Anonymous's family refuses to pay lobola for the woman that he loves, could the reason be that she was his side-chick while he was married?

Ask A Man 14 May '26: 'Does he really love me or just likes having her around.'
34:13

Ask A Man 13 May '26: 'Has he always been toying with me?'
31:20

Ask A Man 12 May '26: 'Is he really my mine?'
25:31