The second instalment of our let’s get friendly episodes with the glorious Phoebe, here to talk about situationships, setting healthy boundaries and climate anxiety.

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A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

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A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
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For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;

The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;

5. Let’s Get Friendly with Phoebe - emotional labour, high integrative complexity and boundaries

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Stress has a reputation for burning us out, torching our relationships and even causing our lives to end prematurely. But not all stress is created equal. In this episode, we explore the difference between eustress - good stress - and distress, understand why our experience of stress is rooted in our perception of it, and understand how we can harness stress as a powerful force for motivation, energy and well-being. 

Watch on Netflix: HERE

We unpack: 
• The difference between eustress - good stress - and distress
• Why avoiding stress can actually cause cognitive decline
• The dangers of too much stress on our bodies and minds
• The Yerkes-Dodson law and the ‘sweet spot’ of stress
• How we can reframe our approach to stress to create our own ‘biology of courage’

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

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For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

Our favourite sources: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU&vl=en 
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8384975/ 
https://www.healthline.com/health/yerkes-dodson-law  

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

Stress has a reputation for burning us out, torching our relationships and even causing our lives to end prematurely. But not all stress is created equal. In this episode, we explore the difference between eustress - good stress - and distress, understand why our experience of stress is rooted in our perception of it, and understand how we can harness stress as a powerful force for motivation, energy and well-being.&nbsp;
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
We unpack:&nbsp; &bull; The difference between eustress - good stress - and distress &bull; Why avoiding stress can actually cause cognitive decline &bull; The dangers of too much stress on our bodies and minds &bull; The Yerkes-Dodson law and the &lsquo;sweet spot&rsquo; of stress &bull; How we can reframe our approach to stress to create our own &lsquo;biology of courage&rsquo;
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
Our favourite sources:&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU&amp;vl=en">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU&amp;vl=en</a>&nbsp; <a href="https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8384975/">https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8384975/</a>&nbsp; <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/yerkes-dodson-law">https://www.healthline.com/health/yerkes-dodson-law</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

458. Can embracing stress actually help us? 

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We treat our memories like a reliable recording of the past. We remember what happened, how we felt, where we were, and what was said. But what if our account is more like a subjective recollection of events? In this episode, we explore the concept of false memories – how they form, why this matters in our everyday lives, and their more serious potential impacts.

We explore:
•        The cognitive mechanisms behind false memories
•        The misinformation effect and the car crash study
•        Why our memories are open to imagination, repetition and social influence
•        Potential consequences of false memories in news reporting and eyewitness testimony
•        The importance of ethical therapeutic practices and memory

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

Our favourite sources:
https://innocenceproject.org/dna-exonerations-in-the-united-states/https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/memory-mind-and-media/article/fake-memories-a-metaanalysis-on-the-effect-of-fake-news-on-the-creation-of-false-memories-and-false-beliefs/B6A66A305AFD6724E1C1C56A68BB5CF2

https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0021-9010.83.3.360

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022537174800113?via%3Dihub

https://link.springer.com/article/10.3758/BF03196174

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

We treat our memories like a reliable recording of the past. We remember what happened, how we felt, where we were, and what was said. But what if our account is more like a subjective recollection of events? In this episode, we explore the concept of false memories &ndash; how they form, why this matters in our everyday lives, and their more serious potential impacts.
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The cognitive mechanisms behind false memories &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The misinformation effect and the car crash study &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why our memories are open to imagination, repetition and social influence &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Potential consequences of false memories in news reporting and eyewitness testimony &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The importance of ethical therapeutic practices and memory
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
Our favourite sources: <a href="https://innocenceproject.org/dna-exonerations-in-the-united-states/">https://innocenceproject.org/dna-exonerations-in-the-united-states/</a> <a href="https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/memory-mind-and-media/article/fake-memories-a-metaanalysis-on-the-effect-of-fake-news-on-the-creation-of-false-memories-and-false-beliefs/B6A66A305AFD6724E1C1C56A68BB5CF2">https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/memory-mind-and-media/article/fake-memories-a-metaanalysis-on-the-effect-of-fake-news-on-the-creation-of-false-memories-and-false-beliefs/B6A66A305AFD6724E1C1C56A68BB5CF2</a>
<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0021-9010.83.3.360">https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0021-9010.83.3.360</a>
<a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022537174800113?via%3Dihub">https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022537174800113?via%3Dihub</a>
<a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.3758/BF03196174">https://link.springer.com/article/10.3758/BF03196174</a>
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

457. The psychology of 'false' memories 

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Why does feeling sad sometimes feel... so good? Whether it’s putting on the saddest song you know, rewatching a movie that always makes you cry, indulging in a little self-pity or finally letting yourself have a good sob, there is something strangely satisfying about sadness. And psychology may be able to explain why.

In this episode, we explore the surprising psychological value of sadness, including:
Why sadness can sometimes feel pleasurable
The psychology of sad songs and sad movies
The tragedy paradox
 Why a good cry can feel so cathartic
Emotional suppression and why it exhausts us
Hedonic adaptation and why happiness loses its intensity
The surprising appeal of self-pity

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

Why does feeling sad sometimes feel... so good? Whether it&rsquo;s putting on the saddest song you know, rewatching a movie that always makes you cry, indulging in a little self-pity or finally letting yourself have a good sob, there is something strangely satisfying about sadness. And psychology may be able to explain why.
In this episode, we explore the surprising psychological value of sadness, including:
<ul>
<li>Why sadness can sometimes feel pleasurable</li>
<li>The psychology of sad songs and sad movies</li>
<li>The tragedy paradox</li>
<li>&nbsp;Why a good cry can feel so cathartic</li>
<li>Emotional suppression and why it exhausts us</li>
<li>Hedonic adaptation and why happiness loses its intensity</li>
<li>The surprising appeal of self-pity</li>
</ul>
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

456. Why does feeling sad sometimes feel so good?

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