You know that feeling when your mind just won’t let something go?

You go over it…
you talk about it…
you try to figure it out…

But instead of getting clarity, you just feel more stuck.

In this episode, Carly explores the concept of toraware from Japanese psychology — a state where your mind becomes caught in a loop of overthinking — and how this can quietly narrow your life.

She also unpacks co-rumination, and how group chats and even social media can keep you stuck on that same mental roundabout.

You’ll walk away with a simple, practical way to shift your attention and move forward — even when nothing feels resolved.

Carly is a counsellor and coach who specialises in building psychological hardiness — the ability to navigate challenge, stay engaged, and take action under pressure. Her work integrates modern psychology with Japanese approaches like Morita Therapy, focusing on helping people live meaningful lives without needing to control their thoughts or emotions.