Take their concerns seriously enough to make notes, then repeat them back without adding your interpretation.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Wait for the &ldquo;yes, you get it&rdquo;. If they&rsquo;re still correcting you, keep listening.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Explain your why. Once they feel understood, share the two or three reasons behind your preferred school.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Look for a workable next step. Consider an experience day, trial period or clear agreement about what giving the school a genuine chance will look like.</li>
</ol>

When Your Child Hates the School You Chose [a Listener Q&A]

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Some of the most well-intentioned things we say to our kids can backfire.

From “Good job, you’re so smart” to “You’ll be fine” and “Why can’t you be more like your sister?”, Justin and Kylie unpack five common phrases that can undermine confidence, shut down emotions and create distance between parents and kids.

More importantly, they share what to say instead to help kids feel understood, capable and connected.

KEY POINTS
Why too much praise can make kids depend on external validation
The hidden cost of saying “I’m disappointed in you”
Why “You’ll be fine” can leave a struggling child feeling alone
How comparing siblings can fuel conflict and self-doubt
Why saying “I was never good at maths either” can create a limiting mindset
Simple phrases that build connection without trying to fix everything

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“You need to know that we love you no matter what.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
Research by Wolf Meyer on praise and children’s perceptions of ability
Research by Eddie Brummelman on inflated praise
Research by Avi Assor and Guy Roth on conditional parental regard

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Swap automatic praise for curiosity: “What did you enjoy about that?”
Replace disappointment with connection: “We love you no matter what. Let’s work through this.”
Validate hard feelings before offering solutions: “This is really tough, isn’t it?”
Stop comparing siblings, friends or abilities
Replace “We’re just not good at that” with “Let’s work it out”

Some of the most well-intentioned things we say to our kids can backfire.
From &ldquo;Good job, you&rsquo;re so smart&rdquo; to &ldquo;You&rsquo;ll be fine&rdquo; and &ldquo;Why can&rsquo;t you be more like your sister?&rdquo;, Justin and Kylie unpack five common phrases that can undermine confidence, shut down emotions and create distance between parents and kids.
More importantly, they share what to say instead to help kids feel understood, capable and connected.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why too much praise can make kids depend on external validation</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden cost of saying &ldquo;I&rsquo;m disappointed in you&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why &ldquo;You&rsquo;ll be fine&rdquo; can leave a struggling child feeling alone</li>
<li aria-level="1">How comparing siblings can fuel conflict and self-doubt</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why saying &ldquo;I was never good at maths either&rdquo; can create a limiting mindset</li>
<li aria-level="1">Simple phrases that build connection without trying to fix everything</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;You need to know that we love you no matter what.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.gottman.com/product/raising-an-emotionally-intelligent-child-book/">Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child</a> by John Gottman</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.researchgate.net/publication/232510795_The_informational_value_of_evaluative_behavior_Influences_of_praise_and_blame_on_perceptions_of_ability">Research by Wolf Meyer</a> on praise and children&rsquo;s perceptions of ability</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24434235/">Research by Eddie Brummelman</a> on inflated praise</li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/14686884/">Research by Avi Assor and Guy Roth</a> on conditional parental regard</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Swap automatic praise for curiosity: &ldquo;What did you enjoy about that?&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Replace disappointment with connection: &ldquo;We love you no matter what. Let&rsquo;s work through this.&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Validate hard feelings before offering solutions: &ldquo;This is really tough, isn&rsquo;t it?&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Stop comparing siblings, friends or abilities</li>
<li aria-level="1">Replace &ldquo;We&rsquo;re just not good at that&rdquo; with &ldquo;Let&rsquo;s work it out&rdquo;</li>
</ul>

5 Things to Stop Saying to Your Kids

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The best Father’s Day had almost nothing to do with presents.

Justin and Kylie share the unexpectedly beautiful family dinner that turned into stories, tears, terrible dancing and a powerful reminder of what children really take from their dads. As each daughter shared what she loved about Justin, one message kept coming through: the way a father loves his partner can shape what his children expect from love for years to come.

KEY POINTS
Why gifts and big expectations can make special days fall flat
The simple dinner-table tradition that changed the whole night
Why telling family members what you love about them matters
How old family songs brought childhood memories flooding back
The relationship lesson Justin and Kylie’s daughters have absorbed from watching their parents
Why strong family bonds can add to our lives rather than restrict them

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE

“The greatest legacy you as their dad have given them already is the way you love me.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED
“Blue Hotel” by Chris Isaak
“Cinderella” by Steven Curtis Chapman
“We Will Rock You” by Queen

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Tell your partner and children something specific you love about them.
Bring back a song, ritual or tradition your family has let slip.
Create time together that isn’t centred around buying things.
Consider what your children are learning about relationships by watching yours.

The best Father&rsquo;s Day had almost nothing to do with presents.
Justin and Kylie share the unexpectedly beautiful family dinner that turned into stories, tears, terrible dancing and a powerful reminder of what children really take from their dads. As each daughter shared what she loved about Justin, one message kept coming through: the way a father loves his partner can shape what his children expect from love for years to come.
KEY POINTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why gifts and big expectations can make special days fall flat</li>
<li aria-level="1">The simple dinner-table tradition that changed the whole night</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why telling family members what you love about them matters</li>
<li aria-level="1">How old family songs brought childhood memories flooding back</li>
<li aria-level="1">The relationship lesson Justin and Kylie&rsquo;s daughters have absorbed from watching their parents</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why strong family bonds can add to our lives rather than restrict them</li>
</ul>
QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
&ldquo;The greatest legacy you as their dad have given them already is the way you love me.&rdquo;
RESOURCES MENTIONED
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">&ldquo;Blue Hotel&rdquo; by Chris Isaak</li>
<li aria-level="1">&ldquo;Cinderella&rdquo; by Steven Curtis Chapman</li>
<li aria-level="1">&ldquo;We Will Rock You&rdquo; by Queen</li>
</ul>
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Tell your partner and children something specific you love about them.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Bring back a song, ritual or tradition your family has let slip.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Create time together that isn&rsquo;t centred around buying things.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Consider what your children are learning about relationships by watching yours.</li>
</ul>

The Greatest Legacy a Dad Can Leave

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#712 This Week in Parenting: Banned Children, Noodle Injuries & Baby Mullets

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