Description: Kelly talks to CSAT licensed therapist, speaker and podcast host, Jason VanRuler about the keystones to healthy relationships. Jason talks about the steps to getting a healthy relationship, as well as the obstacles he sees most amongst his clients on their journey to find these relationships with themselves and others. 



HOST: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge // velvetsedge.com

GUEST: Jason VanRuler // @jason.vanruler // Jasonvr.com

Description: Kelly talks to CSAT licensed therapist, speaker and podcast host, Jason VanRuler about the keystones to healthy relationships. Jason talks about the steps to getting a healthy relationship, as well as the obstacles he sees most amongst his clients on their journey to find these relationships with themselves and others. 
 
HOST: Kelly Henderson // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/">@velvetsedge</a> // velvetsedge.com
GUEST: Jason VanRuler // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jason.vanruler/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://@jason.vanruler&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1660754741466000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3zYrIDNW8qVaI6mD7KC7NC">@jason.vanruler</a> // <a href="https://www.jasonvr.com" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://Jasonvr.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1660754741466000&amp;usg=AOvVaw1J1ORzWBuMMG0yEXIXeIxt">Jasonvr.com</a><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ok-whats-next/id1550353485" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ok-whats-next/id1550353485&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1660754741466000&amp;usg=AOvVaw17HXmBFQcGY51oqzk8z483"></a>

The Velvet's Edge Podcast is an invitation to explore the beautiful, messy truth that real growth is an inside job. Hosted by Kelly Henderson—a celebrity stylist and men's groomer who has learned firsthand that "looking good" on the outside only gets you so far—this podcast is a space for the conversations you don't always hear out loud.

Life has a way of knocking us flat, and Kelly believes there is purpose in that pain. She uses her own journey of plot twists to show that true beauty is found by going inward. On some days, you'll hear deep dives with therapists, healers, and other people who have turned their pain into something beautiful. On other days, Kelly and Chip Dorsch laugh their way through the weird, messy "WTF is this life?" moments, because growth is easier when you and your bestie can laugh through it together.

This podcast is for you if you've ever felt empty despite doing everything you were "supposed to" do. It's for you if you're stuck in a toxic relationship cycle and don't know how to get out. It's for you if you're in the middle of a total life plot twist and have no idea where to start. You aren't broken beyond repair. You are simply a human on a soul's journey, and even though we each have our own path, it's a lot easier when we have a little help from our friends.

The Velvet's Edge Podcast&nbsp;is an invitation to explore the beautiful, messy truth that real growth is an inside job. Hosted by&nbsp;Kelly Henderson&mdash;a celebrity stylist and men's groomer who has learned firsthand that "looking good" on the outside only gets you so far&mdash;this podcast is a space for the conversations you don't always hear out loud.
Life has a way of knocking us flat, and Kelly believes there is purpose in that pain. She uses her own journey of plot twists to show that true beauty is found by going inward. On some days, you'll hear deep dives with therapists, healers, and other people who have turned their pain into something beautiful. On other days, Kelly and Chip Dorsch&nbsp;laugh their way through the weird, messy "WTF is this life?" moments, because growth is easier when you and your bestie can laugh through it together.
This podcast is for you if you've ever felt empty despite doing everything you were "supposed to" do. It's for you if you're stuck in a toxic relationship cycle and don't know how to get out. It's for you if you're in the middle of a total life plot twist and have no idea where to start. You aren't broken beyond repair. You are simply a human on a soul's journey, and even though we each have our own path, it's a lot easier when we have a little help from our friends.

Velvet's Edge with Kelly Henderson

Pathways to Connection: Navigating Healthy Relationships with Jason VanRuler (The Velvet)

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After Kelly’s conversation with psychiatrist Dr. Jennifer Reid about guilt and unreasonable expectations, Kelly and Chip sit down to unpack what actually stuck with them personally. What started as a conversation centered around women’s guilt quickly turned into a bigger discussion about the ways both men and women are conditioned to feel responsible for everyone, everything, and constantly doing more.

Chip shares how these pressures show up from the male perspective, while Kelly reflects on the patterns she recognized in herself after the conversation. They also talk about the small ways they’re already trying to apply what they learned to their own lives — from noticing automatic guilt responses to questioning where certain expectations even came from in the first place.

A lighter, honest conversation about the pressure so many of us carry without even realizing it.

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Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast

HOSTS:

Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge // velvetsedge.com

Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch

 

Produced and edited by: @HoustonTilley

After Kelly&rsquo;s conversation with psychiatrist Dr. Jennifer Reid about guilt and unreasonable expectations, Kelly and Chip sit down to unpack what actually stuck with them personally. What started as a conversation centered around women&rsquo;s guilt quickly turned into a bigger discussion about the ways both men and women are conditioned to feel responsible for everyone, everything, and constantly doing more.
Chip shares how these pressures show up from the male perspective, while Kelly reflects on the patterns she recognized in herself after the conversation. They also talk about the small ways they&rsquo;re already trying to apply what they learned to their own lives &mdash; from noticing automatic guilt responses to questioning where certain expectations even came from in the first place.
A lighter, honest conversation about the pressure so many of us carry without even realizing it.
Watch us on YouTube! (<a href="https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge">By clicking this</a>)
Email us:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:theedge@velvetsedge.com">theedge@velvetsedge.com</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/">@VelvetsEdgePodcast</a>
HOSTS:
Kelly Henderson // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/">@velvetsedge</a> // velvetsedge.com
Chip Dorsch // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/chipdorsch/">@chipdorsch</a>
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Produced and edited by:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/houstontilley/">@HoustonTilley</a>

Wait… Is This Guilt or Just Conditioning? (The Edge)

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Psychiatrist and author Dr. Jennifer Reid joins Kelly to unpack why so many women walk through life feeling like they’re constantly falling short — even when they’re doing everything “right.”

