Anonymous wants to know whether she should continue to investigate,snoop,keep tabs on this man or just move on. Should she continue being Deborah Patta?

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The team answers all your relationship questions on Ask A Man 

The team answers all your relationship questions on Ask A Man

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Anonymous met her current partner about two years ago while they were both in relationships with other people, so they decided not to date each other at the time. 

Months later they were both single and decided to date. Things went well for a few months but their relationship regressed and they broke up. 

They kept in contact and when she found herself needing a place to stay due to challenges with her dad’s side of the family, he asked that she move in with him and she did. 

She fell pregnant two months after moving in with him, which she thought was fine because they had discussed the possibility of having children. But he revealed to her that he has someone that he’s made relationship promises too and now doesn’t know what to do…

Anonymous met her current partner about two years ago while they were both in relationships with other people, so they decided not to date each other at the time.&nbsp;
Months later they were both single and decided to date. Things went well for a few months but their relationship regressed and they broke up.&nbsp;
They kept in contact and when she found herself needing a place to stay due to challenges with her dad&rsquo;s side of the family, he asked that she move in with him and she did.&nbsp;
She fell pregnant two months after moving in with him, which she thought was fine because they had discussed the possibility of having children. But he revealed to her that he has someone that he&rsquo;s made relationship promises too and now doesn&rsquo;t know what to do&hellip;

Ask A Man 15 Oct '26: 'He Lobola'd All Three Of Us'

Anonymous and her partner have been together for several years, live together and have two children. 

Her partner saved money over do about 10 years and used some of that money to secure a property for their family. She was a bit taken aback by this as she thought he’d use the money to complete their lobola/marriage process. 

He still has money saved but he’s thinking of getting a car, and she now finds herself wondering if he’ll ever be able to prioritise completing their marriage process

Anonymous and her partner have been together for several years, live together and have two children.&nbsp;
Her partner saved money over do about 10&nbsp;years and used some of that money to secure a property for their family. She was a bit taken aback by this as she thought he&rsquo;d use the money to complete their lobola/marriage process.&nbsp;
He still has money saved but he&rsquo;s thinking of getting a car, and she now finds herself wondering if he&rsquo;ll ever be able to prioritise completing their marriage process

Ask A Man 14 Oct '26: 'Why is he not prioritising our wedding celebration?'

Anonymous was in a relationship with a lady for about 7 years, and he was also supporting her three children during this period. 

The lady cheated on him a few times with her ex, who’s the father of her last born child…

Anonymous was in a relationship with a lady for about 7 years, and he was also supporting her three children during this period.&nbsp;
The lady cheated on him a few times with her ex, who&rsquo;s the father of her last born child&hellip;

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