Feeling drained from always being the helper? In this episode of Talking High Performance with Bel, we explore the subtle yet powerful addiction of being needed, how it starts, why it feels so rewarding, and how it can quietly take over your life.

Discover:
Why your worth might be tied to what you do for others
How the cycle of helping, rescuing and giving can leave you exhausted and resentful
Practical steps to set boundaries, reclaim your energy, and reconnect with yourself

Whether you’re a parent, leader, or high performer, this episode will help you break free from the need to always be needed, without losing your caring nature.

Feeling drained from always being the helper? In this episode of&nbsp;Talking High Performance with Bel, we explore&nbsp;the subtle yet powerful addiction of being needed,&nbsp;how it starts, why it feels so rewarding, and how it can quietly take over your life.
Discover:
<ul>
<li>Why your worth might be tied to what you do for others</li>
<li>How the cycle of helping, rescuing and giving can leave you exhausted and resentful</li>
<li>Practical steps to set boundaries, reclaim your energy, and reconnect with yourself</li>
</ul>
Whether you&rsquo;re a parent, leader, or high performer, this episode will help you break free from the need to always be needed,&nbsp;without losing your caring nature.

Certified High Performance Coach and Motivational Speaker Belinda Colubriale will entertain and inspire you as she tackles topics that are holding you back from achieving real and sustainable results in your personal and business journey.

For nearly 20 years, she has supported individuals and teams to achieve their biggest goals while maintaining energy, clarity, health and purpose. Now she wants to share her learnings, so you too can feel like you are on top of the mountain instead of constantly climbing it.

From mindset and motivation to productivity and personal growth, she is here to help you lead yourself with confidence and elevate every area of your life and career.

Whether you're growing a business, stepping into leadership, navigating parenthood, or chasing a dream, this channel is for you.

Subscribe and join us each week as Bel chooses a topic that relates to your world and expertly dissects it so you can make a positive and direct change in your life.

Resources: 

Belinda Colubriale | Website 

Belinda Colubriale | Instagram

Belinda Colubriale  | Facebook

Belinda Colubriale | YouTube

Belinda Colubriale | Online Courses

 

Certified High Performance Coach and Motivational Speaker Belinda Colubriale will entertain and inspire you as she tackles topics that are holding you back from achieving real and sustainable results in your personal and&nbsp;business journey.
For nearly 20 years, she has supported individuals and teams to achieve their biggest goals while maintaining energy, clarity, health and purpose.&nbsp;Now she wants to share her learnings, so you too can feel like you are on top of the mountain instead of constantly climbing it.
From mindset and motivation to productivity and personal growth, she is here to help you lead yourself with confidence and elevate every area of your life and career.
Whether you're growing a business, stepping into leadership, navigating parenthood, or chasing a dream, this channel is for you.
Subscribe and join us each week as Bel chooses a topic that relates to your world and expertly dissects it so you can make a positive and direct change in your life.
Resources:&nbsp;
Belinda Colubriale | <a href="https://belindacolubriale.com.au/">Website&nbsp;</a>
Belinda Colubriale | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/bel_colubriale/">Instagram</a>
Belinda Colubriale&nbsp; | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/elevatewithbel">Facebook</a>
Belinda Colubriale |&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@BelindaColubriale">YouTube</a>
Belinda Colubriale | <a href="https://belindacolubriale.com.au/online-course-becoming-you">Online Courses</a>
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Ep 102 | The Addiction Nobody Talks About : Being Needed.

You have been taught that the answer is a better plan. A cleaner system, the right morning routine, the perfect diary, the framework that finally makes it click. So you research, you buy the notebook, and you start on Monday. Nobody tells you that planning has every sensation of doing something and none of the risk of getting it wrong.

This episode is about why a plan cannot fail on a Tuesday, why your first better action will not be your last one in a row, and why the skill that actually changes people is how fast they come back.

A plan gives you hope. An action gives you proof.

We do not count streaks. We count return time.

Missing once is human. Missing twice is where it quietly becomes the new normal.

Download The 7-Day Chilli Shift

00:00 Intro

00:15 Ten perfect plans, or one better action

00:55 Why planning feels like progress

01:30 A plan cannot fail on a Tuesday

01:55 Hope, or proof

02:35 Choosing well on Monday, autopilot by Thursday

03:05 We do not count streaks

03:25 Try not to miss twice

03:50 Return time

04:20 Writing the book with the best I had then

05:00 Why the seven days is only seven days

05:40 Permission to get it wrong, and to come back

06:00 The question to sit with

 Open now, free: the 7-Day Chilli Shift → [link]

Tags: one better action, never miss twice, why plans fail, consistency over motivation, return time, habit reset, high performance coaching, procrastination and perfectionism, small daily shifts, Belinda Colubriale, Talking High Performance, 7 Day Chilli Shift

