A listener, writes Gary. If I get divorced, will it affect my relationship with God?

A listener, writes Gary. If I get divorced, will it affect my relationship with God?

You see, God's intention was never divorce. Jesus made that very clear in the New Testament. God's intention always was that marriage was for a lifetime. Now, I know that there are difficult situations in marriage, and sometimes we separate as an act of love. That is, if the person is being destructive to you or to themselves. You say, I cannot continue to support you in this behavior, but divorce is a different thing. Separation can be an act of love. But divorce is an act of abandonment. It's giving up. So I hope that you will sit down and talk with a pastor or a Christian counselor before you make the decision to divorce, because it doesn't alleviate the problems. It creates another whole set of problems that you must then deal with.

You see, God's intention was never divorce. Jesus made that very clear in the New Testament. God's intention always was that marriage was for a lifetime. Now, I know that there are difficult situations in marriage, and sometimes we separate as an act of love. That is, if the person is being destructive to you or to themselves. You say, I cannot continue to support you in this behavior, but divorce is a different thing. Separation can be an act of love. But divorce is an act of abandonment. It's giving up. So I hope that you will sit down and talk with a pastor or a Christian counselor before you make the decision to divorce, because it doesn't alleviate the problems. It creates another whole set of problems that you must then deal with.

Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of the Five Love Languages. For more answers, visit Start Marriage Right.com.

Doctor Gary Chapman is the author of the Five Love Languages. For more answers, visit Start Marriage Right.com.