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Heyteen glenas a here walking back to the Building Better Humans Project podcast. I want to tell you about a podcast that I did recently with a good friend of mine, Darcy Smythe, and it was he's got a podcast called Sounds Human. Now. This what I'm going to talk about today, I guess is a little bit around vulnerability and a little bit around challenging yourself at some level, which is what I'm about. But even I will take the opportunity to sometimes avoid the challenge, and I want to talk about that. So Darcy is someone that I hold in high regard, very and very intelligent young man, and he's been running recently, just started this podcast called Sounds Human. Now. When he reached out to me, he said, what we normally do is we film like it's video and audio, four episodes, so it takes four to five hours, four to five episodes, and we film them all in one day. And I went back and listened to some of his podcasts and he's working with well, what I think, some really intellectual people. And this is no disrespect to myself, but I don't really view myself as that intellectual. I'm a lived experience as sort of guy. I know what I've done, I know what I've experienced, and then I try and attach real life meaning to those things and then give a lesson out of that. That's how I work. But what I was listening to is people that were able to refer to texts and someone that that read or that they could you know, that's not me. I don't have that capacity to do that at that level. That's how I felt anyway. On the other side of that is I think Darcy is one of the smartest humans I've met. He's like a savant when it comes to psychology and you know, just neuroscience and the brain and the way people act and the things that they do. And if you saw Darcy and I together, we're very different looking humans. You know, I'm a big guy and you know, probably look a little bit alpha, and Darcy with no offense to dars but probably has more of that psychologist or or accountant type look about him. And I think that'd be fair fair assessment if you're looking at us both on face value. So initially I just listened to some of these podcasts and I thought, I don't really want to do sounds human. So what I did is I just didn't respond to him or just slow played the responses. Now, Darsi is not a guy that easily accepts no for an answer, and he specializes his business model in sales training, so I guess if you're someone that takes the first no, you're probably not going to be great at sales training. So he stuck with me, kept pushing, kept pushing, kept pushing, and I was like, Nah, don't want to do it, don't want to do it, don't want to do it. And then I just said to him, look, I don't know if I'm the right fit for your podcast, and here's why. And I told him I'm a lived experiences guy. And he come back and said, well, that's what I want. I want the lived experiences. I'd love to do the podcast. So anyway, I was talking to Millie and I was telling her about it, and she just said to me, why don't you want to do it? And I told her, to be honest, I feel a bit challenged by it. I don't know that I can add value to it, you know, I don't want to waste his time or mine. And maybe that was a little bit of lack of confidence. Believe it or not, and she did what she does and said, but isn't that what you're about. Isn't that what we do? And I thought, well, yeah, that's true. So next thing, you know, I said to us, Okay, we're doing it, and I put a date way forward in the carter six eight weeks away, and that date came up and recently and it hasn't released at the time I'm recording this podcast, but I feel it might be out by the time this comes out. So anyway, I just that date came up and I had to go and do the podcast. It was one of the most phenomenal experiences I've had. We did four and a half hours pretty much straight episode episode, episode, episode, and then a finisher, and it was deep and it was challenging, and it was vulnerable. You know, I'm not someone that's overly emotional, but we got talking about just he wants to know how and why you got to this point in your life and all the experiences that got you there, before we even get into why you do what you do, how you do what you do, et cetera. And so the origin stories were just dragging up a lot of my past and talking about that and when I got speaking about it was just him and I in the room. When I got speaking about some of the things in my past, including things that happened with my father, things that I've processed, I believe I actually broke down and cried, and that's not something I do. And it took a little while to get myself back together. And after the episode, once I finished the whole show, I kind of went away and left it and thought about it, and then I just contacted him and said, you don't have to edit that out, just so you know, and he said, oh good, because I wasn't really intending to, because he felt like it added a layer of