I’ve followed intimacy coach Eleanor Hadley for years now, and one of my 2025 goals was to work with her one-on-one.  

Fresh from our coaching time together, I invited her to come on the show to pass on some of the biggest aha moments I had with her… and also to answer your burning questions on all things pleasure, intimacy and sex.

Eleanor is an award-winning certified sex educator, speaker and writer.  She offers 1:1 sexuality and embodiment coaching and practical sex education courses. 

She has also just released a new online program called Lust & Libido, which she is very generously offering my listeners a 20% discount for.  Go to eleanorhadley.com/libido and use code LORRAINE!

In our conversation, Eleanor and I cover:

• Her background and how she came to do the work she does
• What exactly an intimacy coach does!
• The most common blocks she sees women having when it comes to intimacy
• Her clever metaphor for how our beliefs around sex are formed
• The “Madonna Whore Dichotomy” and how it relates to mothers
• If it’s possible to regain the spark if it's gone from a relationship
• The importance of setting the right context for sex, and what the "checklist" is for that
• The concept of brakes and accelerators when it comes to desire
• Sex post baby - “how to give a f*ck about giving a f*ck” (exact words from a listener Q )
• The top toys she recommends 

A book Eleanor highly recommends is Come As You Are, by Emily Nagowski.