Social comparison is the thief of joy - it will make us question everything that we have, doubt our own abilities, steal our sense of gratitude and peace. It also sometimes feels impossible to escape, especially in our 20s when we look to others for confirmation that we are doing something right. In today's episode we break down the 5 rules you need to stop comparing yourself to others and embrace the benefits of healthy social comparison, this includes: 
Don't unfollow, don't suppress, recognise and expand
Keep your judgements realistic 
Do things for YOU first
Water your own grass 
Comparison as a motivator 

Listen now to learn how you can control your urge to compare yourself to others! 

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Social comparison is the thief of joy - it will make us question everything that we have, doubt our own abilities, steal our sense of gratitude and peace. It also sometimes feels impossible to escape, especially in our 20s when we look to others for confirmation that we are doing something right. In today's episode we break down the 5 rules you need to stop comparing yourself to others and embrace the benefits of healthy social comparison, this includes: 
<ol>
<li>Don't unfollow, don't suppress, recognise and expand</li>
<li>Keep your judgements realistic </li>
<li>Do things for YOU first</li>
<li>Water your own grass </li>
<li>Comparison as a motivator </li>
</ol>
Listen now to learn how you can control your urge to compare yourself to others! 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg 
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

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A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. New episodes every Friday!
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com </a>
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The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 



For business enquires please email thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com 

New merchandise here: https://the-psychology-of-your-20s.myshopify.com/

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 
 
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com </a>
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189. 5 ways to stop comparing yourself to others

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Attachment theory is often misunderstood but when we have the correct knowledge and information it can transform how we relate to others. In today's episode we break down one of these styles, the avoidant attachment, along with it's two components: avoidant dismissive and avoidant fearful. We discuss how this style develops, its expression, the difference in prevalence and behaviours between men and women and how we can move forward and heal an avoidant pattern. 

We are joined in today's episode by Thais Gibson, the founder of The Personal Development School and expert in attachment theory. Unlock your free trial using this link: www.personaldevelopmentschool.com/freetrial

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Attachment theory is often misunderstood but when we have the correct knowledge and information it can transform how we relate to others. In today's episode we break down one of these styles, the avoidant attachment, along with it's two components: avoidant dismissive and avoidant fearful. We discuss how this style develops, its expression, the difference in prevalence and behaviours between men and women and how we can move forward and heal an avoidant pattern. 
We are joined in today's episode by Thais Gibson, the founder of The Personal Development School and expert in attachment theory. Unlock your free trial using this link: <a href="http://www.personaldevelopmentschool.com/freetrial" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=http://www.personaldevelopmentschool.com/freetrial&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1715042667855000&amp;usg=AOvVaw0BUHXaHaMCIaNWQjYlGQgc">www.personaldevelopmentschool.com/freetrial</a> 
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193. The truth about avoidant attachment ft. Thais Gibson

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We have a lot of opportunities to feel behind in our 20s, especially when it comes to our careers, our finances and our relationships. In todays episode we break down why so many of us (roughly 80% of 20 something year olds) feeling like we're falling short of expectations, as well as how we can manage these feelings and enjoy our path through life without comparing it to someone others. We discuss:
The competitiveness of this generation
The wunderkind phenomena 
Career anxiety and starting over 
Relationship and dating inexperience 
The pandemic skip 
How to feel more sure of your own path and progress 

AND, we hear from you, the listeners, about your experiences. Listen now! 

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

We have a lot of opportunities to feel behind in our 20s, especially when it comes to our careers, our finances and our relationships. In todays episode we break down why so many of us (roughly 80% of 20 something year olds) feeling like we're falling short of expectations, as well as how we can manage these feelings and enjoy our path through life without comparing it to someone others. We discuss:
<ul>
<li>The competitiveness of this generation</li>
<li>The wunderkind phenomena </li>
<li>Career anxiety and starting over </li>
<li>Relationship and dating inexperience </li>
<li>The pandemic skip </li>
<li>How to feel more sure of your own path and progress </li>
</ul>
AND, we hear from you, the listeners, about your experiences. Listen now! 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

192. Feeling behind in your 20s

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We have found some pretty amazing ways to observe human behaviour and from it, discovered some especially interesting things about how we operate, who we are at our core, our irrational beliefs and so much more. In today's episode, we break down five of my favourite psychology studies of all time from jam, to mental escapism and binge watching TV, how many friends we actually need, the healing power of nature and the origins of imposter syndrome. Listen now! 

Study One: The Stanford Jam Experiment

https://faculty.washington.edu/jdb/345/345%20Articles/Iyengar%20%26%20Lepper%20(2000).pdf

Study Two: In your 20s it's quantity, in your 30s its quality 

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-10764-001

Study Three: Loneliness, Escapism, and Identification With Media Characters 

https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.785970/full

Study Four: The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women

https://www.paulineroseclance.com/pdf/ip_high_achieving_women.pdf

Study Five: Effects of Coastal Environment on Well-being 

https://www.walshmedicalmedia.com/open-access/effects-of-the-coastal-environment-on-wellbeing-jczm-1000421.pdf



Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

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Business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

We have found some pretty amazing ways to observe human behaviour and from it, discovered some especially interesting things about how we operate, who we are at our core, our irrational beliefs and so much more. In today's episode, we break down five of my favourite psychology studies of all time from jam, to mental escapism and binge watching TV, how many friends we actually need, the healing power of nature and the origins of imposter syndrome. Listen now! 
Study One: The Stanford Jam Experiment
https://faculty.washington.edu/jdb/345/345%20Articles/Iyengar%20%26%20Lepper%20(2000).pdf
Study Two: In your 20s it's quantity, in your 30s its quality 
<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-10764-001">https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2015-10764-001</a> 
Study Three: Loneliness, Escapism, and Identification With Media Characters 
<a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.785970/full">https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.785970/full</a> 
Study Four: The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women
<a href="https://www.paulineroseclance.com/pdf/ip_high_achieving_women.pdf">https://www.paulineroseclance.com/pdf/ip_high_achieving_women.pdf</a> 
Study Five: Effects of Coastal Environment on Well-being 
<a href="https://www.walshmedicalmedia.com/open-access/effects-of-the-coastal-environment-on-wellbeing-jczm-1000421.pdf">https://www.walshmedicalmedia.com/open-access/effects-of-the-coastal-environment-on-wellbeing-jczm-1000421.pdf</a> 
 
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast 
Business enquiries: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>

191. My favourite psychology studies of ALL TIME

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189. 5 ways to stop comparing yourself to others

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