Envy is ingrained into our human psyche, each and every one of us has, at times, compared ourselves to someone who has more, or possesses a quality or a level of success that we don't, and felt that familiar spike of pain. In today's episode we break down the psychology behind envy, and why it reflects a deeper insecurity in ourselves we are not ready to recognise. We explore: 
The prevalence of envy in our 20s
The primal origins of envy
Envy vs. Jealousy vs. Greed 
How envy shows up in our behaviour 
How to stop comparing ourselves to others
How to be satisfied with what we have 

If you want to become friends with that green-eyed monster, this episode is for you. Listen now! 



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Envy is ingrained into our human psyche, each and every one of us has, at times, compared ourselves to someone who has more, or possesses a quality or a level of success that we don't, and felt that familiar spike of pain. In today's episode we break down the psychology behind envy, and why it reflects a deeper insecurity in ourselves we are not ready to recognise. We explore: 
<ul>
<li>The prevalence of envy in our 20s</li>
<li>The primal origins of envy</li>
<li>Envy vs. Jealousy vs. Greed </li>
<li>How envy shows up in our behaviour </li>
<li>How to stop comparing ourselves to others</li>
<li>How to be satisfied with what we have </li>
</ul>
If you want to become friends with that green-eyed monster, this episode is for you. Listen now! 
 
Follow us on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/">https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/</a>

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

My book is out NOW: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
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My book is out NOW: <a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean">https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

Buy my book, Person in Progress: https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Buy my book, Person in Progress: <a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655">https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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140. The psychology of envy

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In many ways, sibling rivalry is an integral part of growing up in a multiple-child household – the arguments, the jealousy, the competition. But as we explore in this episode, those sibling dynamics often don’t stop in childhood, but actually following us into our 20s and adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves, relate to our families, and how we carry old roles. 

We explore:
•        Why a level of rivalry is developmentally expected
•        The evolutionary perspective on resource competition
•        The role of birth order and family roles
•        How sibling rivalry can transpire in adulthood
•        How to begin acknowledging and rewriting old roles

Watch on Netflix: HERE

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Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

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For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

Our favourite sources: 
https://prevention.psu.edu/news/the-psychology-behind-sibling-rivalry/

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10567-011-0104-5

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0192513X211064876

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10826-016-0429-2

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 

In many ways, sibling rivalry is an integral part of growing up in a multiple-child household &ndash; the arguments, the jealousy, the competition. But as we explore in this episode, those sibling dynamics often don&rsquo;t stop in childhood, but actually following us into our 20s and adulthood, shaping how we see ourselves, relate to our families, and how we carry old roles.&nbsp;
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why a level of rivalry is developmentally expected &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The evolutionary perspective on resource competition &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of birth order and family roles &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How sibling rivalry can transpire in adulthood &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How to begin acknowledging and rewriting old roles
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
Our favourite sources:&nbsp; <a href="https://prevention.psu.edu/news/the-psychology-behind-sibling-rivalry/">https://prevention.psu.edu/news/the-psychology-behind-sibling-rivalry/</a>
<a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10567-011-0104-5">https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10567-011-0104-5</a>
<a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0192513X211064876">https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0192513X211064876</a>
<a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10826-016-0429-2">https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10826-016-0429-2</a>
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.&nbsp;

436. The psychology of sibling rivalry

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There comes a point in all of our lives where we realise we've outgrown who we used to be. Sometimes it happens all at once, due to a breakup, a move, a loss, or a major life change. Other times (most of the time), it's much quieter.  As painful as that can feel, it's also one of the clearest signs that you're evolving.

In this episode, we explore the psychology of outgrowing your old life, why change can feel so much like grief, and how to let go of the past without fearing the future.

We explore:
The psychology of liminality and the space between who you were and who you're becoming
The seven stages of outgrowing your old life
Why we cling to the past through nostalgia, the endowment effect and status quo bias
When you know a chapter is over
How to embrace change and build a future you're excited to grow into

Happy listening!

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

There comes a point in all of our lives where we realise we've outgrown who we used to be. Sometimes it happens all at once, due to a breakup, a move, a loss, or a major life change. Other times (most of the time), it's much quieter.&nbsp; As painful as that can feel, it's also one of the clearest signs that you're evolving.
In this episode, we explore the psychology of outgrowing your old life, why change can feel so much like grief, and how to let go of the past without fearing the future.
We explore:
<ul>
<li>The psychology of liminality and the space between who you were and who you're becoming</li>
<li>The seven stages of outgrowing your old life</li>
<li>Why we cling to the past through nostalgia, the endowment effect and status quo bias</li>
<li>When you know a chapter is over</li>
<li>How to embrace change and build a future you're excited to grow into</li>
</ul>
Happy listening!
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;

435. The pain of outgrowing your old life 

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TW: Discussions of suicide.

This week, I'm joined by mental health campaigner Ben West for one of the most moving conversations we've ever had on the show. At 18, Ben lost his brother to suicide. He has taken that experience and decided to change the lives of thousands, if not millions with his 'Reasons to Stay' campaign. 

In this episode we discuss:
Why grief changes over time 
How to find purpose after unimaginable heartbreak
The psychology of hope and why strangers can save lives
What supporting someone through suicidal thoughts actually looks like
Ben's incredible initiative, Reasons to Stay, and the millions of people it's already reached
His two personal rules for protecting his own mental health
Why healing isn't about 'moving on' but learning to carry what you've lost

Watch on Netflix: HERE

Preorder Ben's book: HERE 

Follow Ben: HERE 

If you need help, it is available. You are NEVER alone. Please find some further resources HERE.

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

Subscribe on Substack: @thepsychologyofyour20s

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

TW: Discussions of suicide.
This week, I'm joined by mental health campaigner Ben West for one of the most moving conversations we've ever had on the show. At 18, Ben lost his brother to suicide. He has taken that experience and decided to change the lives of thousands, if not millions with his 'Reasons to Stay' campaign.&nbsp;
In this episode we discuss:
<ul data-spread="false">
<li>Why grief changes over time&nbsp;</li>
<li>How to find purpose after unimaginable heartbreak</li>
<li>The psychology of hope and why strangers can save lives</li>
<li>What supporting someone through suicidal thoughts actually looks like</li>
<li>Ben's incredible initiative, Reasons to Stay, and the millions of people it's already reached</li>
<li>His two personal rules for protecting his own mental health</li>
<li>Why healing isn't about 'moving on' but learning to carry what you've lost</li>
</ul>
Watch on Netflix: <a href="https://netflix.com/thepsychologyofyour20s">HERE</a>
Preorder Ben's book:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/486134/reasons-to-by-west-ben/9781911754886">HERE&nbsp;</a>
Follow Ben: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/iambenwest/?hl=en">HERE&nbsp;</a>
If you need help, it is available. You are NEVER alone. Please find some further resources <a href="https://www.iasp.info/suicidalthoughts/">HERE.</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
Subscribe on Substack: @<a href="https://substack.com/@thepsychologyofyour20s">thepsychologyofyour20s</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

434. "I lost my brother at 16 to suicide, it shouldn't have happened" ft. Ben West

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140. The psychology of envy

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