It's the most wonderful time of the year, and Sophia feels grateful and ready to tackle the new year and a new Q&A!
Yes, Sophia is answering fan questions, including revealing what's on her vision board for next year, her lifelong dream and how she is going to make it a reality in 2025, her Spotify Wrapped playlist, One Tree Hill holiday traditions, how she is practicing hope, and her top Christmas movies, including one film that some might not consider a holiday classic!
Hi, everyone, it's Sophia. Welcome to Work in Progress. Happy holidays, friends, It's the most wonderful time of the year, as they say, and we are feeling so grateful for all of you, for our listeners, for our community, for all these whip smart humans who care and show up for each other. Really the global community of folks who are here with me and with our whole team at Work in Progress. We just were impressed by you. We cherish you, and thanks for being here to say thank you and maybe close out the year or kick off the new year. However, we want to look at it together. We thought it might be nice to dive into some of your wonderful questions and then close out twenty twenty four together. So let's dig in. Our first question is from Grace. Hello, Hi, I hope you're having a great day. She asked, what has brought you the most joy this year? I think this year for so many people has been filled with ups and downs, right, And I know because I look at the inbox and I see the things you all are thinking about, contemplating, excited about, scared by. I know there's a lot of trepidation about what's to come in twenty twenty five. So what I want to say is I get it. I feel you. It's scary to think that our democracy might change, that our rights might change. But here's what I'm going to promise you. What I'm going to share is that win or lose, I love fighting for democracy. I loved every single second on the campaign trail, being out across the country, meeting with so many of you, knocking on doors, organizing around what it means to build a country that gets closer and closer to achieving the promise of its ideals. Campaigning and volunteering is, without a doubt, a highlight of my life, and it was, without a doubt a highlight of this entire year for me. And I also really loved the merch clearly, So there you go. On the lighthearted side of it. I am still rocking my custom embroidered camo, and I am still Coach's biggest fan. Truly, being reminded that so many of us care about each other and are willing to show up for each other and yes, we'll vote for each other really brings me a lot of joy. And even if we might you know, disagree or want a debate policy or how best to solve a problem. One of the things I cherish about this country is that we are able to do so. We can debate, we can share, we can talk, we can argue, and we're lucky enough to live in a place where it's possible to do that. So no matter how you're feeling about it, just know that we're in this together and community is key. Here we go twenty twenty five, Hayley asks what advice do you have for Oh, this is related to the last question, certainly, what advice do you have for dealing with anxiety about what the new year holds, especially with the new administration. I've been talking a lot about this with my friends and my colleagues and fellow advocates, volunteers, friends, even my therapist. And my therapist told me something that can be hard to stick to, but I really do believe makes all the difference, and it certainly has been for me. He said, start keeping track of when it goes right. We do so much worrying about what could go wrong, and we are more connected than ever, which means we also see what is going wrong in ways that a generation ago we didn't. But if we can start keeping a list, keeping track of what goes right, you know, with everything, life, love, politics, local things happening in your community, good news that you read. There are actual accounts on Instagram that only post good news. I suggest following them. They are important for my mental health, all of it. It feels really important to not just keep that worry list that we all can't help but keep, and whether it's in our brains or on payp but to actually keep a list of when things go well, when there are winds big and small. Some people call it a gratitude practice. I actually started a new little tradition this year that I'll tell you about in a minute to work on this. But I'm telling you it does shift something inside of you. It changes how you how you feel when you wake up in the morning, how you move throughout your day, how you show up for your people. I think it really is a way to practice hope and to be reminded of joy. So I would recommend that Hayley Sophie asks, what are your Christmas traditions? I mean, first and foremost, how many years in a row do you think is too many years in a row to watch the holiday? Answer? For me, never, It is one of my favorite things to do the minute we get past Thanksgiving here in the US. And then a tradition that I read about that I actually have now altered a bit for myself is to start I don't know what you want to call it, actually, I can't remember what the video said. For me, it's a good things jar kind of relates to Hayley's last question. And the idea is that once a week, you minimum once a week, by the way, you write on a little piece of paper something great that happened, and you put in a jar. And when I read about this, the