Today we’re bringing in a special guest, someone very close to the show and my heart. The wonderful Jack - one of our co-writers and podcast inspos - joins the podcast to talk creative pathways, reflecting on your younger years, our inner child and our concepts for the next greatest Australian novels.

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A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

My book is out NOW: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
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My book is out NOW: <a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean">https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/general-clean</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
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The Psychology of your 20s

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now. 

 

Buy my book, Person in Progress: https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655 

For business enquires please email psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com

 

A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Buy my book, Person in Progress: <a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655">https://www.amazon.com.au/Person-Progress-Roadmap-Psychology-Your/dp/1399823655</a>&nbsp;
For business enquires please email <a href="mailto:thepsychologyofyour20steam@unitedtalent.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>
&nbsp;

12. Let’s Get Friendly with Jack - creativity, life paths and the next great Australian novel

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Navigating friendship in your 20s is already complicated – so what happens when we add a third person into the mix? The group chat might be buzzing, there’s always someone to talk to, and belonging to a group of three can feel like a safe space. But what happens when two start getting closer, plans are made without you, or you’re constantly wondering if you’re the extra one?

In today’s episode, we unpack the psychology of friendship trios - why they feel so special, when they can hurt, and how to tell the difference between a rough patch and a dynamic that’s genuinely not good for you.

We explore:

•        The beauty of a friendship trio
•        Friendship dyads vs triads
•        The role of Simmelian ties
•        When imbalances start to show (alliances, jealousy and feeling like the ‘third wheel’)
•        What healthy trio dynamics actually look like (and how to achieve it)
•        Hot to know when it’s time to step back

If you’re navigating this nuanced aspect of friendship, this episode is for you.

 

ORDER MY BOOK

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

Navigating friendship in your 20s is already complicated &ndash; so what happens when we add a third person into the mix? The group chat might be buzzing, there&rsquo;s always someone to talk to, and belonging to a group of three can feel like a safe space. But what happens when two start getting closer, plans are made without you, or you&rsquo;re constantly wondering if you&rsquo;re the extra one?
In today&rsquo;s episode, we unpack the psychology of friendship trios - why they feel so special, when they can hurt, and how to tell the difference between a rough patch and a dynamic that&rsquo;s genuinely not good for you.
We explore:
&bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The beauty of a friendship trio &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Friendship dyads vs triads &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of Simmelian ties &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;When imbalances start to show (alliances, jealousy and feeling like the &lsquo;third wheel&rsquo;) &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;What healthy trio dynamics actually look like (and how to achieve it) &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Hot to know when it&rsquo;s time to step back
If you&rsquo;re navigating this nuanced aspect of friendship, this episode is for you.
&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/copy-of-book">ORDER MY BOOK</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

375. The psychology of friendship trios

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In our 20s especially, the fear of regret can seem like every choice has the potential to ‘ruin’ our future - the degree we picked (or didn’t), the person we stayed with, the move we were too scared to make. And then there are the things we didn’t do at all, the opportunities we let pass, the words we never said, that still weigh on us years later. 

In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of regret – what it actually is, why it’s so tied to self-blame, and how it can either keep us frozen or push us forward. 

We explore:
•        The role of upward and downward counterfactual thinking
•        How regret can both motivate and stagnate us 
•        The four BIGGEST regrets people have
•        The paradox of the ‘perfect’ decision
•        Why we fear regret more than we feel it
•        How to grow through regret with acceptance and compassion 

If you want to quieten the ‘what if’ thoughts, this episode is for you.

ORDER MY BOOK

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

In our 20s especially, the fear of regret can seem like every choice has the potential to &lsquo;ruin&rsquo; our future - the degree we picked (or didn&rsquo;t), the person we stayed with, the move we were too scared to make. And then there are the things we didn&rsquo;t do at all, the opportunities we let pass, the words we never said, that still weigh on us years later.&nbsp;
In this episode, we&rsquo;re unpacking the psychology of regret &ndash; what it actually is, why it&rsquo;s so tied to self-blame, and how it can either keep us frozen or push us forward.&nbsp;
We explore: &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The role of upward and downward counterfactual thinking &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How regret can both motivate and stagnate us&nbsp; &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The four BIGGEST regrets people have &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The paradox of the &lsquo;perfect&rsquo; decision &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why we fear regret more than we feel it &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How to grow through regret with acceptance and compassion&nbsp;
If you want to quieten the &lsquo;what if&rsquo; thoughts, this episode is for you.
<a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/copy-of-book">ORDER MY BOOK</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

374. The psychology of regret

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Modern life has a way of making rest feel suspicious. You can be exhausted, finally take a break, and still hear that nagging voice that you should be doing something more. Somewhere along the line, downtime stopped being a basic need and started feeling like something you have to justify, like a sign you’re falling behind, letting people down, or not trying hard enough.

In this episode, we’re getting into the psychology behind rest guilt - why busyness has become a kind of social currency, how work and visibility have blurred the line between ‘off’ and ‘on’, and why so many of us struggle to switch off even when we desperately need to.

We explore:

•        How busyness became social currency
•        Historical and social origins of why rest feels so hard
•        How LinkedIn and social media impact comparison and urgency
•        The beliefs that keep us from resting
•        Why ‘time off’ isn’t always restorative
•        How rest can be the most productive thing you do
•        Practical ways to reframe rest guilt 

If resting makes you feel edgy, unproductive, or guilty, this episode is for you.

 

ORDER MY BOOK

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg

Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast

For business: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

 

The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

Modern life has a way of making rest feel suspicious. You can be exhausted, finally take a break, and still hear that nagging voice that you should be doing something more. Somewhere along the line, downtime stopped being a basic need and started feeling like something you have to justify, like a sign you&rsquo;re falling behind, letting people down, or not trying hard enough.
In this episode, we&rsquo;re getting into the psychology behind rest guilt - why busyness has become a kind of social currency, how work and visibility have blurred the line between &lsquo;off&rsquo; and &lsquo;on&rsquo;, and why so many of us struggle to switch off even when we desperately need to.
We explore:
&bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How busyness became social currency &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Historical and social origins of why rest feels so hard &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How LinkedIn and social media impact comparison and urgency &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;The beliefs that keep us from resting &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Why &lsquo;time off&rsquo; isn&rsquo;t always restorative &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;How rest can be the most productive thing you do &bull; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;Practical ways to reframe rest guilt&nbsp;
If resting makes you feel edgy, unproductive, or guilty, this episode is for you.
&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/copy-of-book">ORDER MY BOOK</a>
Follow Jemma on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/?hl=en#">jemmasbeg</a>
Follow the podcast on Instagram: @<a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/?hl=en#">thatpsychologypodcast</a>
For business: <a href="mailto:psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com">psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com</a>&nbsp;
&nbsp;
The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.

373. Why rest makes us feel so guilty

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12. Let’s Get Friendly with Jack - creativity, life paths and the next great Australian novel

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