Anonymous says he’s been dating the mother of his child for 10 years now and he’s looking to get married to her, but he’s not quite sure based on her behaviour. 

Anonymous says they fight a lot and says she keeps bringing up past fights. Anonymous says he wanted to start the lobola process last year but she said to him that she’s not ready to get married and instead kept the money that was meant for her lobola. 

Anonymous says when he asks about this money she gets upset so he feels like he can’t bring up anymore.

Anonymous says he&rsquo;s been dating the mother of his child for 10 years now and he&rsquo;s looking to get married to her, but he&rsquo;s not quite sure based on her behaviour.&nbsp;
Anonymous says they fight a lot and says she keeps bringing up past fights. Anonymous says he wanted to start the lobola process last year but she said to him that she&rsquo;s not ready to get married and instead kept the money that was meant for her lobola.&nbsp;
Anonymous says when he asks about this money she gets upset so he feels like he can&rsquo;t bring up anymore.

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The team answers all your relationship questions on Ask A Man 

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Ask a Man 15 May '25: 'My partner took the lobola money.'

Anonymous has been with his partner for about four years and says the first three years were easy going and the relationship was going well. 

However, in the last year things have gone cold in their relationship, and he says they fight a lot more and she doesn’t give him much attention or share her thoughts and feelings with him. 

As a result of the situation in their relationship, he started chatting to other girls for companionship. His partner found out about these chats and she now wants to end things with him.

Anonymous has been with his partner for about four years and says the first three years were easy going and the relationship was going well.&nbsp;
However, in the last year things have gone cold in their relationship, and he says they fight a lot more and she doesn&rsquo;t give him much attention or share her thoughts and feelings with him.&nbsp;
As a result of the situation in their relationship, he started chatting to other girls for companionship. His partner found out about these chats and she now wants to end things with him.

Ask A Man 04 Sep '26: 'Has she given up on us?' 

Anonymous met a lady over a year ago, they hit off, and started dating. 

Months into the relationship he realised that she wasn’t really doing anything career wise, at which point he assisted her in finding a job but she said to him she wasn’t ready to work but would be good to go in 2026. 

Since the start of 2026 she hasn’t really looked or shown any interested in finding a job which frustrates him because he has to shoulder the financial burden in the relationship.

She’s mentioned to him that she’s not looking because she’s not well educated. However, he’s not happy with this situation. 

Anonymous met a lady over a year ago, they hit off, and started dating.&nbsp;
Months into the relationship he realised that she wasn&rsquo;t really doing anything career wise, at which point he assisted her in finding a job but she said to him she wasn&rsquo;t ready to work but would be good to go in 2026.&nbsp;
Since the start of 2026 she hasn&rsquo;t really looked or shown any interested in finding a job which frustrates him because he has to shoulder the financial burden in the relationship.
She&rsquo;s mentioned to him that she&rsquo;s not looking because she&rsquo;s not well educated. However, he&rsquo;s not happy with this situation.&nbsp;

Ask A Man 03 Sep '26: 'I'm tired of sponsoring her life.'

Anonymous has been married to her husband for twelve years and they’ve been together for about twenty years. 

They have two children together and her husband secretly fathered another child about five years ago with a woman he’s been with for about 8 years on the side. 

She found out about the child three years ago and they were able to move forward with their relationship.

She’s over it now, as her husband is “playing happy families” with their children and the other child and the other woman.

Anonymous has been married to her husband for twelve years and they&rsquo;ve been together for about twenty years.&nbsp;
They have two children together and her husband secretly fathered another child about five years ago with a woman he&rsquo;s been with for about 8 years on the side.&nbsp;
She found out about the child three years ago and they were able to move forward with their relationship.
She&rsquo;s over it now, as her husband is &ldquo;playing happy families&rdquo; with their children and the other child and the other woman.

Ask a Man 15 May '25: 'My partner took the lobola money.'

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