person who suggested it said, you know, and then we open them up on New Year's and that's how we mark the new year. And I thought, well, I think I want to open them up like a week before New Year's. I want to open my jar at the start of the last week of the year, in the midst of the holidays, and really reflect on everything that went right in the last year and everything that brought me enough joy that I stopped I was doing and wrote it down. And then I can spend that last week of the year saying thank you, feeling grateful, relishing in every positive thing, and then that can be the energy that I take into New Year City of in New Year's Day. So the holiday is one of my oldest traditions and the jar is my newest. Jessica, why didn't you post your Spotify wrapped? I mean, no one is surprised. Tovlo is my top artist. I think she might be forever. I love her both as a person, which is really wild. You know, it's wild when you're a fan of someone and then you get to become their friend. I love her as a person, I love her as an artist. I love her as a creative. I just think she is like a one Sinner generation talent. So yeah, she's She's my top. We'll be back in just a minute. But here's a word from our sponsors. Claire asks, ooh, oh goodness. I like that you said she gave me options. She said, what are your goals or resolutions for next year? I love that. I think resolutions kind of set us up to fail, but I do believe that thinking about goals is great. So since I think it's the season to start getting realistic, Like I've learned the hard way that saying oh this is going to be my new practice, and I'm going to do this workout five days a week, and I'm going to start meditating, and I'm going to take these forty vitamins and I'm going to sleep eight hours. Like, come on, I'm not a robot. And I'm also old habits die hard kids, So let's get realistic. What I do want to do is try to commit not to you know, some crazy schedule or whatever, but I would like to commit to moving my body just for twenty minutes a day. I'm I'm kind of an all or nothing person. I hear that that's very common for folks with ADHD. You're very black or white. You're all in or you're all out. And it's really hard to be that, especially when health comes into play, because I will always put my health on the back burner because I'll say, well, there's all these important things happening in the world, and that class or that hike that's just for me, and I don't really have time. I don't have time to drive an hour across town and then do this thing for an hour and then you know, shower there and then drive home or race home and try to shower while I'm you know, on a you know, muted on a conference call. Pretending the showers not running like it's it's crazy. Nobody has enough time. So one of the things I really want to try to do this year, instead of making the goals too rigid and specific, is just to say, for twenty minutes a day could be a walk around the neighborhood. I could do a call on a walk. It could be you know, meeting a friend for something. It could be whatever. You know. If I'm traveling, like get on the treadmill at the hotel, just for twenty minutes, just to move, because it can get really easy for me to realize I've been hunched in front of a computer, you know, working and zooming and recording and plotting and meeting and all the things for five days. I'll realize I haven't even gone outside. You know. That's not great. So I like the idea of a more gentle commitment that will be good for my physical and mental health. So that's definitely one I guess in general, less of the black and white all in all out, let's aim for a gray, and I mean that in a happy way. A gray twenty twenty five. My next one, oh my goodness, is to really embody melt Robbins I love and her let them philosophy, And basically what Mel says is, look, if you've got people in your life that insist on acting a certain way, insist you act in a certain way, you know, demand that you be something that makes you miserable, act like they're owed every detail of your life, who show you who they are, and frankly, it's just not in line with where you want to be, who you want to be. Okay, let them who cares? I think we have to stop letting other people's opinions consume us. I think we have to stop doing the thing where we we let other people make us feel smaller. So next year, I really want to embrace the let them theory. I want to let go of expectations that I had or that i've I might even still have for people. And I just know that not everyone's for me, And by the way, I'm not for everyone. I don't need to worry so much if not everybody likes me. I like me and the rest of the noise out there, I'm I'm really going to try not to let consume me. I know it's human for us to be affected. How could we not, but at least for me. Like, let's say, if I go on Instagram, there's one of me and there's you know, that number of people following is four point six million people. That's not an equation I'm ever going to win. You know, there's only one of me, there's millions and millions of folks out there looking this way. I don't know how some of my you know, favorite superstars who are in the like hundreds of millions of people look in their way do it. Truly, I think I would have a nervous breakdown. But I'm just going to remind myself that who cares let them. If it's kind, wonderful, thank you. I can't let that boost me too much. And if it's cruel, you