We all know that therapy is amazing, in fact it’s life-changing for many people. But what does therapy actually do? And what makes a good therapist? 

In today’s episode we’re joined by Dr Sandra Espinoza, Associate Professor of the Couple and Family Therapy Program at Alliant University. Our discussion includes: 
Her journey into helping others 
Why the best therapists, go to therapy 
What to look for in your therapist 
Why we can’t just rely on our friends 
Our greatest misconceptions around therapy 
Why stigma and affordability continue to be the biggest barriers 
How Alliant University is leading the next generation of helpers and therapists to support their communities 

If you’ve ever considered therapy, been curious about therapy or want to be a therapist yourself, this is your ultimate guide. 

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Find out more about Alliant University: HERE

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The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

We all know that therapy is amazing, in fact it&rsquo;s life-changing for many people. But what does therapy actually do? And what makes a good therapist?&nbsp;
In today&rsquo;s episode we&rsquo;re joined by Dr Sandra Espinoza, Associate Professor of the Couple and Family Therapy Program at Alliant University. Our discussion includes:&nbsp;
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Her journey into helping others&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why the best therapists, go to therapy&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">What to look for in your therapist&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why we can&rsquo;t just rely on our friends&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Our greatest misconceptions around therapy&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why stigma and affordability continue to be the biggest barriers&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">How Alliant University is leading the next generation of helpers and therapists to support their communities&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
If you&rsquo;ve ever considered therapy, been curious about therapy or want to be a therapist yourself, this is your ultimate guide.&nbsp;
Follow Dr Espinoza: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drsandraespinoza/">HERE&nbsp;</a>
Find out more about Alliant University: <a href="https://www.alliant.edu/">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

My book is out NOW: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
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My book is out NOW: <a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean">https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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The Psychology of your 20s

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A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

Buy my book, Person in Progress: https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Buy my book, Person in Progress: <a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655">https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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438. The secrets of therapy FROM a therapist ft. Dr Sandra Espinoza

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At some point in most of our lives, most of us have felt that we are ‘too much’. We might feel that we are too loud, have too many opinions, are too extroverted, too needy, or generally take up too much emotional ‘space’. In this episode, we explore what this feels like when it bleeds into our personal and professional lives, the impact of suppressing emotions upon our immune system, and look at some methods to unlearn and reconfigure our relationship with the ‘too much’ label.

We unpack: 
• Why society likes to shame people who are confident and outspoken
• The psychology of ‘Tall Poppy Syndrome’, and why women are particularly vulnerable 
• How being shamed and shut down as children makes us feel ‘too much’ later in life
• The link between suppressing our emotions and our immune system
• How we can unlearn the belief that we are ‘too much’

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

Our favourite sources: 

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_are_confident_people_so_polarizing

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4212945/

https://www.instagram.com/p/DXo5rB3jtOe/?img_index=20&igsh=emNnMDNlZzFoeDZm

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

At some point in most of our lives, most of us have felt that we are &lsquo;too much&rsquo;. We might feel that we are too loud, have too many opinions, are too extroverted, too needy, or generally take up too much emotional &lsquo;space&rsquo;. In this episode, we explore what this feels like when it bleeds into our personal and professional lives, the impact of suppressing emotions upon our immune system, and look at some methods to unlearn and reconfigure our relationship with the &lsquo;too much&rsquo; label.
We unpack:&nbsp; &bull; Why society likes to shame people who are confident and outspoken &bull; The psychology of &lsquo;Tall Poppy Syndrome&rsquo;, and why women are particularly vulnerable&nbsp; &bull; How being shamed and shut down as children makes us feel &lsquo;too much&rsquo; later in life &bull; The link between suppressing our emotions and our immune system &bull; How we can unlearn the belief that we are &lsquo;too much&rsquo;
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
Our favourite sources:&nbsp;
<a href="https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_are_confident_people_so_polarizing">https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_are_confident_people_so_polarizing</a>
<a href="https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4212945/">https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4212945/</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/DXo5rB3jtOe/?img_index=20&amp;igsh=emNnMDNlZzFoeDZm">https://www.instagram.com/p/DXo5rB3jtOe/?img_index=20&amp;igsh=emNnMDNlZzFoeDZm</a>
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

437. The psychology behind feeling 'too much'

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In many ways, sibling rivalry is an integral part of growing up in a multiple-child household – the arguments, the jealousy, the competition. But as we explore in this episode, those sibling dynamics often don’t stop in childhood, but actually following us into our 20s and adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves, relate to our families, and how we carry old roles. 

We explore:
•        Why a level of rivalry is developmentally expected
•        The evolutionary perspective on resource competition
•        The role of birth order and family roles
•        How sibling rivalry can transpire in adulthood
•        How to begin acknowledging and rewriting old roles

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

Our favourite sources: 
https://prevention.psu.edu/news/the-psychology-behind-sibling-rivalry/

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10567-011-0104-5

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0192513X211064876

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10826-016-0429-2

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

In many ways, sibling rivalry is an integral part of growing up in a multiple-child household &ndash; the arguments, the jealousy, the competition. But as we explore in this episode, those sibling dynamics often don&rsquo;t stop in childhood, but actually following us into our 20s and adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves, relate to our families, and how we carry old roles.&nbsp;
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why a level of rivalry is developmentally expected &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The evolutionary perspective on resource competition &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of birth order and family roles &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How sibling rivalry can transpire in adulthood &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How to begin acknowledging and rewriting old roles
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
Our favourite sources:&nbsp; <a href="https://prevention.psu.edu/news/the-psychology-behind-sibling-rivalry/">https://prevention.psu.edu/news/the-psychology-behind-sibling-rivalry/</a>
<a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10567-011-0104-5">https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10567-011-0104-5</a>
<a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0192513X211064876">https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0192513X211064876</a>
<a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10826-016-0429-2">https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10826-016-0429-2</a>
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

436. The psychology of sibling rivalry

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There comes a point in all of our lives where we realise we've outgrown who we used to be. Sometimes it happens all at once, due to a breakup, a move, a loss, or a major life change. Other times (most of the time), it's much quieter.  As painful as that can feel, it's also one of the clearest signs that you're evolving.

In this episode, we explore the psychology of outgrowing your old life, why change can feel so much like grief, and how to let go of the past without fearing the future.

We explore:
The psychology of liminality and the space between who you were and who you're becoming
The seven stages of outgrowing your old life
Why we cling to the past through nostalgia, the endowment effect and status quo bias
When you know a chapter is over
How to embrace change and build a future you're excited to grow into

Happy listening!

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

There comes a point in all of our lives where we realise we've outgrown who we used to be. Sometimes it happens all at once, due to a breakup, a move, a loss, or a major life change. Other times (most of the time), it's much quieter.&nbsp; As painful as that can feel, it's also one of the clearest signs that you're evolving.
In this episode, we explore the psychology of outgrowing your old life, why change can feel so much like grief, and how to let go of the past without fearing the future.
We explore:
<ul>
<li>The psychology of liminality and the space between who you were and who you're becoming</li>
<li>The seven stages of outgrowing your old life</li>
<li>Why we cling to the past through nostalgia, the endowment effect and status quo bias</li>
<li>When you know a chapter is over</li>
<li>How to embrace change and build a future you're excited to grow into</li>
</ul>
Happy listening!
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;

435. The pain of outgrowing your old life 

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438. The secrets of therapy FROM a therapist ft. Dr Sandra Espinoza

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