Struggling with our self worth can often impact how deserving we feel of love. This sense that we may be 'unloveable' causes us to miss out on healthy, fulfilling relationships, self sabotage and stay with people who don't deserve us. In today's episode, we discuss: 
The origins of why we feel unworthy of love
Childhood wounds 
Early romantic scripts and teen romance 
Repeated rejection and shame
The consequences of feeling unloveable 
Repetition of toxic relationships
How to restore or rediscover your sense of self worth and self love 

And so much more. Listen now! 

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Struggling with our self worth can often impact how deserving we feel of love. This sense that we may be 'unloveable' causes us to miss out on healthy, fulfilling relationships, self sabotage and stay with people who don't deserve us. In today's episode, we discuss: 
<ul>
<li>The origins of why we feel unworthy of love</li>
<li>Childhood wounds </li>
<li>Early romantic scripts and teen romance </li>
<li>Repeated rejection and shame</li>
<li>The consequences of feeling unloveable </li>
<li>Repetition of toxic relationships</li>
<li>How to restore or rediscover your sense of self worth and self love </li>
</ul>
And so much more. Listen now! 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg
Follow the podcast: @thatpsychologypodcast

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

My book is out NOW: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
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My book is out NOW: <a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean">https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

Buy my book, Person in Progress: https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Buy my book, Person in Progress: <a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655">https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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203. Why do we feel so unloveable?

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What might be seen as a ‘boring’ life is often just a life that wouldn’t be as popular on Instagram. In a world that glamorises chaos, spontaneity and constant stimulation, we need to create lives that truly nourish us, provide safety, and align with who we really are. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind why so many of us begin craving calm as we get older, why that can feel oddly threatening, and why slowing down may be one of the best things we can do for our brains.

We explore:
•        Why many of us start craving a more manageable, peaceful life
•        Why this can create fear, guilt, or cognitive dissonance in our 20s
•        The pressure from social media to make youth look chaotic and exciting
•        The role of FOMO in feeling disconnected from our real preferences
•        Why our brains crave novelty
•        What a ‘boring’ life is actually made of: boundaries, routine, presence, and self-trust

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

Our favourite sources: 
https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/development-and-psychopathology/article/abs/differential-changes-in-impulsivity-and-sensation-seeking-and-the-escalation-of-substance-use-from-adolescence-to-early-adulthood/3542107D68176F9B55BC0A2DB212C701

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563213000800

https://www.nature.com/articles/nrn1052

https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/science.1250830

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

What might be seen as a &lsquo;boring&rsquo; life is often just a life that wouldn&rsquo;t be as popular on Instagram. In a world that glamorises chaos, spontaneity and constant stimulation, we need to create lives that truly nourish us, provide safety, and align with who we really are. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind why so many of us begin craving calm as we get older, why that can feel oddly threatening, and why slowing down may be one of the best things we can do for our brains.
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why many of us start craving a more manageable, peaceful life &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why this can create fear, guilt, or cognitive dissonance in our 20s &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The pressure from social media to make youth look chaotic and exciting &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of FOMO in feeling disconnected from our real preferences &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why our brains crave novelty &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;What a &lsquo;boring&rsquo; life is actually made of: boundaries, routine, presence, and self-trust
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
Our favourite sources:&nbsp; <a href="https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/development-and-psychopathology/article/abs/differential-changes-in-impulsivity-and-sensation-seeking-and-the-escalation-of-substance-use-from-adolescence-to-early-adulthood/3542107D68176F9B55BC0A2DB212C701">https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/development-and-psychopathology/article/abs/differential-changes-in-impulsivity-and-sensation-seeking-and-the-escalation-of-substance-use-from-adolescence-to-early-adulthood/3542107D68176F9B55BC0A2DB212C701</a>
<a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563213000800">https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563213000800</a>
<a href="https://www.nature.com/articles/nrn1052">https://www.nature.com/articles/nrn1052</a>
<a href="https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/science.1250830">https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/science.1250830</a>
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

431. Why a boring life is beautiful

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When we go for a job interview, it can feel as if our entire existence is being judged. It can come down to the feeling of someone else getting to call the shots on whether we are intellectually competent at best, or personally desirable at worst. In this episode, we’ll explore why job interviews can feel so stressful, identify why positive first impressions are vital, and discuss some psychological hacks to help us nail them. 