understanding to who I am, because I am very alpha, and so I'm not someone that you would typically expect that from. And I want to be honest, it felt very uncomfortable for me to sit in front of another man and be emotional about something that I thought i'd process and that I don't really get emotional. I get emotional in front of certain people who give me the safety to do that, but it's not something I would do normally. If I'm being filmed, I'm pretty conscious that I'm being publicly filmed here and I'm not going to show sides to my personality on myself. I keep it five percent of my life is pretty public, but there's like five percent I try and hold to myself, and that emotional aside of me is definitely something I try and hold to myself. It's very cool in the coaching space for us to say talk about vulnerability and people use vulnerability and they get emotional almost as a tool, and I find that very I know, it's just off putting to me. It feels very controlling and manipulative. That's not what was happening here. Totally caught me off guard and took me a little while to come back together, to be honest, and so as a man, I just sat with that and went, you know what it is, what it is, That's who I am. And so when that podcast does come out, particularly that first episode, and you're going to catch that emotion, hey, that just is what it is. And my nervous to see it, of course I am. I don't really want to watch that, but it is what it is. And at the end of the day, I'm not going to shy away from who I am, what I'm about, what's built me into the person I am today. Why am I telling you this. There's a couple of lessons that I want you to take out of it. First and foremost, one is when you put yourself in front of a challenge, take that challenge. Don't just back away from it. And I was fortunate to have merely to push me in that direction. Otherwise I may not have taken that challenge. Secondly, be vulnerable like it is what it is. I don't say I wasn't going to go on that podcast. I'm not advising any of you to go out and cry on purpose. I most certainly didn't want to do that, and I still don't feel great that it happened. But at the same time, I'm a human. The podcast that Darcy runs is called Sounds Human, So at the end of the day, I was going to keep it human. I wasn't going to shy away from it once it happened. Okay, I'm sure if I had to stop and walk out of the room, I nearly did. We're sitting down, and I pushed the microphone away and everything within my being, So get up and walk out of this room, come back in when you're ready. But then I just sat with it and thought, No, I'm not doing that. I'm going to face this thing face on. I'm a weird sort of character when I have nightmares, and I don't have them often, but when I have nightmares, I try and stay in them as long as they can. You know that nightmare that you sometimes have where there's not a thing or a person or there's this is something there in that you can't see, and it's an energy and it scares the hell out of you. It's like, let's call it the monster coming up the hallway in the dark. I try and stay in that feeling as long as I can. I know when I'm in that nightmare and I want to stay there and face that thing. I want to call that thing out. And even thinking about that feeling now as I talk to you, I have goosebumps because I know that feeling and I want to stay in that as long as I can. Well, this was similar. I was in a situation. The monster in the room was things that had happened in my childhood and maybe how I haven't processed and fully in maybe how they've affected me positively and negatively. And I wanted to sit in that. I wanted to stare that monster down. I want to stay in that for as long as possible and then come out the other side. So we did that, so I hope that you get some value when those podcasts come out, I'll share them here. Go over and find Sounds Human by Darcy Jay Smith on any podcast app. I've listened to a few episodes now that Joe Parnay ones are really really good, So get in to listen to those. Joe's one of my mentors back when I first got into the coaching space and again another amazing brain and worth listening to. And when my episode's coming out, once they've released on Darcy's and they've played for all, I'll ask you permission to put them into here as well, because I think there's value in it and if you want to watch them, they'll be on YouTube, I believe as well. So I'll share all of that stuff because I'm whilst I'm uncomfortable with it, I'm not going to shy away from it, and I want you to understand that, hey, this is me, good, bad, ugly everything in between. This is me. This is who I am and it's what makes me who I am today. So I'm not going to shy away from that stuff So Sounds Human podcast Darcy Jay smythe my episodes. They may be out now, but they'll be coming out soon. If not the time of recording, they're not out, but get over to check out his podcast and watch me do some ugly crying when that time comes.

