On this episode, we originally planned to share with you safeguards you can put in place to protect your marriage. But, as Ted says, that’s been done—a lot! So instead, we turn the topic on its head and discuss what you can do to ruin your marriage.

Listen in as we share four things you might be doing to hurt your relationship. You’ll hear why each of these is destructive and why we definitely don’t recommend doing them!

4 Ways You Can Ruin Your Marriage {We Don’t Recommend Them}
Have close friends of the opposite sex
Stop communicating and start burying issues
Focus on the negative
Stop connecting

Us Time Challenge

Focus on the positive in your spouse, and be sure to share with them what you see!

Resources Mentioned in This Episode
Loving Him Well: Practical Advice on Influencing Your Husband by Gary Thomas
“Break Free from Temptation” message from Chad Moore at Sun Valley Community Church (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fu9g-1yIaI&ab_channel=SunValleyCommunityChurch)

Team Us Resources
Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)
FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)

Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)
Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/ashleighslater_author/)
Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor)

On this episode, we originally planned to share with you safeguards you can put in place to protect your marriage. But, as Ted says, that’s been done—a lot! So instead, we turn the topic on its head and discuss what you can do to ruin your marriage.
Listen in as we share four things you might be doing to hurt your relationship. You’ll hear why each of these is destructive and why we definitely don’t recommend doing them!
4 Ways You Can Ruin Your Marriage {We Don’t Recommend Them}
<ol>
<li>Have close friends of the opposite sex</li>
<li>Stop communicating and start burying issues</li>
<li>Focus on the negative</li>
<li>Stop connecting</li>
</ol>
Us Time Challenge
Focus on the positive in your spouse, and be sure to share with them what you see!
Resources Mentioned in This Episode
<ul>
<li>Loving Him Well: Practical Advice on Influencing Your Husband by Gary Thomas</li>
<li>“Break Free from Temptation” message from Chad Moore at Sun Valley Community Church (<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fu9g-1yIaI&amp;ab_channel=SunValleyCommunityChurch">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fu9g-1yIaI&amp;ab_channel=SunValleyCommunityChurch</a>)</li>
</ul>
Team Us Resources
<ul>
<li>Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/</a>)</li>
<li>FREE Team Us Study Guide (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/</a>)</li>
</ul>
Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
<ul>
<li>Website (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/">https://ashleighslater.com/</a>)</li>
<li>Instagram (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/ashleighslater_author/">https://www.instagram.com/ashleighslater_author/</a>)</li>
<li>Facebook (<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor">https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor</a>)</li>
</ul>

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one.

Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years.

Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one. Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years. Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because...

Team Us

The best marriages have a teamwork mentality. Spouses serve each other, support each other, and celebrate each other. They tackle life together, and when one slips, the other gives grace. Husbands and wives can be vulnerable with each other because they know they rise and fall as one. Do you want a marriage like this? On each episode of the Team Us Podcast, married couple Ted and Ashleigh Slater come alongside you and your spouse as friends and mentors. They talk openly, honestly, and humorously about the betters and the worsts of their marriage, sharing how grace, commitment, cooperation, and lots of laughter have kept them united over the years. Whether you’re newly married and desire to build a strong foundation, or you’ve been married longer and your relationship needs a little TLC, you’ll gain practical, realistic ideas for strengthening your Team Us.

What You Can Do to Ruin Your Marriage

We all feel discouraged sometimes. But what about when our spouse feels beaten down or weary? On this episode, we share some practical ways you can encourage your discouraged spouse.

4 Ideas for Encouraging Your Discouraged Spouse
Speak your spouse’s love language
Become a “megaphone” of encouragement
Be patient with your spouse
See the “hero” in your spouse

Us Time Challenge

Ask your spouse what most encourages them when they’re discouraged.

Team Us Resources
Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)
FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)

Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)
Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/)
Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor)

We all feel discouraged sometimes. But what about when our spouse feels beaten down or weary? On this episode, we share some practical ways you can encourage your discouraged spouse.
<hr>
4 Ideas for Encouraging Your Discouraged Spouse
<ol>
<li>Speak your spouse’s love language</li>
<li>Become a “megaphone” of encouragement</li>
<li>Be patient with your spouse</li>
<li>See the “hero” in your spouse</li>
</ol>
<hr>
Us Time Challenge
 Ask your spouse what most encourages them when they’re discouraged.
<hr>
Team Us Resources
<ul>
<li>Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/</a>)</li>
<li>FREE Team Us Study Guide (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/</a>)</li>
</ul>
<hr>
Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
<ul>
<li>Website (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/">https://ashleighslater.com/</a>)</li>
<li>Instagram (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/">https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/</a>)</li>
<li>Facebook (<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor">https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor</a>)</li>
</ul>

How to Encourage Your Discouraged Spouse

Among married couples, sometimes there’s this belief that “an affair could never happen to us!” As a result, safeguards are often not set in place. In this episode, we share four strategies we use to safeguard our marriage from affairs. Perhaps they’ll also be helpful to you.