don't know me, have a nice life, don't let it affect me. So that's that's certainly something that I want to work on, which probably brings me to my next goal resolution thing. I sort of hate to say it, but I do think that a little less time on social media feels important. I think for me as an individual. I think for me as a person who was also so active politically this year, I think a lot of us are still kind of coming down from the election and really feeling the effects of the algorithm. You know, the algorithm really did its thing. You know it did when you see a seven hundred percent increase in people saying what is a tariff? And can I change my vote? The Internet, we spend so much time on, is hiding information from us based on what information we look at, and I don't think that that's healthy. I have to remind myself a lot that I get shown things strategically, and sometimes that's good, but sometimes it's bad. And so for me, I just think it feels like time for a little less not like a total break. I'm not leaving, but I think I want to spend a little more time in the paper pages of things and a little less time on the digital scroll, you know. And then my biggest resolution probably is to write more in every single form. I find it so healing. I find that when I write, I'm really able to process feelings in ways that I can't verbally as well, you know, when I'm talking through things in real time. Sure that can be great, you know, with your friends, but I've I've definitely also experienced over the last couple of years with these podcasts, which I love, but I catch myself having these aha moments, going, oh my god, I've just realized in this in this moment, this thing or this idea or that memory, and that's okay. But I don't know as a as a person who's also been in the public eye for two decades, sometimes I think it's nice to keep some things for me and then maybe speak on them when I've processed them a little bit more or a little bit better. And I process my best in writing, So that's definitely going to be a big part of my practice for the next year. Joyce says, what are you looking forward to the most in twenty twenty five? Oh, my goodness, other than just enjoying this life that I finally really love. Oh my brain just sort of dropped an image for me. I don't think we've really ever talked about this. My friends know this, but I don't think it's come up on the podcast. I have had a lifelong dream. Since I was a kid and I would road trip with my parents. I have always dreamt of having like one of those beautiful old airstreams. I think they're the coolest. I just they're so nostalgic for me. They're like romantic for me. The classic car lover in me is obsessed with them. And yeah, my dream is to finally acquire and restore an old airstream, Like in my brain, I'm going to do a full top to bottom rehno, and do like the kitchen and the bathroom and the whole thing. Will see how it goes. I'm not bad with a circular sauce, so honestly, I might crush it. First. I have to find the airstream, clearly, But if I actually get to start that project in twenty twenty five, I'm really get a feel like I'm winning. We'll be back in just a minute, but here's a word from our sponsors. Cleo asks, what are your top three Christmas movies? Well, obviously The Holiday I'm a huge love actually fan. I know that there are things about that movie that feel, you know, problematic, now I just still love it. It's very nostalgic to me, and yeah, it's one of those that I always want to watch. I'm such a fan of Bill Nye. I think Emma Thompson is so brilliant. I just really enjoy it and it always makes me feel like it's the Christmas season. And then I feel like there should be a no brainer for me because John McLean was the reason I like wanted to play a cop in Anything but die Hard. Bruce Willis is a hero from Robin. When you were filming Onetreal, did the cast have any holiday traditions? Oh, this is a good one. You know. It's funny because when you're filming, it's usually a few days that you get off for Thanksgiving and then you're off normally for two weeks from right before Christmas kind of depends on more Hankah falls obviously every year, and then to right after New Year's So we didn't have holiday traditions in terms of this time of year. Our big holiday traditions were our Halloween parties. Hillary was the master party planner, like extraordinariy. She's sort of like the spooky Martha Stewart of our friend group, and so Halloween was our big holiday because we were always in town for that. Alexa asks, how have you changed and grown as a person in twenty twenty four? Ooh wow, I mean one whole year of being fully in my body, feeling fully in my body, feeling like myself the first time since I don't know, I was maybe like eight years old was pretty wild, pretty special. Everything has grown and everything has changed, and still I in some way feel more myself. I feel more at ease with everything. That feels pretty special. I mean, obviously more at ease with everything this year, aside from November fifth. That day sucked, but I feel like I addressed that earlier. Maddie asks, where do you think Brook and Peyton would be in twenty twenty five? Oh my god, I think about this all the time. You know how Joey and Chandler lived right across the hall from Monica and Rachel like that, if we were in New York, we would live across the hall from each other. And if we're in Wilmington, our you know