Heyteen glenas a here walking back to the Building Better Humans Project podcast. I want to tell you about a podcast that I did recently with a good friend of mine, Darcy Smythe, and it was he's got a podcast called Sounds Human. Now. This what I'm going to talk about today, I guess is a little bit around vulnerability and a little bit around challenging yourself at some level, which is what I'm about. But even I will take the opportunity to sometimes avoid the challenge, and I want to talk about that. So Darcy is someone that I hold in high regard, very and very intelligent young man, and he's been running recently, just started this podcast called Sounds Human. Now. When he reached out to me, he said, what we normally do is we film like it's video and audio, four episodes, so it takes four to five hours, four to five episodes, and we film them all in one day. And I went back and listened to some of his podcasts and he's working with well, what I think, some really intellectual people. And this is no disrespect to myself, but I don't really view myself as that intellectual. I'm a lived experience as sort of guy. I know what I've done, I know what I've experienced, and then I try and attach real life meaning to those things and then give a lesson out of that. That's how I work. But what I was listening to is people that were able to refer to texts and someone that that read or that they could you know, that's not me. I don't have that capacity to do that at that level. That's how I felt anyway. On the other side of that is I think Darcy is one of the smartest humans I've met. He's like a savant when it comes to psychology and you know, just neuroscience and the brain and the way people act and the things that they do. And if you saw Darcy and I together, we're very different looking humans. You know, I'm a big guy and you know, probably look a little bit alpha, and Darcy with no offense to dars but probably has more of that psychologist or or accountant type look about him. And I think that'd be fair fair assessment if you're looking at us both on face value. So initially I just listened to some of these podcasts and I thought, I don't really want to do sounds human. So what I did is I just didn't respond to him or just slow played the responses. Now, Darsi is not a guy that easily accepts no for an answer, and he specializes his business model in sales training, so I guess if you're someone that takes the first no, you're probably not going to be great at sales training. So he stuck with me, kept pushing, kept pushing, kept pushing, and I was like, Nah, don't want to do it, don't want to do it, don't want to do it. And then I just said to him, look, I don't know if I'm the right fit for your podcast, and here's why. And I told him I'm a lived experiences guy. And he come back and said, well, that's what I want. I want the lived experiences. I'd love to do the podcast. So anyway, I was talking to Millie and I was telling her about it, and she just said to me, why don't you want to do it? And I told her, to be honest, I feel a bit challenged by it. I don't know that I can add value to it, you know, I don't want to waste his time or mine. And maybe that was a little bit of lack of confidence. Believe it or not, and she did what she does and said, but isn't that what you're about. Isn't that what we do? And I thought, well, yeah, that's true. So next thing, you know, I said to us, Okay, we're doing it, and I put a date way forward in the carter six eight weeks away, and that date came up and recently and it hasn't released at the time I'm recording this podcast, but I feel it might be out by the time this comes out. So anyway, I just that date came up and I had to go and do the podcast. It was one of the most phenomenal experiences I've had. We did four and a half hours pretty much straight episode episode, episode, episode, and then a finisher, and it was deep and it was challenging, and it was vulnerable. You know, I'm not someone that's overly emotional, but we got talking about just he wants to know how and why you got to this point in your life and all the experiences that got you there, before we even get into why you do what you do, how you do what you do, et cetera. And so the origin stories were just dragging up a lot of my past and talking about that and when I got speaking about it was just him and I in the room. When I got speaking about some of the things in my past, including things that happened with my father, things that I've processed, I believe I actually broke down and cried, and that's not something I do. And it took a little while to get myself back together. And after the episode, once I finished the whole show, I kind of went away and left it and thought about it, and then I just contacted him and said, you don't have to edit that out, just so you know, and he said, oh good, because I wasn't really intending to, because he felt like it added a layer of understanding to who I am, because I am very alpha, and so I'm not someone that you would typically expect that from. And I want to be honest, it felt very uncomfortable for me to sit in