4 Strategies for Safeguarding Your Marriage from Affairs
Recognize you are not immune from temptation.
Choose your close friends or confidants wisely.
Follow Billy Graham’s example.
Reject keeping secrets.

Us Time Challenge

Sit down and talk through what safeguards you have in place. If you don’t have any, establish and agree on some.

Team Us Resources
Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)
FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)

Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)
Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/)
Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor

Among married couples, sometimes there’s this belief that “an affair could never happen to us!” As a result, safeguards are often not set in place. In this episode, we share four strategies we use to safeguard our marriage from affairs. Perhaps they’ll also be helpful to you.
<hr>
4 Strategies for Safeguarding Your Marriage from Affairs
<ul>
<li>Recognize you are not immune from temptation.</li>
<li>Choose your close friends or confidants wisely.</li>
<li>Follow Billy Graham’s example.</li>
<li>Reject keeping secrets.</li>
</ul>
<hr>
Us Time Challenge
Sit down and talk through what safeguards you have in place. If you don’t have any, establish and agree on some.
<hr>
Team Us Resources
<ul>
<li>Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/</a>)</li>
<li>FREE Team Us Study Guide (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)</a>   </li>
</ul>
<hr>
Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
<ul>
<li>Website (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/">https://ashleighslater.com/</a>)</li>
<li>Instagram (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/">https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/</a>)</li>
<li>Facebook (<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor">https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor</a></li>
</ul>

Strategies for Safeguarding Your Marriage from Affairs

Do you ever run out of things to talk about with your spouse? After almost twenty-two years of marriage, we do! In this episode, we share some fun conversation starters we found online and model for you how to use them to connect with your spouse.

Conversation Starters We Answer
If you could have any job, whether serious or silly, and money was not a factor, what would it be?
If time travel existed, when and where would you like to visit first?
Who are three famous people, dead or alive, you would want to have lunch with?
If you could only listen to two albums for the rest of your life, which ones would you choose, and why?
What do you think our biggest strength as a couple is? What about our biggest weakness?
What’s a "little thing" in our relationship that you really love?
If our life was a reality TV series, what do you think would be the most appropriate title?
What is one date we have not done you would like to do?

"Us Time" Challenge

Ask each other the conversation starters we used or find additional ones online.

Team Us Resources
Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/)
FREE Team Us Study Guide (https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/)

Links Mentioned in This Episode
“93 Meaningful Conversation Starters & Questions for Couples to Better Connect,” The Adventure Challenge, https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/blogs/news/conversation-starters-for-couples/
“260 Free Printable Conversation Starters for Couples,” WinShape Marriage, https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/conversation-starters-for-date-night/
Bedtime Prayers: Lullabies and Peaceful Worship by Twila Paris (https://amzn.to/4gf4aj5)

Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
Website (https://ashleighslater.com/)
Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/)
Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor)

Do you ever run out of things to talk about with your spouse? After almost twenty-two years of marriage, we do! In this episode, we share some fun conversation starters we found online and model for you how to use them to connect with your spouse.
Conversation Starters We Answer
<ul>
<li>If you could have any job, whether serious or silly, and money was not a factor, what would it be?</li>
<li>If time travel existed, when and where would you like to visit first?</li>
<li>Who are three famous people, dead or alive, you would want to have lunch with?</li>
<li>If you could only listen to two albums for the rest of your life, which ones would you choose, and why?</li>
<li>What do you think our biggest strength as a couple is? What about our biggest weakness?</li>
<li>What’s a "little thing" in our relationship that you really love?</li>
<li>If our life was a reality TV series, what do you think would be the most appropriate title?</li>
<li>What is one date we have not done you would like to do?</li>
</ul>
"Us Time" Challenge
Ask each other the conversation starters we used or find additional ones online.
Team Us Resources
<ul>
<li>Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/</a>)</li>
<li>FREE Team Us Study Guide (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/">https://ashleighslater.com/team-us/free-team-us-study-guide/</a>)</li>
</ul>
 Links Mentioned in This Episode
<ul>
<li>“93 Meaningful Conversation Starters &amp; Questions for Couples to Better Connect,” The Adventure Challenge, <a href="https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/blogs/news/conversation-starters-for-couples/">https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/blogs/news/conversation-starters-for-couples/</a></li>
<li>“260 Free Printable Conversation Starters for Couples,” WinShape Marriage, <a href="https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/conversation-starters-for-date-night/">https://marriage.winshape.org/resource/conversation-starters-for-date-night/</a></li>
<li>Bedtime Prayers: Lullabies and Peaceful Worship by Twila Paris (<a href="https://amzn.to/4gf4aj5">https://amzn.to/4gf4aj5</a>)</li>
</ul>
Connect with Ted and Ashleigh
<ul>
<li>Website (<a href="https://ashleighslater.com/">https://ashleighslater.com/</a>)</li>
<li>Instagram (<a href="https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/">https://www.instagram.com/teamuspodcast/</a>)</li>
<li>Facebook (<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor">https://www.facebook.com/ashleighslaterauthor</a>)</li>
</ul>

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