Anonymous's family refuses to pay lobola for the woman that he loves, could the reason be that she was his side-chick while he was married?

Anonymous's family refuses to pay lobola for the woman that he loves, could the reason be that she was his side-chick while he was married?

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The team answers all your relationship questions on Ask A Man 

The team answers all your relationship questions on Ask A Man

Ask A Man 20/1/23

Anonymous says when she met his partner he was clean and proper and was a great person towards her. 

However, after a while of dating each other, they moved in together and this is when she realised certain aspects of his personality. She says he was always moody and wasn’t as fun as he used to be before. 

As result of his behaviour, they agreed to continue with the relationship but live apart. He then moved out abruptly which took her by surprise. 

She confronted him about his move and he told her that he moved because he no longer felt welcomed in her space, the talked through it and he has now moved back to their place…

Anonymous says when she met his partner he was clean and proper and was a great person towards her.&nbsp;
However, after a while of dating each other, they moved in together and this is when she realised certain aspects of his personality. She says he was always moody and wasn&rsquo;t as fun as he used to be before.&nbsp;
As result of his behaviour, they agreed to continue with the relationship but live apart. He then moved out abruptly which took her by surprise.&nbsp;
She confronted him about his move and he told her that he moved because he no longer felt welcomed in her space, the talked through it and he has now moved back to their place&hellip;

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Anonymous and her partner have been together for 5 years, she’s in her mid-twenties and he’s in his late twenties. 

Her problem with him is that he doesn’t seem to want to work. He’s not interested in looking and he currently doesn’t work. He’s been this way since she’s been with him and when she asks him why he’s not working he has many excuses, including his spirituality. 

She’s now broken up with him, however, he wants to get back together with her and she’s not sure if she should, because she does love him but worries about his lack of ambition.

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 5 years, she&rsquo;s in her mid-twenties and he&rsquo;s in his late twenties.&nbsp;
Her problem with him is that he doesn&rsquo;t seem to want to work. He&rsquo;s not interested in looking and he currently doesn&rsquo;t work. He&rsquo;s been this way since she&rsquo;s been with him and when she asks him why he&rsquo;s not working he has many excuses, including his spirituality.&nbsp;
She&rsquo;s now broken up with him, however, he wants to get back together with her and she&rsquo;s not sure if she should, because she does love him but worries about his lack of ambition.

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Anonymous met a guy who lives in her complex mid-last year, they hit it off and started dating. 

Around September last year they had a miscommunication and things became a bit tense between them. They never really spoke about what happened between them and their relationship just fizzled out from there. 

Fast forward to this year, she needed closure about why things ended, so she confronted the guy, and while she felt like he left her, he thought she broke things off.

Right now she’s in a position where she’s wondering if he wants to be with her. 

Anonymous met a guy who lives in her complex mid-last year, they hit it off and started dating.&nbsp;
Around September last year they had a miscommunication and things became a bit tense between them. They never really spoke about what happened between them and their relationship just fizzled out from there.&nbsp;
Fast forward to this year, she needed closure about why things ended, so she confronted the guy, and while she felt like he left her, he thought she broke things off.
Right now she&rsquo;s in a position where she&rsquo;s wondering if he wants to be with her.&nbsp;

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