Ever notice how quick we are to label things as "good" or "bad"? In this episode, we dive into the principle of maybe—the idea that life isn’t so black and white, and that our culture has created these labels that don’t necessarily serve us. This repost felt especially relevant this week. As we navigate feelings of success or failure with the election, it’s a reminder that there’s a bigger picture at play, one we can’t fully see or understand. So, how can we choose to operate from peace and kindness in our present moment, letting go of rigid labels and embracing the maybe?
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HOSTS:
Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge // velvetsedge.com
Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch
Hi, you guys. It is Kelly, and I'm here because I just needed to talk to you guys today. I actually recorded a podcast with Chip yesterday. Today is obviously our Edge podcast, and so it's typically Chip and I and we recorded a podcast and tried to come in and talk about some of the things happening in our world right now. And I realized as I listened to it that I'm still just way too emotional to talk about it. The struggle I have with having a podcast is that I do feel this responsibility. I have an audience, I have a voice, and I feel this responsibility to use it for good, especially in this world right now, and just with everything going on and all the negativity and all the fighting, and sometimes I don't know what to do either. And I am a big feeler, as most of you know, and that makes it difficult to navigate. So sometimes I'm coming from a place of just feeling completely depleted because I'm feeling the weight of everything happening, of all the fighting, of all of the negative forces just coming at all of us at all times, of all the social media posts, everything, just the divisiveness in general. It's a lot for a person like me because I absorb all of it. So I want to come and bring love and bring entertainment when we can, and also bring education and information and ways to help and information that I'm given because I do have this platform. And that was our goal yesterday. But I really just didn't feel like I communicated in a way that I felt good about. I was just a little bit too volatile myself, and that doesn't feel like the right answer for me as far as what I'm here to bring to you guys or to this world in general, and so I wanted to just take a little pause. I'm still navigating how to do all of this. It's not like our world has looked the way that it's looked since I've had a podcast, and our content here has changed a little bit because of that, and also just because of our own evolution and what my interests are, what Chip's interests are, and our own personal growth. I think the conversations have gotten a little deeper and we're seeking a little more, and so that's kind of where the topics have gone. But I want to make sure that I am doing myself a service and doing you guys a service anytime we do bring a podcast to you. So we had kind of gone, you know, into the land of gun laws and trying to help how we could there. There's so much stuff happening right now that it's completely overwhelming to me, and I don't really know where to start. So I decided, like, let's just pick a place to start, and if none of us are here and we're all dead, how can we help. So let's start with gun laws. That seems like one of the issues that maybe we're actually not as far divided from each other as some of the other issues, Like maybe we're a little closer than we think on that one, because I know that we really do, ultimately all want to be alive and live this life and enjoy it. So Chip and I came and we're not saying let's take away guns or anything like that. And so we also brought in some people that are going to be on the podcast this month to just tell the stories. We have Crystal Miller coming on the podcast next week, and she was a survivor of Columbine and her story was just so impactful to me because we could hear it from the voice of someone who's been there. You know, she was in the library, the place where most of the deaths that Columbine happened, and she watched a lot of her friends be killed or are heavily injured and had to escape, and she was just one of the lucky ones that got away. And so now she's changed her life into her mission has now become helping other people who have been survivors. And it's so sad to me that we even have to have resources like that. But I'm so grateful for people like Crystal, who are, you know, writing books to help kids understand what's going on at their schools, or starting a foundation at on Site, which is a big therapeutic center here for survivors so they have a place to go so they know they're not alone. And she'll tell you all the details about that next week in the podcast. She's an amazing guest. I'm so grateful that she was here because one of the main things I feel like we miss is empathy right now and just putting ourselves in another person choose to understand what it would feel like, and a lot of us can get wrapped up in our own lives and we forget to think about, you know, that could be me. And in this situation, I really do feel like it could be any of us at any time. And I know if I had kids, I wouldn't want to be sent them off to school to wonder if that was going to happen on any given day. It's really really scary. We also have a woman from every town, which I know can be a little bit of a divided organization for some people, but she was amazing and it wasn't geared towards anything other than education. She's also a gun owner. She's lost people to gun violence, many people in her life actually, and so she was speaking from a place of just educating us about the simple things that could change for the safety. You know. She used the analogy of you don't just get behind the wheel of a car and drive. We have to go to driver's ed, you have to take a test, you have to get a license, and that's all we're really trying to say here. And so she gave the educational aspects like that, and then she also gave tools and resources that of simple things that each of us can do to actually make a difference, because I know a lot of us are feeling really hopeless and helpless right now because we don't know where to start so both of those will be coming to you guys in the next couple of weeks. I'm not sure how we're going to navigate the other topics happening, but I did sort of think about that because I'm not sure that it's my podcast that will be the place where everyone should go to find out information. If there's something that I feel really lad to talk about, I'm going to talk about it. But I don't want this to become a political podcast. And I know a lot of us are also really really overwhelmed with everything coming at us at all times, and sometimes you just need a break, and so I will do my best to navigate that as well. I'm feeling all of the same thing you guys are feeling. And one of the