<blockquote>
You have been taught that the answer is a better plan. A cleaner system, the right morning routine, the perfect diary, the framework that finally makes it click. So you research, you buy the notebook, and you start on Monday. Nobody tells you that planning has every sensation of doing something and none of the risk of getting it wrong.
This episode is about why a plan cannot fail on a Tuesday, why your first better action will not be your last one in a row, and why the skill that actually changes people is how fast they come back.
A plan gives you hope. An action gives you proof.
We do not count streaks. We count return time.
Missing once is human. Missing twice is where it quietly becomes the new normal.
Download <a href="https://pages.belindacolubriale.com.au/7-day-chilli-shift">The 7-Day Chilli Shift</a>
<hr>
00:00 Intro
00:15 Ten perfect plans, or one better action
00:55 Why planning feels like progress
01:30 A plan cannot fail on a Tuesday
01:55 Hope, or proof
02:35 Choosing well on Monday, autopilot by Thursday
03:05 We do not count streaks
03:25 Try not to miss twice
03:50 Return time
04:20 Writing the book with the best I had then
05:00 Why the seven days is only seven days
05:40 Permission to get it wrong, and to come back
06:00 The question to sit with
&nbsp;Open now, free: the 7-Day Chilli Shift &rarr; [link]
Tags:&nbsp;one better action, never miss twice, why plans fail, consistency over motivation, return time, habit reset, high performance coaching, procrastination and perfectionism, small daily shifts, Belinda Colubriale, Talking High Performance, 7 Day Chilli Shift
</blockquote>

Ep 107 | The Reset: One Better Action Beats Ten Perfect Plans

When you are stretched, you say it a hundred times a week without hearing it. I had to say yes. I had no choice. I have to do the pickup, the favour, the thing you dread. Most of the time it is not true. What you actually mean is the other option had a cost you did not want to pay.

This episode is about why "no choice" feels so comfortable, why it quietly hands the power to everyone else in your life, and what happens in your body the moment you swap the words to "I am choosing to."

No choice is comfortable. It is also a cage.

The heaviest part of most weeks is not the things you have to do. It is the things you are choosing to do while telling yourself you have to.

A choice you can see is a choice you can change.



 

00:00 Intro

00:20 "I had no choice"

01:05 The cost you did not want to pay

01:55 Why no choice feels safer

02:35 Being the reliable one, and what it protects

03:25 "I have to" as a shield

04:20 Swap it: "I am choosing to"

05:00 What you genuinely cannot choose

05:25 The door you never checked the handle on

05:55 Choosing is the step people skip

06:20 Ownership is not blame

06:45 The question to sit with

When you are stretched, you say it a hundred times a week without hearing it. I had to say yes. I had no choice. I have to do the pickup, the favour, the thing you dread. Most of the time it is not true. What you actually mean is the other option had a cost you did not want to pay.
This episode is about why "no choice" feels so comfortable, why it quietly hands the power to everyone else in your life, and what happens in your body the moment you swap the words to "I am choosing to."
No choice is comfortable. It is also a cage.
The heaviest part of most weeks is not the things you have to do. It is the things you are choosing to do while telling yourself you have to.
A choice you can see is a choice you can change. 
<hr>
&nbsp;
00:00 Intro
00:20 "I had no choice"
01:05 The cost you did not want to pay
01:55 Why no choice feels safer
02:35 Being the reliable one, and what it protects
03:25 "I have to" as a shield
04:20 Swap it: "I am choosing to"
05:00 What you genuinely cannot choose
05:25 The door you never checked the handle on
05:55 Choosing is the step people skip
06:20 Ownership is not blame
06:45 The question to sit with

Ep 106 | You Always Have a Choice. That's the Uncomfortable News

Say the word pause to a high performer and something tightens. They hear stopping. Falling behind. The pile of work getting higher while they sit there.

That is the wrong picture. The pause is not a stop. It is a half second, the gap between what happens and what you do next. It takes less time than reading a text.

Watch a tennis player between points. The pause is not a break in the performance. It is part of it.

You do not need a different life. You need more of you in the life you already have. And you cannot get more of you into anything if you are never in the room when the decision gets made.

00:00 Intro 

00:35 What tightens when I say "pause" 

01:20 The pause is not a stop 

02:08 What the tennis player knows 

03:10 Every point with the last one attached 

04:25 I built my weeks the wrong way 

05:40 Why the pause makes you faster 

06:00 What makes the pause hard 

06:49 Sitting in the gap 

07:40 One moment, one breath 

08:40 The question to sit with

Say the word pause to a high performer and something tightens. They hear stopping. Falling behind. The pile of work getting higher while they sit there.
That is the wrong picture. The pause is not a stop. It is a half second, the gap between what happens and what you do next. It takes less time than reading a text.
Watch a tennis player between points. The pause is not a break in the performance. It is part of it.
You do not need a different life. You need more of you in the life you already have. And you cannot get more of you into anything if you are never in the room when the decision gets made.
00:00 Intro&nbsp;
00:35 What tightens when I say "pause"&nbsp;
01:20 The pause is not a stop&nbsp;
02:08 What the tennis player knows&nbsp;
03:10 Every point with the last one attached&nbsp;
04:25 I built my weeks the wrong way&nbsp;
05:40 Why the pause makes you faster&nbsp;
06:00 What makes the pause hard&nbsp;
06:49 Sitting in the gap&nbsp;
07:40 One moment, one breath&nbsp;
08:40 The question to sit with

Ep 102 | The Addiction Nobody Talks About : Being Needed.

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