From perfectionism and people pleasing to over-functioning and feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions, this conversation dives into the quiet ways guilt shapes our decisions, relationships, careers, and sense of self. Jennifer explains why guilt has become such a common emotional baseline for women, how unrealistic expectations keep us trapped in cycles of burnout and self-criticism, and what it actually looks like to start making decisions from self-trust instead of obligation.

Kelly and Jennifer also discuss the discomfort of disappointing people, the pressure to “have it all,” hyper-accountability, and why so many women struggle to identify what they actually want outside of what’s expected of them.

Buy Jennifer's book: GUILT FREE: Reclaiming Your Life From Unreasonable Expectations

Visit Jennifer's website: jenniferreidmd.com

Instagram: @jenreidmd

Check out Jennifer's Substack here.

 

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HOST: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge // velvetsedge.com

 

Produced and edited by: @HoustonTilley

Psychiatrist and author Dr. Jennifer Reid joins Kelly to unpack why so many women walk through life feeling like they&rsquo;re constantly falling short &mdash; even when they&rsquo;re doing everything &ldquo;right.&rdquo;
From perfectionism and people pleasing to over-functioning and feeling responsible for everyone else&rsquo;s emotions, this conversation dives into the quiet ways guilt shapes our decisions, relationships, careers, and sense of self. Jennifer explains why guilt has become such a common emotional baseline for women, how unrealistic expectations keep us trapped in cycles of burnout and self-criticism, and what it actually looks like to start making decisions from self-trust instead of obligation.
Kelly and Jennifer also discuss the discomfort of disappointing people, the pressure to &ldquo;have it all,&rdquo; hyper-accountability, and why so many women struggle to identify what they actually want outside of what&rsquo;s expected of them.
Buy Jennifer's book: <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/763503/guilt-free-by-jennifer-reid-md/">GUILT FREE: Reclaiming Your Life From Unreasonable Expectations</a>
Visit Jennifer's website: <a href="http://jenniferreidmd.com/" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://jenniferreidmd.com&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1779204893134000&amp;usg=AOvVaw1gXfv-X6oE5cJ-BwJKni0K">jenniferreidmd.com</a>
Instagram:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jenreidmd/">@jenreidmd</a>
Check out Jennifer's Substack <a href="https://amindofherown.substack.com">here</a>.
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Email us:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:theedge@velvetsedge.com">theedge@velvetsedge.com</a>
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Follow the podcast on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/">@VelvetsEdgePodcast</a>
HOST: Kelly Henderson // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/">@velvetsedge</a> // velvetsedge.com
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Produced and edited by: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/houstontilley/">@HoustonTilley</a>

Breaking Free From Guilt & Impossible Expectations with Dr. Jennifer Reid (The Velvet)

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After Kelly’s conversation with Brooke Taylor about The Success Wound, Kelly and Chip sat down to unpack their own personal takeaways from the episode and the conversation turned into a very honest look at why they each operate the way they do.

From productivity and pressure to structure, motivation, avoidance, burnout, and the feeling of “is this ever enough?”… this episode is less about fixing anything and more about getting curious about the patterns underneath how people work, push themselves, and attach identity to achievement.

Kelly and Chip compare notes on their very different relationships with discipline, routine, ambition, and work habits, while also reflecting on how much of what drives people may come from conditioning, personality, survival patterns, or simply the ways they learned to move through the world.

The episode also lightly touches on Chip’s recent ADHD exploration, but more through the lens of understanding himself better, not turning it into a diagnosis conversation.

Watch us on YouTube! (By clicking this)

Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast

HOSTS:

Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge // velvetsedge.com

Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch

 

Produced and edited by: @HoustonTilley

After Kelly&rsquo;s conversation with Brooke Taylor about The Success Wound, Kelly and Chip sat down to unpack their own personal takeaways from the episode and the conversation turned into a very honest look at why they each operate the way they do.
From productivity and pressure to structure, motivation, avoidance, burnout, and the feeling of &ldquo;is this ever enough?&rdquo;&hellip; this episode is less about fixing anything and more about getting curious about the patterns underneath how people work, push themselves, and attach identity to achievement.
Kelly and Chip compare notes on their very different relationships with discipline, routine, ambition, and work habits, while also reflecting on how much of what drives people may come from conditioning, personality, survival patterns, or simply the ways they learned to move through the world.
The episode also lightly touches on Chip&rsquo;s recent ADHD exploration, but more through the lens of understanding himself better, not turning it into a diagnosis conversation.
Watch us on YouTube! (<a href="https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge">By clicking this</a>)
Email us:&nbsp;<a href="mailto:theedge@velvetsedge.com">theedge@velvetsedge.com</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/">@VelvetsEdgePodcast</a>
HOSTS:
Kelly Henderson // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/">@velvetsedge</a> // velvetsedge.com
Chip Dorsch // <a href="https://www.instagram.com/chipdorsch/">@chipdorsch</a>
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Produced and edited by:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/houstontilley/">@HoustonTilley</a>

Why Do We Work the Way We Do? with Kelly & Chip (The Edge)

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Pathways to Connection: Navigating Healthy Relationships with Jason VanRuler (The Velvet)

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