things that I really like to make known over and over and over is I'm just human, and so is Chip. And you know, some days are better than others. Right now, and for the most part, I've spent my week trying to get my footing and find my footing again and get a and take the next right step. So what I do think that I can bring is some tools for that, because those are things that I actually really do in my life at all times, and I know, as a deep feeler sometimes I have to take steps even greater than other people to be able to navigate life. And so if I can offer you, guys, any hope or any help at how to process all the things that are happening, and also just to get back in touch with yourself. And if you believe in a higher power, if you're a Christian, you believe in God, Buddhist, you believe in Buddha. Whatever it is your higher power, your spiritual capacity, whatever source for you is greater than us that you think you could tap into right now. And if I can help you do that, that's what I want to do, is bring the healing and the hope and the help and the love that I feel in my soul that I do believe is why I'm here. The main thing that I thought about when thinking about what I actually wanted to say to you guys, was this Buddhist story that I was told a long time ago, and it's called Maybe, and it's about this farmer and he has all of these things that happen in his life that people either view as good or bad, and his only response is that he says maybe to everything that they say, and I'll read the story in just a second. But the principle is that it's that we don't really ever know what is good or what is bad because we can't see the big picture here. We just see what's happening right in front of us. And so sometimes it's time to get quiet, and it's time to think, and it's time to meditate, and it's time to calm our bodies and find peace within ourselves and be open to whatever it is the universe is bringing. So all of this stuff right now feels so incredibly painful and so scary and so difficult to navigate, and we don't know why it's happening yet. We don't know what it's bringing to us, and we don't know what doors it could actually be opening for our world, for unity, for love, for getting rid of some of this divisiveness maybe, or bringing us together finally, So all with that, I'll read the story, a Buddhist story, maybe, said the farmer. Once upon a time in ancient China, there lived an old farmer who worked with crops for many years. He was considered a wealthy man because he had a horse to help them with plowing. One early spring, morning, his horse ran off. When the villagers heard this, they hastened to his home to express their sympathy. What a terrible thing, they lamented, But all the farmers said was maybe. The next morning, his horse returned, leading with it an entire herd of wild mustangs. The townspeople rushed over, exclaiming, it is good fortune. Now you are the richest man in the province. But all the farmers said was maybe. The following morning, the farmer's only son began breaking in one of the wild horses. It promptly threw him, and his leg was broken. The townspeople rushed over in alarm. What a terrible thing, they wept. Without the help of your only son, how can you plant your fields? But all the farmers said was maybe. The next morning, the emperor's soldiers rode into town, kicking up an enormous cloud of dust. They had come to conscript all of the young men into war, but the farmer's son could not go because of his broken leg. The townspeople once again gathered around to marvel at the farmer's good luck, but all he said was maybe. The story continued to continues in the same fashion for many more verses. Illustrating the important principle of balance non attachment in its relationship with faith. Incidents that appear either good or bad can never be judged in isolation. Life is a paradox in which all things are relative and interrelated and interdependent on each other. The unwise masses fear much. Let me try that one again. The unwise masses fear misfortune and long for good fortune. But if this distinction is carefully studied, misfortune often turns out to be good fortune, and good fortune turns out to be misfortune. The wise master learns to meet the changing circumstances of life with an equitable spirit, being neither elated by success nor depressed by failure. That one recognizes the truth of nonduality. There are no obstacles on the path. That obstacles are the path. I don't know if you guys resonate with that, but it really hits me because I know so many times in my life I've thought my life is over or the most devastating thing has happened, and ultimately the universe is just taking things out of my life that I didn't need or bringing in things that I need more more in alignment for my greater good, whatever it may be. But sometimes I just have to remind myself that I just don't know what. I just don't know. So for today, I am going to take the next right step and I'm just going to tell you guys how I feel, and that was how I feel. And I don't feel like I want to bring any more volatility or any more negative energy into this world right now, and I just want to stay peaceful and stay calm and send you guys love as we navigate a really tricky time. I'm not even going to say tough, because although it feels really tough, I know that we can do it. As Glennon Doyle always says, I know we can do hard things. So I hope you guys are taking care of yourselves and taking a deep breath, finding the peace within yourselves, within your families, within your friends, just looking at all the love and things we have to be grateful for, because there are a lot of those things out there. So stay tuned for more from us. And like I said, we do have some interesting, hopefully positive tools and education for you guys coming about some gun laws. But again, we're not gonna be bringing any more volatility or fighting or super strong political opinions. Although we do have our own, you know, I just don't know that that's helping anything right now. So we're going to do our best one day at a time, and I think as we navigate all of this, the best thing we can do for each other is just offer grace as we do a little bit of trial and error and see what works for us. The last thing I'll leave you guys with is in the podcast description, I'm going to put a link to a meditation I do by Eckhart Tool and it's just about basically the same thing as a story I just read, but it really talks about just accepting life as it is right now, and life on life's terms is sometimes really tricky for me. But ultimately the most piece I ever find is when I just accept things as they are for today and open myself up to what the universe might be bringing in. I love you guys, and I hope everyone is going to have a wonderful weekend. I could try to do the ending on my own as you navigate through this weekend and go into life. Yeah, this is really terrible, but I do hope you guys always remember to act casual Bye,