fictional tree hill. I feel like, are we neighbors? Like do we live literally next door to each other? Do we live right across the street from each other? I don't know, but close walking distance, quick knock on the door. Absolutely. Jenny asks what is a health habit you want to add your routine in twenty twenty five? Oh? Well, I talked about wanting to move, just like, get up, go for a walk, shake it out twenty minutes a day. That's a big one, and I guess if I was going to add anything else to it. I want to spend a little more time on mind fullness, you know, really shutting off, focusing on breathing sleep. And it's not lost on me that I read sleep stories to kids on the call map Yannie mcdonnie is my girl. But I never give myself a sleep story or like, you know, a ten minute guided meditation or something. And I want to do that for me. I want to take care of myself the way I take care of other people. So, yeah, you just made me think about something else. Jenny, thank you. I like this question from Lucy. My friends and I have a New Year's Eve tradition of making vision boards. What's on your vision board for twenty twenty five? Oh, my goodness. Well, health, obviously, movement, clearly, some mindfulness. I know. I made a joke earlier about how every time I try to become a vitamin person, I try to take you know, forty supplements. I think, maybe just like three three things that are good for me a day. You know what do they say? Like zinc so you don't get sick. COQ ten is supposed to be really good for women. I don't know something else, you guys, tell me what you think is great. I just no more filling up my pantry with like bottles of supplements that never get used on the vision board for twenty twenty five. Okay, these are big goals. I want to work on a show that fills me with joy, that pushes me creatively, and where I am surrounded by amazing women that are in charge on set. I really want to travel. I mean, you, guys, I don't know. If you follow those belm on trains, it looks like like a Wes Anderson movie or something out of I don't know, like a vintage chic fever dream. They're like these these trains, I don't know. I want to take a train somewhere and feel like a fancy lady from the nineteen forties with like a little carrying case, you know, and go across a continent and see things I've never seen. So often when we travel, it's you know, jump on the plane and then go straight to the event, or go get off the plane and go give a speech and then go to this meeting and then get back on the plane so you can make it home for set the next day. And we don't even pay attention, and I really want to travel intentionally and actually put my eyeballs on more of the world and more of the countryside flying by a window, and then what else goes on my vision board? I Oh, so many people have actually asked me this since I dyed my hair red. Everyone's like, wait, we love this. Would you ever want to do a hair campaign? And like, yeah, I'm a child of the eighties who grew up in the cultural nineties, I would love that, Like, you know, the swishy, shiny hair moment. I just feel like that'd be so fun. It feels like a real career bucket list, or like a you're worth it, a little loreal moment, or maybe she's born with it. Maybe it's mabelne. I remember those jingles from commercials when I was a teenager and just being like WHOA. So I don't know. Maybe that stuff only exists on social media now, but it feels a little vintage and chic to me. Oh, this is a really good question from Sam. You have fifty dollars to spend in fifteen minutes to shop for a gift. Where are you going? Ooh, fifty dollars to spend fifteen minutes. I would probably want to go somewhere with a really wide variety of stuff like home goods, because then I could run up and down the aisles and see, like, Oh, is there a tray I want to give someone for holiday hosting? Is it this handle? Is it a pillow? Is it a throw blanket? Is it I don't know, whatever other amazing random thing I could find. Likewise, this is gonna sound crazy to you about Costco Major, because at Costco you can get everything from like tech to giant utility sized boxes of snacks to jewelry. So I actually feel like I could really win my version of like a gift giving supermarket sweep at Costco. I think I would crush. Oh and we have a Samantha, what is your favorite Christmas dessert? Oh? Boy, guys, I feel like I've talked about this just recently. Oh I did. I was talking to Rob and Joy about this on the other podcast. I'm not really a sweet person. I am a savory gal. I would rather have a bowl of French fries for dessert than a dessert for dessert. But if you have some sort of incredible savory baked good that you do for Christmas. Send the recipe to us here at Work in Progress, and maybe we'll talk about it in twenty twenty five. That's the holiday gift that I wish to get from you all, is your baked good recipes. You never know, I might become a baker next year, in addition to becoming a person who actually goes on a walk for twenty minutes a day. Whatever your traditions are, whatever your goals are. Also, if you feel comfortable, please send us those. We can keep them anonymous too. I hope you enjoy them. I hope you achieve them. I hope you have an amazing end to your year. Happy holidays everyone, For me and our whole team here at Work in Progress, we love and appreciate you, and we hope you ring in twenty twenty five feeling wonderful. Have a good one