Traver Boehm is the leader of the Man Uncivilized Movement, the author of multiple books, and a huge advocate for men’s work. Traver leads by example, and in this episode, he joins me on the show for a second appearance to share the powerful story of his father’s passing. He shares the insights and lessons we can all take from his experience.

He also shares his story of spending 28 days in a “darkness retreat” where he saw no light for 28 days. The lessons of this powerful psychedelic experience shine through in striking detail as he takes us through what it was like to be in total darkness for a month.

In this conversation, we discuss:

• The recent death of Traver’s father, reflecting on father wounds, with a powerful story of healing in those last days.
• The role of men’s work and men’s groups in healing the father wound.
• Dark Room: Traver’s experience living in a room by himself in complete darkness for 28 days.
• The insights this gave him on death, freedom, and living fearlessly, hallucinations, grief processing, and lessons about time perception.
• Death and Freedom: How the acceptance of our mortality can influence our approach to life and goals. 
• Traver’s Upcoming book, “28 Days in Darkness,” releasing in February.

Links from this episode:

Man UNcivilized website

Traver’s Instagram

Book: 28 Days in Darkness

The Arka Brotherhood men’s work community