Dr. Kathleen Smith has a fascination with people-pleasing: why we do it, why it’s hard to shake, and how to actually break free from it. She is a licensed therapist, expert on relationship systems, and author of “Everything Isn’t Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down” as well as “True to You: A Therapist’s Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Starting Being Yourself.” She breaks down some practical tips for understanding the disease to please and why birth order has a lot to do with it! 

She also writes a newsletter called “The Anxious Overachiever” which you can subscribe to here:  https://theanxiousoverachiever.substack.com/