front of another man and be emotional about something that I thought i'd process and that I don't really get emotional. I get emotional in front of certain people who give me the safety to do that, but it's not something I would do normally. If I'm being filmed, I'm pretty conscious that I'm being publicly filmed here and I'm not going to show sides to my personality on myself. I keep it five percent of my life is pretty public, but there's like five percent I try and hold to myself, and that emotional aside of me is definitely something I try and hold to myself. It's very cool in the coaching space for us to say talk about vulnerability and people use vulnerability and they get emotional almost as a tool, and I find that very I know, it's just off putting to me. It feels very controlling and manipulative. That's not what was happening here. Totally caught me off guard and took me a little while to come back together, to be honest, and so as a man, I just sat with that and went, you know what it is, what it is, That's who I am. And so when that podcast does come out, particularly that first episode, and you're going to catch that emotion, hey, that just is what it is. And my nervous to see it, of course I am. I don't really want to watch that, but it is what it is. And at the end of the day, I'm not going to shy away from who I am, what I'm about, what's built me into the person I am today. Why am I telling you this. There's a couple of lessons that I want you to take out of it. First and foremost, one is when you put yourself in front of a challenge, take that challenge. Don't just back away from it. And I was fortunate to have merely to push me in that direction. Otherwise I may not have taken that challenge. Secondly, be vulnerable like it is what it is. I don't say I wasn't going to go on that podcast. I'm not advising any of you to go out and cry on purpose. I most certainly didn't want to do that, and I still don't feel great that it happened. But at the same time, I'm a human. The podcast that Darcy runs is called Sounds Human, So at the end of the day, I was going to keep it human. I wasn't going to shy away from it once it happened. Okay, I'm sure if I had to stop and walk out of the room, I nearly did. We're sitting down, and I pushed the microphone away and everything within my being, So get up and walk out of this room, come back in when you're ready. But then I just sat with it and thought, No, I'm not doing that. I'm going to face this thing face on. I'm a weird sort of character when I have nightmares, and I don't have them often, but when I have nightmares, I try and stay in them as long as they can. You know that nightmare that you sometimes have where there's not a thing or a person or there's this is something there in that you can't see, and it's an energy and it scares the hell out of you. It's like, let's call it the monster coming up the hallway in the dark. I try and stay in that feeling as long as I can. I know when I'm in that nightmare and I want to stay there and face that thing. I want to call that thing out. And even thinking about that feeling now as I talk to you, I have goosebumps because I know that feeling and I want to stay in that as long as I can. Well, this was similar. I was in a situation. The monster in the room was things that had happened in my childhood and maybe how I haven't processed and fully in maybe how they've affected me positively and negatively. And I wanted to sit in that. I wanted to stare that monster down. I want to stay in that for as long as possible and then come out the other side. So we did that, so I hope that you get some value when those podcasts come out, I'll share them here. Go over and find Sounds Human by Darcy Jay Smith on any podcast app. I've listened to a few episodes now that Joe Parnay ones are really really good, So get in to listen to those. Joe's one of my mentors back when I first got into the coaching space and again another amazing brain and worth listening to. And when my episode's coming out, once they've released on Darcy's and they've played for all, I'll ask you permission to put them into here as well, because I think there's value in it and if you want to watch them, they'll be on YouTube, I believe as well. So I'll share all of that stuff because I'm whilst I'm uncomfortable with it, I'm not going to shy away from it, and I want you to understand that, hey, this is me, good, bad, ugly everything in between. This is me. This is who I am and it's what makes me who I am today. So I'm not going to shy away from that stuff So Sounds Human podcast Darcy Jay smythe my episodes. They may be out now, but they'll be coming out soon. If not the time of recording, they're not out, but get over to check out his podcast and watch me do some ugly crying when that time comes.

Thanks for listening to this episode of the Building Better Humans Podcast with your host Glenn a'ser for feedback. To stay up to date or go back and find an old episode, head over to one eighty dot net dot au here Building Better Humans Project Podcasts.

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