On this bestie advice segment... a listener writes in with something she's been holding onto for a long time. Every time things get intimate her mind goes somewhere she didn't expect, and the second it's over the guilt hits. She's dropped hints to her partner, but never said it properly out loud. Now she's heading overseas on her own and the temptation is real. How do you know if it's a genuine desire or just a passing thought? And how do you start that conversation without it costing you something good? We're getting into shame, curiosity, fantasy versus reality, and how to actually say the thing.