We explore:

• How job interviews trigger our need for social approval 
• The Yerkes-Dodson Law, or how excessive pressure can make us perform worse
• Why we can’t trust our judgement about how an interview went
• Why being likeable makes it more likely you’ll get hired
• How easy psychological tricks can make us feel more confident

Our favourite sources: 
https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/how-to-handle-uncertainty-without-losing-your-mindwww.researchgate.net/publication/313878823_The_importance_of_first_impressions_in_a_job_interview

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/beyond-stress-and-burnout/202206/the-effects-of-stress-when-interviewing

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

When we go for a job interview, it can feel as if our entire existence is being judged. It can come down to the feeling of someone else getting to call the shots on whether we are intellectually competent at best, or personally desirable at worst. In this episode, we&rsquo;ll explore why job interviews can feel so stressful, identify why positive first impressions are vital, and discuss some psychological hacks to help us nail them.&nbsp;
We explore:
&bull; How job interviews trigger our need for social approval&nbsp; &bull; The Yerkes-Dodson Law, or how excessive pressure can make us perform worse &bull; Why we can&rsquo;t trust our judgement about how an interview went &bull; Why being likeable makes it more likely you&rsquo;ll get hired &bull; How easy psychological tricks can make us feel more confident
Our favourite sources:&nbsp; <a href="https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/how-to-handle-uncertainty-without-losing-your-mind">https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/how-to-handle-uncertainty-without-losing-your-mind</a><a href="https://www.researchgate.net/publication/313878823_The_importance_of_first_impressions_in_a_job_interview">www.researchgate.net/publication/313878823_The_importance_of_first_impressions_in_a_job_interview</a>
<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/beyond-stress-and-burnout/202206/the-effects-of-stress-when-interviewing">https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/beyond-stress-and-burnout/202206/the-effects-of-stress-when-interviewing</a>
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

430. The psychology of job interviews

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Living with a chronic illness in your 20s can feel like carrying an invisible weight that nobody else can see. Beyond the hospital appointments, surgeries, medications and diagnoses, there is a hidden psychological burden: the anxiety, grief, uncertainty, identity struggles and resilience required to keep moving forward when your body feels beyond your control.

In this week's episode, I sit down with content creator, advocate and broadcaster Nikki Lilly to discuss what it's really like growing up with a rare medical condition, navigating facial differences, online bullying, and building a meaningful life despite constant uncertainty.

We discuss:
The hidden psychological impact of chronic illness
 Medical trauma, PTSD and the long road to healing
How chronic illness affects your relationship with your body
Online bullying, discrimination and appearance-based judgment
Plus her time at the Oscars and her vision for her future

Happy listening!

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Listen to Live A Little: HERE

Follow Lilly on Instagram: @nikkililly

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

 

Living with a chronic illness in your 20s can feel like carrying an invisible weight that nobody else can see. Beyond the hospital appointments, surgeries, medications and diagnoses, there is a hidden psychological burden: the anxiety, grief, uncertainty, identity struggles and resilience required to keep moving forward when your body feels beyond your control.
In this week's episode, I sit down with content creator, advocate and broadcaster Nikki Lilly to discuss what it's really like growing up with a rare medical condition, navigating facial differences, online bullying, and building a meaningful life despite constant uncertainty.
We discuss:
<ul>
<li>The hidden psychological impact of chronic illness</li>
<li>&nbsp;Medical trauma, PTSD and the long road to healing</li>
<li>How chronic illness affects your relationship with your body</li>
<li>Online bullying, discrimination and appearance-based judgment</li>
<li>Plus her time at the Oscars and her vision for her future</li>
</ul>
Happy listening!
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Listen to Live A Little: <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/7sBLnc4qHUaLvm06zWhh12?si=90f0afbb8fab4446">HERE</a>
Follow Lilly on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/nikkililly/?hl=en">nikkililly</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;
&nbsp;

429. The reality of chronic illness in your 20s ft. Nikki Lilly

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203. Why do we feel so unloveable?

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