The second instalment of our let’s get friendly episodes with the glorious Phoebe, here to talk about situationships, setting healthy boundaries and climate anxiety.

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A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

My book is out NOW: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
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My book is out NOW: <a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean">https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

Buy my book, Person in Progress: https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Buy my book, Person in Progress: <a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655">https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
&nbsp;

5. Let’s Get Friendly with Phoebe - emotional labour, high integrative complexity and boundaries

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After toxic love, healthy love can feel surprisingly hard to recognise because you’ve likely learned to expect chaos, inconsistency, and emotional whiplash. In this episode, we unpack what toxic love actually looks like, how it shapes your beliefs about love in your 20s, and why calm, consistent connection can feel suspicious or even ‘boring’ when you’re used to intensity.

We explore:
•        What toxic love is and how it intersects with abusive
•        How this reshapes trust, pessimism, and your expectations of people
•        The role of neurochemistry, addiction, and intermittent reinforcement in toxic bonds
•        Self-sabotage and self-esteem
•        The role of attachment patterns over time
•        What healthy love and conflict actually feel like
•        Practical ways to lean into safe love

If you’re conflicted between craving consistency or chaos, this episode is for you.

 

Watch on Netflix

 

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

 

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

After toxic love, healthy love can feel surprisingly hard to recognise because you&rsquo;ve likely learned to expect chaos, inconsistency, and emotional whiplash. In this episode, we unpack what toxic love actually looks like, how it shapes your beliefs about love in your 20s, and why calm, consistent connection can feel suspicious or even &lsquo;boring&rsquo; when you&rsquo;re used to intensity.
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;What toxic love is and how it intersects with abusive &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How this reshapes trust, pessimism, and your expectations of people &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of neurochemistry, addiction, and intermittent reinforcement in toxic bonds &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Self-sabotage and self-esteem &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of attachment patterns over time &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;What healthy love and conflict actually feel like &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Practical ways to lean into safe love
If you&rsquo;re conflicted between craving consistency or chaos, this episode is for you.
&nbsp;
<a href="http://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">Watch on Netflix</a>
&nbsp;
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

389. How to experience healthy love after toxic love 

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Personal style might look like a surface-level thing, but it’s actually one of the most psychologically loaded choices we make every day. What we wear shapes how we’re perceived, how we feel, and sometimes even what parts of ourselves we give permission to show. In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of personal style - why we’re drawn to what we’re drawn to, what shapes our wardrobe, and how to find a style that actually feels like you.

We explore:

•        How upbringing and early experiences shape what feels safe, flattering, or off-limits
•        The role of the Big Five personality traits
•        Style as identity signalling
•        How clothes shift out mood
•        The role of trends and fast fashion in conformity
•        How to rediscover your personal style

If you’ve ever felt like your wardrobe doesn’t quite match who you are, this episode is for you.

Watch on Netflix

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

 

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

Personal style might look like a surface-level thing, but it&rsquo;s actually one of the most psychologically loaded choices we make every day. What we wear shapes how we&rsquo;re perceived, how we feel, and sometimes even what parts of ourselves we give permission to show. In this episode, we&rsquo;re unpacking the psychology of personal style - why we&rsquo;re drawn to what we&rsquo;re drawn to, what shapes our wardrobe, and how to find a style that actually feels like you.
We explore:
&bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How upbringing and early experiences shape what feels safe, flattering, or off-limits &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of the Big Five personality traits &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Style as identity signalling &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How clothes shift out mood &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of trends and fast fashion in conformity &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How to rediscover your personal style
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt like your wardrobe doesn&rsquo;t quite match who you are, this episode is for you.
<a href="http://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">Watch on Netflix</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

388. The psychology of fashion & personal style

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When did ‘narcissist’ become the go-to explanation for every difficult person - and what do we lose when one word starts covering everything from basic selfishness to genuine psychological harm? In this bonus episode, we break down what psychologists actually mean by narcissism: where the term came from, what it truly means, and how the term has been adopted in our society. 

We explore:
•        Differences between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and narcissistic traits
•        The two main forms of narcissism
•        How has the term become overused?
•        The dangers of simplifying the term
•        Can narcissists ever change? Or is it all pretend?

Listen now!

 

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

 

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

When did &lsquo;narcissist&rsquo; become the go-to explanation for every difficult person - and what do we lose when one word starts covering everything from basic selfishness to genuine psychological harm? In this bonus episode, we break down what psychologists actually mean by narcissism: where the term came from, what it truly means, and how the term has been adopted in our society.&nbsp;
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Differences between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and narcissistic traits &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The two main forms of narcissism &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How has the term become overused? &bull;&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; The dangers of simplifying the term &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Can narcissists ever change? Or is it all pretend?
Listen now!
&nbsp;
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

387. The truth about narcissism ...

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5. Let’s Get Friendly with Phoebe - emotional labour, high integrative complexity and boundaries

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